During the Cocktail Party

A flash of temper earns a stressed party hostess an on-the-spot punishment from her top. 24 humiliating swats with the heavy wooden spoon – and the guests can hear each and every one.

This is one of those difficult fantasies.

Imagine this: you’ve had a long day. You’re stressed, overwhelmed, feeling hard done by and irritable. There is too much to do and why is it always you that has to think about these things anyway? Perhaps people have been helping, doing the other jobs not on your radar, but no-one has been helping enough. When they do offer, you can’t stop yourself. You snap at them.

This isn’t a scene about being spanked for not doing the washing up, or for not working hard enough. For this fantasy to work, I have to be in the wrong: my criticism of my top can’t be justified. If he genuinely had left all the work to me, then perhaps sarcasm wouldn’t be the right way to discuss it, but I don’t think a spanking would be the right way to redress the balance.

In this scene, in my head, I am being childish and obnoxious, putting too much pressure on myself, feeling grumpy and martyred. In that mood, lashing out at those close to me, at those trying to help, is a horrible thing to do. And in that situation, knowing you’re in the wrong, a swift spanking from someone who loves you can be the quickest way to kill the bad mood and feel at peace again.

I find the idea of an on-the-spot punishment for bad behaviour within a consensual discipline relationship very hot. Justice immediately meted out: no time to argue, no waiting, just dealing with it right there and then before it continues any longer.  But these two points are key: firstly, that the bottom has genuinely crossed a line and knows it; and secondly, that they consented to the discipline arrangement in the first place.

Of course, that doesn’t mean that receiving such a punishment would be pleasant. It’s never nice to be told you’re in the wrong.

I think that this fantasy would work just as well with the genders reversed. For me, the hottest parts are Tom’s calmness, the inescapability of punishment, and the humiliation of knowing that the guests can hear every minute of it.

To read more about my take on spanking as discipline, click here.