Yes - two of my favourite things in the whole world :)

It's comments like this that let me know I'm doing it right. Gender egalitarian porn by definition means that you aren't the only audience - I have scenes aimed to appeal to queer people and straight women too :)

Dreams of Spanking is proud to be one of the few places on the internet that people OTHER than straight men can find porn for them. It is not all for you, and that is why we are different.

How do you imagine women, queer people and others with different tastes feel looking at 95% of porn on the internet and feeling as turned off by it as you do right now?

When 95% of porn is for you, you are being screamingly entitled to start complaining that not 100% of it is for you. Pipe down, and let us have SOME for ourselves. Please. Also, while you're at it, go and read this post by Girl on the Net, because it explains it better than I can.

I'm under no illusion that my pansexual, body-positive aesthetic is in the minority. I know that sexist heteronormative beauty fascism is much more mainstream, and occupies the majority. But I think that for a lot of people who buy into this idea - that women are "just naturally" better to look at than men; that they "just happen" to find slender, youthful, athletic, smooth-skinned, white, able-bodied, cisgender bodies more arousing than others - are just passively receiving messages from society. We are all socialised within certain cultural norms and unless something happens to break us out of our programming, it's no fault of ours that we've been taught such a limiting way of thinking.

Humans are herd animals. Being different from what you have been taught is healthy or normal is difficult. The more of us stand up for diversity, inclusivity and body positivity beyond the heteronormative, white supremacist, cisnormative, ableist standard, the easier it will be for others who have been brought up to follow the mainstream to accept that maybe, they like something a little bit different, too.