When most people think about BDSM, they’re imagining one very specific dynamic: a powerful male dominant with his beautiful female submissive. The truth, of course, is much more complicated than that; lots of women enjoy seizing control, lots of men crave relinquishing it, and a huge number of kinky people are queer or switches or both. In this video Blake takes a look at some of these dynamics, and how gendered assumptions can be damaging to the scene as a whole.