Memories of the Strap

This week Pandora is telling the story of Pamela, who grew up an only child in the 1950s. One afternoon she’d been playing a game with a visiting friend when one of her mother’s ornaments was knocked off a shelf and broke, catching the attention of her formidable mother – and her mother’s leather strap.

Of course, this wasn’t the only time Pamela was spanked by her mother – and nor was hers the only family in which these punishments were used. She finds, in hindsight, that these stories raise in her a flicker of excitement, and wonders if they had the same effect on some of her peers.

This film is both a hot spanking story and an exploration of how childhood experiences that were at the time distressing can, in adulthood, evolve into something else: an exciting memory, perhaps even a desire.

We aren’t eroticising violent parenting or abuse of children. At Dreams of Spanking we passionately believe that spanking is a sexual activity that is only acceptable between consenting adults, and we are firmly against corporal punishment in any other context. Spanking children is child abuse.

Unfortunately too many of us have violent or traumatic experiences in our past, and it’s normal for strong emotions – including our memories of fear, shame and anger – to find expression in our adult eroticism. These feelings can be arousal amplifiers in the right context, and fantasy can be an opportunity for us to feel our feelings and release them, rather than bottling them up. Our fantasies are a safe place to process intense emotions and difficult memories, and many people find this helpful, and even healing. This in no way condones the non-consensual or violent events that provoked those feelings in the first place, or makes it OK for anyone to mistreat a child or violate another’s consent.

I’m in the last stages of writing a book about this exact topic, so if this is interesting to you, head over to my Patreon to read excerpts and snippets, including full chapters at tier Co-Author and above, or you can join our newsletter to get word when it’s available!