Black lives matter

Posted at 15:54 on 2 Jun 2020 by Pandora Blake in #blacklivesmatter, politics

We stand with those fighting for justice. We are muting all our channels this week, including new releases of content, except to amplify black voices, and to lend our voice to the chorus that Black Lives Matter.

Please follow, support, and donate to the people who are fighting for their right to life and help them dismantle the systemic oppression that we all still live in.

We must show our support, and we must unite to collectively demand that our police stop murdering people.

Here are some links that can help you to be a good ally during this time:

• Read about and donate to Black Lives Matter
• Read about and donate to Black Visions Collective
• Send a donation that will be split amongst 39 community bail funds
• Sign the petitions to demand that the officers who murdered George Floyd face murder charges – here and here.

In the mood for both pain and pleasure

Posted at 15:00 on 17 May 2020 by SephHazard in asked for, bare bottom, cane, consensual, high heels, masturbation, Pandora Blake, photogallery, POV, real life, solo-F

Pandora tells me that her latest photoset, Provoking a Caning, was shot by her real-life partner Felix, in the honeymoon phase of their early relationship. You can feel the erotic tension in these pictures. Pandora, in a sexy little black dress, is in the mood for both pain and pleasure. She poses provocatively, giving both Felix and the viewer a flash of her nipples, a glimpse of her arse and then plenty more. She knows what she wants, and she plans to get it.

Felix isn’t going to put up with the impudent teasing for long, though: soon the clear red stripes of an expertly-wielded cane start to appear on Pandora’s bum-cheeks. She’s shown bending over, with her hands on the sofa, dress rolled up and sporting a cute pair of fuck-me shoes. More cane welts appear as the set progresses, and soon Pandora is lying face down on the sofa, displaying her marks. While you never see the cane being wielded, it’s easy to imagine the impact, the swish, the thud and the sting, and Pandora’s aroused whimpers. A few face close-ups show the expression every affectionate, horny sadist loves to see on the face of a well-thrashed submissive.

Much of the joy in this set comes from what is not shown but can be imagined: the flirty dialogue between two people who are hot for one another and still enjoying the process of discovery; the progression from tease-and-please to lusty, urgent impact play… and then what might come afterwards. There’s something both arousing and endearing about getting a little glimpse into a private world which a couple are happy to share with us. It will warm your heart – and probably your parts as well.

Lockdown porn

Posted at 23:58 on 7 May 2020 by Pandora Blake in cane, cold caning, domestic, domestic discipline, film, hard punishment, Nimue Allen, POV, scolding, solo-F, strict

Here in the UK, the lockdown has changed all our lives profoundly - and as I’ve written about previously, shooting porn is no exception! 

Performer-produced porn is nothing new; many of us who work in the industry already have experience of planning, filming, editing and promoting our own shoots from start to finish. These skills have never been more essential than they are right now, at a time when co-stars and camera operators are out of the question unless they’re people we already happen to live with.

That’s why everything in this simple first-person-POV clip is Nimue Allen’s own work, and it’s part of a growing genre of ‘lockdown porn’ that I’m sure we’ll see more of in the coming weeks. The viewer is cast as a wayward sub who has selfishly chosen to share a drink with friends despite the risk, and femdom Nimue must take your punishment into her own capable hands.

We love performer-produced porn here at Dreams Of Spanking, because it’s the perfect embodiment of our values. The performer has total control over every aspect of the shoot, so consent is baked right in and we’re given the chance to play with new themes and ideas at our leisure. When producing my own porn, I’ve often found it gives me the chance to try things out I might not have an opportunity to in another context - and of course our fans reap the benefit of that experimentation! 

Nimue told me that she found shooting this scene to be “very therapeutic” - and I must say, I think being on the receiving end of the caning she describes would be pretty damn therapeutic too...

Pardon me, but my straight privilege is showing

Posted at 15:00 on 24 Apr 2020 by Violet in bare bottom, BDSM, bondage, choking, consensual, domestic, dominance|submission, explicit sex, film, flogger, FM|F, F|F, hand spanking, lesbian, oral sex, Pandora Blake, queer, real life, romantic, strap-on, trans

Author’s Note:
I’m going to do something I try to never do when I write: I’m going to preface this article. I wouldn’t usually, but the material is personal and incomplete and may seem a bit rambling and disconnected. However, I suspect that I’m not alone in the questions and conclusions that I’m mulling over, so please bear with me and hopefully there’s a kernel or two that resonates or contributes to a bigger conversation. 

When I set out to watch Fetish Fvckdolls 2 (which if you haven’t watched it, I’d encourage you to do so at your earliest convenience) I wasn't expecting it to be a big deal. I’ve blogged here before about how watching porn that’s “not your usual taste” or incongruent with your own desires is interesting and can be enlightening. I was pretty sure that a collaboration by queer and trans performers like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 would be just that: interesting, but not my cup of tea. 

Why? Well, I’m a straight-identifying, dominant-leaning cisgender woman who almost exclusively watches gay male chastity porn. Specific? Yup. And really kind of a world away from transfemme submission, which is the overarching  main theme running through the four vignettes in Fetish Fvckdolls 2. You can see then how I might have thought that my interest in the film would be purely academic. Interestingly, it was not.   

Now, I’m not here to say that this film changed me, nor should the incomplete epiphanies on sexuality that I’m sharing here be mistaken for me jumping on a bandwagon. Neither of those are true. What does feel true, is that I’m feeling really aware of my straight privilege after watching this film. 

If you’re a straight person and that term makes you uncomfortable … I feel you. But it should make you uncomfortable. Privilege is a pervasive and dangerous thing when not acknowledged. Honestly, how two-dimensional of me to discount a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 as something that couldn’t touch me, something that I wouldn’t be able to identify with! How ridiculous and heteronormative of me to presume that I wouldn’t relate to these scenes. If it was mainstream lesbian porn (you know, the kind performed by cis women for the straight male gaze) would I have been so dismissive? Probably not, because I’m a straight woman who has had sex with other straight women and I’m blisteringly aware of the weight of the male gaze. But I presumed that I wouldn’t relate, or be aroused, by this. 

Confused and intrigued, I discussed my bias with my husband, who has recently (or in his words: finally) self-identified as asexual. He watched part of Fetish Fvckdolls 2 with me and commented immediately that he hadn’t even noticed that the performers were trans until the fourth vignette because he was witnessing them as human beings, rather than sexual fantasies. I was surprised by that, because for me transfemme visibility is the point of the project. He asked what would make a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 more “my kind of porno”. I didn’t have an answer because I was processing that actually, this is my kind of porn.  

Confused? Me too. 

How could I think that gay male chastity porn is more relatable to me than porn that has trans women at the heart of it? Am I secretly kind of a bigot? But I know and love so many queer and trans people! Am I not as straight as I thought? Maybe, but that’s not the primary concern for me. The concern is that even though I think I know so much about sexuality, it turns out I don't know as much as I thought. 

Yes, yes, we like what we like. The heart/loins want what they want. But it’s becoming evident to me now that the shackles of straight privilege (ie: never having to consider your sexuality or have it challenged, because it’s the cultural default setting) are just that: shackles. 

What Fetish Fvckdolls 2 taught me about myself is that heteronormative thinking is limiting because the definitions are so static. “Straight” doesn’t leave much room for variety. Any “exploration” within straight sexuality is expected to be episodic, or at the most, a phase. So when, as a “straight” person, I watched this film, it was a bit dizzying to not see the performers as fantasy objects, and to relate to them on a human level. It revealed to me things I hadn't known before about how objectifying my gaze tends to be.

Fetish Fvckdolls 2 is radical and fresh. It puts trans women at the center of each encounter. Not only are they the subjects of their own experience, they are shown in willing and delighted submission. Not here the degrading porn tropes that cast trans women as exotic freaks with hard cocks, or strip them of autonomy - no, the trans women in Fetish Fvckdolls 2 are very clearly represented as the people they are. Full stop.

I learned that my erotic appetite, regardless of whom I choose to get frisky with, is essentially about the treatment and experience of the people involved, not the combination of bodies I see on the screen. I began to reflect on what turns me on and what turns me off in adult entertainment: it’s not the bodies at all. It’s the dynamics. I haven’t ignored trans porn in the past because it was trans. I've ignored it because when it’s badly done, it’s so likely to be dehumanising.

Fetish Fvckdolls 2 has been made with such smart and mindful intentions by everyone involved that the sexiness absolutely transcends all notions of genre and the limitations of what I thought I could be into. I  watched the film three times. It’s 90 minutes long. It took me almost 5 hours of watching this film and then more time processing the experience for me to begin to get my head around these personal biases and blindspots. 

What I have learned from Fetish Fvckdolls 2, what I’m so glad to begin to understand about myself, is that I like porn because I watching people fuck. Not just men, not just straight people, not just cishet couples. What I don’t like in porn is mindless and narrowly conceived narratives, and hegemonic control of my gaze. I’m not comfortable knowing that I have been a contributor to that mindlessness, a cog in the wheel of a cultural and artistic system that holds people back, misrepresents them and strips them of humanity, no matter how subtle the effect seems to be. 

Having realised that, I want to do better. I know that I won’t always get it right, but only good can come from growth and empathy. And besides, if nothing else, a whole new world of porn just opened up to me, so if you’ll forgive me, I have some catching up to do … 

Six of the best spanking photos of 2019

Posted at 12:22 on 21 Apr 2020 by Pandora Blake in Amelia Jane Rutherford, bare bottom, candid, cane, Charlie Forrest, firm hand spanking, Mike Pain, Molly Malone, over the knee, Pandora Blake, paternal, photos, Sarah Gregory, strict, tawse, welts

It’s all change at the moment: our lives are changing, this website is changing, everything’s on the move. I thought this might be a good time to have a quick glance back at last year - those halcyon days when we could still do weird exotic things like “go to the pub” and “have coffee with a mate” and “film in-person multi-performer spanking shoots” - for a nostalgic look at some of my personal highlights of 2019. This is entirely for that reason and not at all because I didn’t get round to it in January, of course.

#1: Even Teachers Make Mistakes

I may have been in this game a while now, but some of the real classics never grow old - and teacher/pupil is one of them. This take on the traditional school theme is an especial favourite of mine because it comes with a bit of a twist! I'm a bit proud of this still from the film. Mike’s aim is fantastic, and I love how clear and precise those six sharp stripes are.

#2: Behind The Scenes At ‘Mrs Smith’s Method’

We shot Mrs. Smith’s Method back in 2017, and it’s the most ambitious film we’ve ever made - I’m still extremely proud of it. Releasing this behind-the-scenes shoot last year made me proud too, though; of how much fun we all have on set, of the way we keep our ethics front and centre in the work we do and of the efforts we make to prioritise mutual care before, during and after. The combination of cheeky grins and a bare bum in this candid through-the-window snap is a little snapshot of that and it always makes me smile.

#3: In Big Trouble

We’re doing more filmed work than ever these days, but I still love putting together a gallery shoot. This one tells a story in a surprisingly moving way; there’s a lot of detail in every shot. My favourite is one that really has it all - you can see on our faces just what’s going through our minds, and this is a delightfully expressive photo.

#4: He Wouldn’t Spank Me

In this scene I played a disappointed sub whose promised weekend of naughtiness had ended in frustration - at least until I took matters into my own hands! Looking back on this was a lovely reminder of how much fun solo work can be, and also of how much I liked that characterisation; there was a coy, playful mischievousness to it that I think this photo sums up perfectly.

#5: Pandora’s Birthday Caning

For all I love playing characters, there’s something to be said for a scene that’s real - and this one was exactly that. Sarah and I had a great time making this, and getting to put out some content featuring me as myself is always a highlight for me. There’s a candid feeling to this photo; you can see that we’re both having such a great time we’ve half-forgotten the cameras are even there, and it’s a reminder that spanking is ultimately about fun and pleasure - as well as the roles we often take on around that.

#6: Carpe Posterium

We took a trip back in time for this Etonian-style scene. Much of my work features me at the femme-ier end of my range, so it was fantastic to embody something rather more masc in this shoot - plus, you know, silly Latin jokes. One of the great things about a tawse is the way your whole posterior lights up from it, and this photo is a lovely example of that!

Thank you to everyone who came through 2019 with us, and thank you again to all of you here for 2020 - and what a wild ride it’s turning out to be. We're not going anywhere - I mentioned in my previous post that I have plenty of shoots in the can for now, and we all love a bit of DIY solo action too - so we can keep the content coming right through the lockdown.

I love having a chat with viewers and site members, so please do leave a comment below - what were your favourite Dreams of Spanking updates from last year? And what are you looking forward to seeing more of in 2020 and beyond?

A bad, wicked stepmother

Posted at 09:00 on 14 Apr 2020 by Zak Jane Keir in anal eroticism, audio, bare bottom, belt, blackmail, British, denim, domestic, edgy, embarrassment, erotic, firm hand spanking, groping, humiliation, Pandora Blake, scolding, strict, wet spanking

In the current circumstances, audio stories are a good way to get a fix of naughtiness discreetly. Just put in some headphones and enjoy an intimate spanking fantasy, direct to your eardrums.

Bare That Bottom, Boy is an immersive little tale of domestic discipline and bare bottom spanking. And this fantasy is dirty. Pandora Blake plays a young and wicked stepmother to you, dear listener, in the role of a young man badly in need of discipline. Pandora slides from stern disciplinarian to teasing sensualist. Her "it's-for-your-own-good" strictness is spiced up with hints of tantalising, forbidden pleasures to come.

This story plays on the theme of erotic humiliation. Any subs with a taste for taboo naughtiness will find themselves squirming with anticipation.

As someone with a fondness for consensually mistreating cute young men, I personally found myself identifying more with Pandora than with her victim, but that made me enjoy it all the more. I could envisage myself participating in the ritualistic removal of skin-tight denim jeans, baring a pert, vulnerable pair of buttocks, all ready to be reddened by a good, hard spanking.

Fun though it is to relish the subtle touches which let you know there are naughty undercurrents to spankings and punishments, there are times when it’s even more fun to be explicitly filthy. The delightfully spiteful refinements Pandora proposes to include in this punishment gave me a few ideas to put into practice the next time I get someone cute and willing over my knee...

Changes

Posted at 09:46 on 7 Apr 2020 by Pandora Blake in behind the scenes, discount code, meta, site development, user experience

Hello friends. Well, the world looks very different to how it did a month ago. How are you coping with social isolation? Are you furloughed from your job, trying to scrape a living working from home while self-employed, or still having to go to work? If you're stuck at home, I hope you're finding meaningful ways to spend the time. If you're a key worker, thank you from all of us, and I hope your workplace is playing their part to help you stay safe. And if you're a parent suddenly finding yourself with no time and no privacy, you have all my empathy!

My partner and I are taking it in turns to do bursts of childcare while the other gets a little work done. Since all my in-person bookings were suddenly cancelled, I've found myself with more time to work on Dreams of Spanking. Since my time is so scarce, I've been gathering a team around me to help me improve the website and re-ignite the project. I've had a long wishlist of things I'd like to improve since before I had my baby, and it feels really good to be making them happen. Here's what we've been working on behind the scenes:

New signup flow

One of the things that makes Dreams of Spanking unique is its community emphasis. I really appreciate the collective of fans and members who "like" scenes and leave comments on scenes and blogposts. Thank you to each and every one of you! So to keep the community focus, it's always been important to me that you should be able to keep your username for the lifetime of the site. Other spanking sites have "disposable" usernames, which you create when you buy a membership, but lose when that membership expires. We do things differently. Once you've created your username, you can buy a membership - or not. It's up to you. After your membership expires, you can still login to your free account using the same username, watch the free previews, and leave comments on blogposts. And when you feel like joining again, you can use the same username to do so.

I've received loads of feedback about how much you appreciate this feature. But the downside was that it made the initial registration process a little slower. First you had to create a free account, and only after you were logged in could you buy a membership. So I decided to make it simpler.

Now, if you're not logged in, clicking any of our "Join" links will take you to a signup page with a single, simple form. You enter your desired username and password, and - hey presto! - with a single click, your user account is created and you're passed through straight away to the payment form. You'll be sent an email containing a confirmation link - this is so that someone else can't create an account with your email address without your consent. Once you've clicked that, you're logged in and your membership is active. Simples!

If you're already logged in to a free account when you view the Join page, you just see a payment button, and you can click straight through to the billing form.

I noticed that people often made typos in their email addresses when registering an account, meaning they didn't receive the confirmation email. So the new signup form also has some clever validation trickery to check whether or not the username you want is already taken, prompt you to type your password and email address twice, and make sure they match.

I'm hoping that this will reduce the friction in the signup process, and make it easier for you to get to the good stuff.

New affiliate scheme

Bloggers take note! We've relaunched our affiliate scheme, with heaps of brand new free promo content. If you have a platform where you can share links and pics, you can make a massive 50% commission on any signups you send our way. If you want to take part, fill in this form to get your unique affiliate ID and linkcode. I've just updated our affiliates area with sixteen new photo and video galleries, so there's loads of content for you to use in your posts. Note: this is a new affiliate scheme and our previous one is no longer active, so if you have partnered with us before, you'll need to sign up again and refresh your links.

New update schedule

I checked in last May - eight months pregnant! - to let you know you could expect a regular update schedule of a new scene every month, even while I was on parental leave. With a team of freelancers supporting me, we were able to keep the site updated while I gave family life my full attention. And we've stuck to that.

It's April now, eleven months later, and there have been eleven scenes published on the site since I made that post. Huzzah! Feels good to be back to a regular, predictable update schedule, doesn't it? So now, I'd like to do one better. We need a little fun and entertainment to lift our spirits during this difficult time in the world. So I'd like to raise my game and offer two new spanking scenes every month. One will always be a video - either a full spanking scene starring two or more performers or, more realistic in this era of social distancing perhaps, a sexy solo video. The other might be a kinky audio porn recording of a spanking story, a spanking photoset, or a bonus video. I've got 24 scenes in the can, so that'll keep us supplied for a year before I need to shoot again. And hopefully, we'll all be allowed back out to play long before then!

20% off discount

I know that this is a hard time for all of us - particularly self-employed folk and those who have lost their jobs as a result of the pandemic. So I'm offering 20% off all memberships until the end of April. Use promo code "LOCKDOWN" to claim your discount, and make self-isolation a little bit sweeter.

Dishing out discipline is so arousing

Posted at 18:41 on 4 Apr 2020 by Zak Jane Keir in bare bottom, domestic, film, Pandora Blake, playful, ruler, solo-F, stockings

There’s a lot to be said for switching: you get the best of both worlds and double the opportunities to play. In The Aroused Disciplinarian, we get to find out what happened after Pandora, as the strict mistress of a traditional (ish) upmarket household, took the nanny over her knee for a well-earned spanking.

In The Naughty Nanny, Pandora was all discipline and dignity, ticking Amelia Jane Rutherford off thoroughly while punishing her with a hand spanking, whacks with a wooden ruler and finally a leather belt. This time, she’s in a much more mischievous and sensual mood. She confides that dishing out discipline excites her - and, more to the point, makes her long to experience a good, hard whacking herself. Wriggling with a mix of frustration and anticipation, she plays with the ruler she so recently applied to the nanny’s bare bottom, explaining that it had been used on her in her younger days.

Before long she comes to the conclusion that, as no one’s going to spank her, she will simply have to spank herself. She starts over her knickers – a nice pair of sheer black classics - but pulls them down when she decides that the smacks aren’t hurting quite enough. But can she give herself the good thrashing on the bare she craves?

Luckily the wooden ruler is a good choice for self-publishment, and leaves some impressive and well-placed red marks. I was personally impressed with Pandora's ability to place the strokes accurately on her own bum.

Self-spanking can sometimes feel a bit silly, but this film shows how thoroughly effective it can be. Pandora is hungry for pain and horny with it, and she knows she can take care of her own needs while maintaining responsible social distancing!

This film will leave a lasting impression. Just like that ruler.

Waiting outside the Head's office

Posted at 11:02 on 29 Feb 2020 by Zak Jane Keir in cane, edgy, film, Pandora Blake, school, school uniform, solo-F

Our latest update Schoolgirl Scared of the Cane, is a lovely immersive, intimate little POV spanking film. Pandora, in school blouse and tie, addresses the viewer as a friend and confidante. She tells how she got caught with a bottle of vodka on a school trip and is now sitting outside the Head’s office, waiting to find out what her punishment will be.

We see her going through a range of moods: from outrage that she is the one to suffer when it was someone else who brought the booze in the first place, to terror over how many strokes she might get and how much it will hurt, to embarrassment at the idea of having to raise her skirt so the Head sees her knickers, to finally begging the viewer to look after her once the caning is over.

It’s almost all filmed in tight close-up, which adds to the intensity: the camera only seems to pull back once, when Pandora picks up a cane and flexes it nervously. Though it’s a prolonged tease rather than explicit spanking action, this video will set your imagination racing. Pandora talks about Adam, the boy who was the actual rule-breaker in the first place: is it fair that he should get away scot-free? She wonders whether telling tales on him would count in her favour, but seems to decide against it in the hope that taking a caning in his place will make him like her better. The background school romance adds a nicely bittersweet erotic charge to things.

I have immense admiration for Pandora’s acting skills in this solo POV schoolgirl film: she displays convincing fear and shame, yet somehow never quite loses that touch of wicked glee when she describes the pain of getting six of the best, or the welts that were left on a school friend’s bottom when they got a caning for bunking off lessons. I know for myself that screen improvisation is no mean feat. I made a right arse of myself, years ago, doing a bit of femdom improv for an audio site – I was having to make the whole thing up on the spot and my co-star, being a human puppy, had no help to offer other than the occasional ‘Woof’. I absolutely take my hat off to Pandora for this star performance.

An ode to the wooden brush

Posted at 11:31 on 8 Feb 2020 by Pandora Blake in bare bottom. denim, clothes brush, domestic, hard punishment, Pandora Blake, photogallery, solo-F

The wooden brush always gives me shivers. It looks so innocuous sitting there on the night stand, but I know from first-hand experience how much it stings. I remember wooden hairbrush punishments from when I was younger, held firmly over Sir's lap on the edge of the bed, howling. The pain seemed unbearable, but afterwards, remembering it turned me on.

This one is a clothes brush. It’s heavy. When you pick it up in your hand you can feel the weight. Being spanked with this brush combines the unique sensations of heavy thud and blazing sting. It packs a serious punch. But however much it hurts, the way it feels is undeniably erotic.

Bending over, offering my bottom to this brush, I feel little and helpless. The silky wood caresses my skin in preparation for a stroke. I squirm. When it lands the weight of it sends vibrations deep into my muscles, even as the smooth wood feels like it’s setting my skin on fire.

In this fantasy I’m ordered to bend over in the middle of the room. My disciplinarian likes me in skimpy clothes, so I’m wearing my shortest denim shorts. The flesh on my bare thighs prickles with fear as I imagine the brush landing there, imprinting dark pink ovals of pain on the backs of my legs. My toes are pointed, displaying my legs and bare feet to best advantage. I’m ordered to spread my legs, pulling the denim even tighter over the mounds of my bottom, the seam tugging between my buttocks.

Over denim, the brush feels almost sensual. But I know that as soon as my shorts come down the sting will be much worse.

Fearfully, I step out of the shorts, and bend back over. My lacy panties don’t offer much protection. As my bottom pinkens under the brush, I can’t help reaching back and giving my bum cheeks a squeeze.

Finally, my knickers are yanked down for a final six crisp smacks on the bare. Then I have to stand nose to the wall to let it sink in. I can’t resist reaching back to massage my sore behind – but of course, I’m not allowed to get away with that. I have to place my hands on my head.

As I stand facing the wall, I’m meant to be thinking about the punishment I’m received and how I’m going to change my behaviour in future. But as heat radiates out from my spanked bottom, I’m secretly squeezing my thighs together, enjoying how turned on I am.