It’s easy to think of someone being spanked as being in a passive position, while the person doing the spanking is the one taking the active role. In reality, it’s not always like that at all – and what Blake calls ‘active bottoming’ can do a lot to enhance the kinky experience for both parties! Learning how to take a spanking well isn’t about ignoring your pain threshold or becoming the mythical “perfect submissive”; it’s a way of leaning in to your body instead of fighting it, and teaching yourself how to savour every breathtaking moment.
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