A good spanking is a skill - for spanker and spankee both. Your intention, your technique and your negotiations with each other as play partners all make a huge difference to the overall experience for both parties, but how can you navigate that in a way that creates the session you’re both looking for?
Our performers have learned a lot about this over the years, but in many of our films their tricks are almost invisible. This week we’re taking you behind the scenes to show you some of what’s really happening when we create our fantasies: how to position someone over your lap, how to cup or flatten your hand to give a variety of sensations, how to discuss a spanking in advance and make sure you’re both on the same page.
At the same time, our Hand Spanking Demo shows a beautiful connection between the performers starring in it. Molly’s clearly very much enjoying her role as demonstration bottom here - she’s been waiting a while for this spanking from Zoe, and Zoe certainly doesn’t disappoint.
There’s a lot to learn from this film - and even if you’re an old hand yourself, we’re sure you’ll enjoy the chance to watch two gorgeous spanking pros enjoying each other’s tips, tricks and company. Not to mention Molly’s beautiful bottom!
Kink education has always been a big part of what we’re trying to do here. Dreams of Spanking is a porn studio, but it’s also a community: a place where spanking fans can find out what they like, what they want to try next and how to go about doing it in a way that’s fun and safe for everyone involved.
We got some great films out of our day shooting with Stephen, Kelley and Becci. By the end of the afternoon they’d been to school, undertaken a severe workplace discipline session and given Kelley a fantastic birthday surprise, and that wasn’t even all of it! Once the stories had been told, Becci found themselves with a beautifully warmed-up bottom - and, well, it seems a shame to waste it...
If you’d like to learn more about the mechanics of spanking, Show & Tell is a great place to start. All three performers bring some lessons of their own to the table, from Kelley’s tips on spanking stances to Becci’s description of how a sjambok is used. Of course, the film isn’t only educational; you’ll also get to see Becci stretched beautifully out across a spanking bench, gasping and squirming as Stephen and Kelley demonstrate some techniques.
Perhaps the most exciting thing of all about this film is the sjambok. It’s a favourite implement of Becci’s, and one of the first they were ever beaten with - but neither Kelley nor Stephen had used one before this was filmed. We’ve never featured one on the site before, so it’s been a new experience all round!
Slave fantasies are pretty common, and for obvious reasons they often come along with a heavy non-consent vibe. We love to take our opportunities to reinforce the agency of the submissive in a BDSM encounter, though - and finally living out a deeply-held, intensely personal sexual fantasy on your own terms can be an incredibly empowering experience.
Despite her cheekiness, Blake’s character in What did your last slave die of? hasn’t actually been daydreaming about playing the brat. She knows what her housemate does for a living, and she wants to learn more: what would it be like to serve someone, just for an hour or two? How would it feel to be on the receiving end of the slender, whippy canes she sees Lorraine wipe down and tidy away every Sunday afternoon?
There’s something deeply sexy about the idea of someone finally getting to try out things they’ve fantasised about under drawn covers and behind closed doors. The only thing hotter, in fact, is the smirk on Lorraine’s face as she makes excellent use of her new footstool - and the well-timed strikes with a riding crop to keep her newest slave in line.
A BDSM scene can be a great many things. Sometimes it’s a bubble of fantasy, a roleplayed world in which the participants get to be lifted entirely out of their own minds. Other times it’s a microcosm of a particular relationship, a particular dynamic - an exploration of the connection between two people that belongs only to them.
In Conscious Kink, it’s something else again. For Seani and Ron this was a new experience; neither of them had performed on camera before. The scene they created together was a collaborative, almost sacred space, with every inch carefully negotiated between themselves.
This film is a deep dive into that space, and into the connection it developed between the people inside it. We get to go on the journey with them - from their first discussions about what they might use their play together for, through to the beginnings of their aftercare as they decide it’s time to wrap up.
It’s a totally different look at kink and BDSM than many of our films here. It’s a very raw, real experience: you can really feel your way through Ron’s shivers under the impact of the blows he asks for. It also gives the viewer a chance to learn a little something about how to play with conscious kink - and how to create deep, mindful BDSM experiences of their own.
We all figure out our predilections in our own ways. For some of us, it was something we watched or read as a child that woke up a part of our mind to possibilities untold; for others it was a person we met later on, someone who saw something in us we hadn’t fully understood about ourselves. For the two young ladies trapped together in this week’s release, it was an idle play at first - then a mutual recklessness, a delicious sense of being in a fantasy land away from the strictures they were raised to think unbreakable.
It begins so innocently. A game of cards; an exchange of dares. A revelation - Lana has thrown off her petticoats, taken her quarantine as an opportunity to experiment with something a little more daring. Pandora is more cautious at first - whatever will the landlady think? - but it’s not long before they’re both topless and skirtless, stripped to their stockings, admiring each other’s exposed breasts with a newfound, blushing desire.
This is not a story from our own quarantines of recent years, but still it feels familiar to us as this latest pandemic drags ever on. I’m certain there are people out there who explored new horizons during our lockdowns, too: who were spanked for the first time, learned an entirely new side of themselves, discovered the true depths of a friendship hitherto platonic.
I hope they had as much fun as these two, giggling and thrilling as they tie each other’s wrists and take a hairbrush to each other’s backsides.
It’s very hard to get a spanking completely even. If your implement has any kind of flexibility to it - which many do, including most lighter canes - it’s going to connect differently on different parts of the skin, emphasised by the fact that bottoms have beautiful curves and aren’t a flat surface. Floggers and straps are often thuddier toward the base and stingier at the tip, which gives a gorgeous mix of sensations and can make the experience all the more powerful.
Sometimes, though, that’s not quite what you’re looking for. Even after the very best spankings you can be left with a lopsided feeling - from the way your implement of choice wraps around, from the precise angle your top was striking from, from the side they’re standing on while they spank you. You can switch sides, of course, which leaves your glow a little more even, but it’s never exactly the same.
The ultimate solution to this “problem” (and it’s a great problem to have!) is to get yourself two tops and two toys, one on each side, taking it in turns to beat you as evenly as possible. The result is a gorgeous rain of sensation, and - if this week’s release is anything to go by - a lot of good giggling fun.
Spread for the Strap was filmed at the end of a day-long shoot, and it’s one of our more beautifully candid films. Nobody is following a script or playing a part, and you can tell how much the performers enjoyed the chance to wind down together once the more intense parts of the day were over. By the end, Pandora’s bottom is glowing a bright, beautiful red - and the whole cast are left smiling and laughing after a hard day’s work.
After two years of communicating in a more online way than ever before, many of us have seen sides of other people’s lives that we never thought we would. We’ve met our colleagues' cats, seen our therapists' kitchens and had late-night conversations in our friends' bedrooms - and learned all kinds of things about them as a result.
My Lesbian Goth Girlfriend joins a whole new genre of ‘video chat fiction’ inspired by the ways we’ve communicated with each other throughout the pandemic. Emma’s playing the part of an inexperienced spankee in a new relationship, blushing and giggling over Zoom as she fills her best friend in on all the salacious details. Of course, when Pandora overhears their chat she’s struck by a singularly revealing notion - and we get to peep in through the webcam while she carries it out.
The end result is a very red bottom and a friendship taken to a whole new level by a quick catchup video call. And as an added bonus, both of our performers really do look great in those outfits - and Emma’s resoundingly through hairbrush spanking must have been sore for hours after the shoot was over!
Kinky people talk about headspaces a lot. It’s the word we’ve come to use to describe someone’s frame of mind as they play: are you taking a sadistic pleasure in your partner’s kicks and gasps, or trying to coax them into a state of genuine euphoria? Are you offering up control to a dominant presence you’re aching to serve, or do you want them to take it from you in a battle of wills? There are as many headspaces as there are fantasies, of course, and every set of play partners has its own dynamic.
One of the core truths of healthy, consensual BDSM is that the exchange of power is more complex than it seems at first glance. Ostensibly one party is in control and the other has surrendered it - but in truth the experience is collaborative, and the submissive partner is usually the real centre of a scene. The deeper into your headspaces you are, the more real your fantastical scenario becomes.
Becci’s character in this week’s film is a perfect example of that collaborative creation of a dynamic and a space. The whole surprise was their idea: they suggested to Stephen that he bring them into date night as a present for his partner, and throughout they're clearly very into the story the three of them are telling. They've chosen a state of mind in which they deeply wants to please them both, and the submission they're exploring is of the eager, adoring sort.
In real-life play that’s one of my favourite headspaces to be in, so it’s exciting to see it depicted on camera. Kelley and Stephen - who are an offscreen couple as well as frequent co-stars - nurture it beautifully, strict and sensuous by turns with a wicked gleam in their eyes at their more sadistic moments. And Becci - who is the true centre of attention here - has been an excellent surprise for them both.
This week’s offering is a little more sexually explicit than many of our films, and it’s all the truer for it. We love to explore fantasies and fictions here - the name of the site is Dreams of Spanking, after all! - but one of the hottest things about this release is how realistic it is: this is a real scene between two real people, exploring their bodies and their desires together as any two kinksters on a BDSM playdate might. I particularly loved the way the two of them talk to each other as they play; Sarah’s tone as she tells Blake just what a slut they are is deeply compelling, and there’s a gorgeously aroused edge to Blake’s response as they squirm in their ropes.
The very horniest thing of all, though, is the stunning crescendo at the end of the film. You can really feel the intensity of Blake’s orgasm, and frankly it’s a pretty impressive feat - the timing is impeccable, and I certainly don’t have that level of control!
This isn’t a fantastical scenario in the way many of our films are. There’s no costuming or backstory, and our performers are playing themselves. It’s more like a slice of life scene - if your life was incredibly filthy and meltingly hot.
One can but hope...
A lot of our work is focused on hot, heavy fantasies: reluctant bottoms taking a harsh punishment, hardy brats weathering severe beatings. We love to explore the endurance and resilience of spankees, and many of the scenarios we depict are about anticipation and nervousness and fear.
Sometimes, though, spanking play isn’t like that. Spanking-as-sensation is an important part of the kink: a chance to really dig into the way things feel, to explore what we can take and what makes us feel the best. It’s a fantastic way for play partners to connect with each other, and for both tops and bottoms to communicate well and learn how the other person works.
In this week’s newly-released scene, David and Pandora aren’t really playing characters or depicting a specific fantastical scenario. This is more like a real-life spanking, showing two people who want to explore a beating for the sheer pleasure of it - and, when it’s done this well, what a pleasure it can be.