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Brides, bubbles and wooden brushes

We've had three domestic female spankee punishment scenes over the last couple of weeks, featuring some very sexy performers and classic spanking photography.

I'm extremely fond of Molly Malone and Nimue Allen's switch scene Bridezilla. Both ladies look stunning, including Molly in white lacy bridal lingerie, and the acting is just superb. But don't take my word for it, watch the trailer for yourself:

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Bridezilla

Molly is stressed out on her special day, and making life miserable for her long-suffering maid of honour. She even insists on punishing Nimue with a leather strap for imagined wrongdoings, which Nimue goes along with in hopes it will soothe Molly's temper and they'll be able to get on with the day.

Bridal punishments at Dreams of Spanking Bridal punishments at Dreams of Spanking

Even after dishing out twenty-four hard strokes, however, Molly is still in a strop, and so Nimue turns the tables and gives the pouting bride some much needed discipline. A spanking and caning will leave Molly feeling calmer, and perhaps a sore bottom under her dress will help her behave a little more reasonably for the rest of the day!

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Bridal punishments at Dreams of Spanking Bridal punishments at Dreams of Spanking

Molly is getting married for real in August, and I hope she has a much happier day than her character in this film! I suspect she won't be anywhere near as stressed out, but she has mentioned that it might be a good idea to have Nimue along, just in case...

Last Wednesday we uploaded Bath Bubbles, a timeless spanking photoset starring the lusciously curvy Mila Kohl nude in the bathtub, covered in bubbles and being spanked by Paul Kennedy of Northern Spanking. I took the photos in this gallery, and was aiming to create some classic spanking images showing off Mila's beautiful body to best advantage. Admittedly, it isn't hard to make Mila look good:

Mila Kohl spanked in the bath at Dreams of Spanking Mila Kohl spanked in the bath at Dreams of Spanking
Mila Kohl spanked in the bath at Dreams of Spanking Mila Kohl spanked in the bath at Dreams of Spanking

Bath Bubbles

Paul comes in while Mila is relaxing in a bubble bath, and the naughty girl can't resist the urge to blow foam at him, earning herself an on-the-spot spanking on her wet bottom.

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Finally, our latest video is an adorable age play scene starring myself and Alex Reynolds (who is wearing the cutest pink bunny romper ever) getting spanked by Thomas Cameron's hand and wooden hairbrush. Here's the trailer:

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Sofa Fort

 

Alex and Pandora are having a lovely time in their sofa fort. It's the best fort ever! They camp out inside it in their pyjamas and bunny rompers and play with all the stuffed animals. Alex shows Pandora the red marks from her latest spanking, and Pandora decides Alex deserves extra spanks for hitting her with her heavy lavender-filled bear.

Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking

But the giggly girls' fun and frolics are interrupted when Tom appears, and wants to know why the hell they've rearranged the lounge when he's expecting business guests for dinner this evening. Alex and Pandora are very sorry for forgetting, but they're about to be even sorrier. Tom hauls them out of the safety of the fort and bends them over one by one to be spanked. By the time his heavy hand and stingy wooden hairbrush have done their work, both girls are sobbing, begging and sorry. Slowly Alex and Pandora learn that no matter how cute they are, it won't save them from spankings.

Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking

This is an adorable domestic discipline video for fans of age play, cuteness and painful wooden hairbrush punishments. Keep watching to the end for the super-cute alternate ending!

Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking

Editing this video made me squee a lot, but it was also kind of embarrassing because oh my god, I did not take that hairbrush with anything approaching grace or dignity. Alex, who is somewhat tougher than me, especially when it comes to wood, hollers a lot but basically stays still and submits to her spanking. I do not. I squirm and yell and move out of position and am basically a total wuss.

I hope that my total lack of fortitude is, at least, hot to those of you who like to know a spanking really hurt (and my word, this one REALLY did), but having watched my sorry performance I feel motivated to film another wooden hairbrush spanking, and aim to take it more submissively. I'm thinking an over the knee position, with my bottom high in the air over Tom's lap, possibly one of his thighs trapping mine in place. A really immersive scene with lots of anticipation to give me a chance to psych myself up for it properly; either a romantic dominance/submission scene or a roleplay in which my character has done something really bad, and genuinely deserves it.

Wooden hairbrushes are a huge part of my kink, and I fantasise about them all the time, quite possibly because they are so evil and difficult to take in reality. Being my own worst sadist, this is more than enough reason for me write myself lots of wooden hairbrush spankings. If you have any particular requests let me know, because I am determined to do this again, and hopefully take it a little better next time.

Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking Alex Reynolds and Pandora Blake spanked for building a sofa fort, at Dreams of Spanking

Domestic goddesses

This week our theme is domestic goddesses - especially sexy, submissive, apron-clad ones. So put your feet up, relax, and let a well-spanked beauty bring you service with a smile...

First we have Molly Malone, who has been baking all day like a good little housewife. Now all her cupcakes need is 15 minutes in the oven: just long enough for Pandora to undress Molly down to her vintage lingerie and give her a hard hand spanking.

Once Molly's bare bottom is nice and pink, there's still time for twelve good swats with the wooden baking spoon.

Finally the cupcakes are ready, and Molly's round buns are also roasted to perfection. She ties the apron over her stockings and suspenders; Pandora won't let her have her clothes back until the cupcakes are iced. Until then, Molly is left to decorate the cupcakes with her bare red spanked bottom on display.

Cupcakes is a playful domestic F/F roleplay with a charmingly retro flavour. Yum yum yum!


But of course, not only ladies can be sexy domestic femmes! In our accompanying bonus gallery, playfully called Cheesecake!, we have Michael Darling wearing only a candy-coloured apron and a smile. He shows off his recently spanked bottom and strikes some classic pin-up poses.

It was the end of a busy day shooting domestic F/M scenes with Michael and Nimue, but somehow after the final scripted scene (which will be going up on the site next week, so you can see how Michael obtained these cane stripes) we all had some energy and enthusiasm left.

Michael's bottom was so beautifully welted that we decided to show it off in one final set of photos. He had brought a pink and blue apron which we hadn't got to use yet, and we came up with the idea of a gender-bending, naked-butler-meets-submissive-housewife scene, with Michael wearing only the apron and showing his marks while he pours the wine.



I couldn't resist the opportunity to twin this scene with Cupcakes starring Molly Malone. Playing at being a retro housewife can be hot for subby types of any gender - why let women have all the fun?

And yes, it's possible I may have a teensy kink for the image of a spanked bottom showing through the back of an apron.

Consensual domestic strapping

This is Tom standing in for Pandora while she's away making pretty films. This week we published the sequel to Contest of Arms, featuring Molly Malone and Pandora Blake in a consensual domestic F/F scene.

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Roll of Shame

After being goaded by her housemate into a weights contest, Molly goes to the gym. She comes home feeling bad, and confesses she tried to lift too heavy a weight and had to do a "roll of shame". Pandora insists that Molly needs a spanking to teach her not to overreach herself.

Molly bends over for ten hard strokes of the long leather strap... after which she insists that to balance it up, Pandora needs to give her another ten from the other side! Perhaps she's enjoying her punishment too much to really learn anything. A fresh, funny spanking film starring two genuine enthusiasts.

These lovely ladies made a semi-serious plot into a very engaging, light-hearted film which couches its more serious context in a relaxed and happy domestic context. The housemates continue their unique blend of rivalry and mutual encouragement throughout Molly's correction.

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A lot of fun was had by all! This film is bound to appeal to fans of fitness, humour, girls in short shorts and sound, consensual strappings.

Roll of Shame at Dreams of Spanking, starring Molly Malone and Pandora Blake
Roll of Shame at Dreams of Spanking, starring Molly Malone and Pandora Blake Roll of Shame at Dreams of Spanking, starring Molly Malone and Pandora Blake

Pencil skirts and school punishments

This last week I have:

  • worked three days at my latest office contract
  • unpacked my new flat and hosted a small flatwarming
  • done all sorts of housemove admin like ordering broadband and changing energy supplier
  • sworn a lot at the flaky mobile broadband dongle which is currently my only connection to the outside world
  • shot with Spanking Sarah
  • planned Dreams of Spanking shoots with Caroline Grey and Ten Amorette
  • alternated 3 hours and 7 hours sleep a night 
  • ... and got all my products ready for Dreams of Spankings' first vendor's stall at the World Spain Spanking Party this weekend. Well, nearly.

It's this last item that has occupied most of my attention, and been the reason I've worked full days in the office twice on 3 hours sleep or less. The only reason I've coped at all is how beautiful and happy-making my new flat is - finally, my own place, with high ceilings and enough space for my possessions and a beautiful garden, and most importantly no horrible flatmates! - and how energising work is.

Creating the items to sell in Spain has been particularly affirming. I'm deeply attached to and invested in this website, and launching the member's site last December was exciting enough. Each time I upload a new scene I feel a little jolt of creative satisfaction. But there's something uniquely special about turning all my digital endeavours into real, physical products you can hold in your hand, and it's extremely satisfying.

Meanwhile, here are some previews from the latest Dreams of Spanking updates. Firstly, I bend over and show off my curves in Pencil Skirt:

This gallery has proved an unexpected springboard for discussion... it seems lots of you have something to say about the sight of me bending over in a tight pencil skirt!

Actually I always feel a bit unsure about posting photo galleries that don't feature any actual spanking, but based on how popular this gallery seems to be, perhaps teasing photos are more welcome than I think. This set has generated several requests for a video which does include actual spanking, so there's more to come for skirt fans.

All three of cane, wooden paddle and wooden clothes brush have been requested, so let me know if you have a preference. It might end up being three different videos, unless I can find out a way of creating choose-your-own-adventure spanking videos... but I think that's a project for another time!

These photos were taken with the role of a spankee secretary in mind, and that's how most viewers have responded - they do include an awful lot of bending over, after all. But I think my new found toppy energy is bubbling to the surface in some of them. The result is a bit of an accidental switch set, and I quite like it.

Our most recent film update is a school over the knee punishment spanking, Only His Hand. The concept behind this one was simple. I wanted to do a school punishment that was very traditional and authentic in atmosphere (with slight creative license in that it portrays a bare bottom spanking of a female pupil by a male teacher). 

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In my fantasies the emphasis in this scenario is on the helplessness of the spankee - trapped in a leg lock, her bare bottom vulnerably up-ended over the teacher's strong knee. Skin goose-pimpled and trembling, unable to escape the onslaught of hard stinging spanks no matter how much she struggles and cries. It's crucial to the fantasy that the teacher be a nice one, someone who had high hopes of her and has been disappointed.

As soon as the line "since you've made so free with your hand, I shall make free with mine" popped into my head, I had the storyline for this scene. Slapping another pupil is the last in a series of offences for which our schoolgirl has been punished with detentions, lines, the slipper, tawse and cane. When these fail to work, her teacher decides to match the punishment to the crime with a prolongued, very hard hand spanking, on the bare and fiercely vigorous straight from cold. I love the idea a hand spanking so severe that it's more of a deterrent than the cane for a serial offender. 

 

When we were filming this I told Tom to spank me as long, as fast and as hard as he could (after which I may have remarked "oh god, what am I letting myself in for." Such are the perils of being a spankee director!), with occasional pauses for scolding so that his shoulder didn't fall off.

Tom is a hard spanker, and this was bloody painful, but being able to struggle and squeal and yell in outrage made it easier to bear than if I'd had to be good. I was buzzing after this one for hours!

I'm deeply gratified to learn that you enjoy this scenario as much as I always have - it's been lovely to receive so much positive feedback on this film. I think my favourite comment has been by fellow blogger Brush Strokes, which left me blushing almost as red as my bottom was after this spanking. We seem to have pressed a few of his buttons:

You know Dear Reader I am having trouble finding words to describe this next scene from our own Pandora Blake on Dreams of Spanking. I want to call it realistic but that is not the right word. It is more along the lines of authentic. Indeed probably one of the most authentic OTK Spanking scenes I have ever seen. Pandora who strikes another student is of course spanked. The OTK Spanking that Thomas Cameron gives her is almost as perfect as one can give. It is hard and it is painful and her reaction to it is exactly how one would imagine a girl in that situation would react. It is a very very fine piece. One they should be supremely proud of.

Amid all the preparations for Spain, I'm afraid I haven't had any time to edit a new Dreams of Spanking scene this week, so the next film is going to be a little late. That should go up today or tomorrow, and next week's film will probably go up on the Tuesday as well. After that, we'll be back to our usual weekend update schedule, so any 5-day subscribers next week will be able to get two new scenes if they time it right ;)

Love, lust and a leather belt

I'm still a bit behind on my blogging, but I'm going to bump our latest photoset to the top of the queue just because.

This is the second ever hardcore scene I've made, and it was shot on the same day as the first one, Snip Snip, with our good friend Tricia behind the camera.

D and I played this scene straight after Snip Snip, and it was significantly less staged; I'd known more or less what I'd wanted out of the scissors scene, but for this one we just moved the mirrors from D's bedroom into his living room, where we had a bit more space to play with, and improvised. All I knew was that I wanted to capture something of D's and my sexual relationship, a candid glimpse into our real life play. Mirrors, high heels and leather belts are all recurring features. (The bookcase porn is fairly emblematic, too.)

D and I looked at these photos together in chat this evening, and aside from a bit of light-hearted self-deprecation, we both enjoyed going through the finished gallery. He particularly liked the frequency with which we grin at each other in these photos (no serious BDSM porn here!); the scratches on my back by which he had marked his ownership; and the interesting effect of seeing himself reflected in the mirror, but not in the foreground.

I complimented him on his good belting action, ably photographed by Tricia, and told him how hot it was to see his erection tenting his jeans while he thrashes me. I also enjoyed the erotic subtlety of the photos in which our fucking is not visible in the foreground; only glimpsed in the mirror, out of focus.

My hope is that these photos express genuine love, lust and affection in a real life dominant/submissive power exchange. They also feature a far wider range of activities than most scenes on this site (as the tag list suggests!). From foot kissing to cock worship; the way D wraps the belt around my throat and uses it to control my breathing and movements as he kisses me, slaps and licks my breasts, and guides my head to his cock; being spanked with that wooden ruler over the knee, colouring not only my upraised bottom but my tender inner thighs as he spreads my legs and slowly smacks his way up each one, his other hand pressing into my wetness.

D and I very much enjoyed looking through these photos together, and are inspired to organise another couple shoot. (I'm still not sure he's comfortable appearing on video, and don't want to pressure him, but perhaps one day he'll surprise me.) I think this photo gallery encapsulates something real, and very hot, about our relationship. I hope you enjoy this glimpse into our intimate kinky lives.

They dress you up, they dress you down

I felt like I was taking a bit of a chance by filming a cross-dressing F/FM scene with Mike Stryker and Dana Kane. Being a little bit self-indulgent. Sure, we all love a bit of gender-bending, but would anyone want to watch it? Do people really want gender politics in their spanking porn?

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Mike and I play siblings united in our rejection of default gender roles. Mike feels fabulous in eyeliner and lipstick, and I prefer the comfort of baggy clothes that free me up to run around and climb trees. Unfortunately, our absent parents aren't the tolerant sort, and they've hired an uber-strict governess for the summer to turn us back to the straight and narrow. The fearsome Ms Kane embarks on a harsh discipline regime, part of which is forcing us out of our preferred clothing and into more conservative garments. Once Mike is dressed in a smart suit and tie and I've put on a pretty frock and feminine underwear, she takes us both over the knee in an attempt to spank the non-conformity out of us.

This is a super-hot fantasy for me, but it's a tricky one too. Hypothetically, if someone were to find this hot scene because they actually believed that tomboys and transvestites deserved to be punished, I wouldn't be able to share their enjoyment. For me, this is one of those scenes where sympathy with the spankees as the mistreated party who are just trying to be themselves is essential. Once that's understood, scenes like this can actually stand as a reverse political statement in favour of freedom of expression.

Having said that, I wouldn't go so far as to call this a serious film. On the contrary, it's joyously light-hearted and camp. Mike played it up to the hilt, and the clash of personalities resulted in a lot of fun banter. I adored Dana's satirical performance as the repressive governess, precisely because I know that in real life we're on the same side.

And - well, Mike Stryker paddled in lipstick. What's not to love?

The New Governess runs at nearly 19 minutes and includes both F/M and F/F, with Mike and I both subjected to hand spankings, over the knee paddlings and the cane. It comes with 60 hand-captured screengrabs and 24 high definition photos by Tricia Sullivan.

Our other recent F/F film also plays on the theme of dressing up, and being dressed by undressed by a lady in charge. In After the Play Party, however, the mood is much more consensual and sexy. This is the steamiest Zoe and I ever got on camera, and it made for a highly memorable, intensely erotic scene.

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This film is the sequel to Adornment. At the start of the evening, Zoe dressed me up to her liking, and gave me some vivid cane stripes to wear under my outfit. Now, we're home from the play party and fizzing with energy after the fun we had while we were out. But the night is still young.

Zoe toys with me and teases me, pulling at the nipple clamps I've been wearing all evening under my dress. She spanks, straps and canes me over the thin silk, then makes me remove the dress. She delights in cruelly removing the painful nipple clamps, and the sexual energy intensifies as both of us become increasingly excited by the pleasure she takes in hurting me. Finally, she takes her time giving me a hard beating with the riding crop and a thick cane.

F/F previews: Molly and Nimue

Last week Dreams of Spanking HQ was full of ladies, laughter and spanking for a two day F/F shoot with Molly Malone, Nimue Allen and photographer Tricia Sullivan. Ever since the M/M shoot last year (dear lord, was it only a year ago?) I've been trying to arrange another shoot with an all-female crew. It was an amazing atmosphere: so easy, comfortable and relaxed. And a good thing too, because it was my new lover Molly's first "proper" shoot with Dreams of Spanking (excluding an informal al fresco outing with her boyfriend behind the camera). I knew she was feeling nervous and I wanted to make her as comfortable as possible.

The first day was just the three of us: Molly, Nimue and me. Nimue excelled herself running two cameras at once, I handled the lighting and other aspects of production, and I eased Molly in gently with an interview and a couple of kinky demonstrations.

The interview has just been published, in which we have a good old gossip about our mutual friend Zoe Montana and she tells me all about how she discovered her love of corporal punishment (including the sensational story of her first ever spanking experience!) Click to view the free trailer:

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Molly felt much more confident simply being herself in front of the camera than trying to act a part, and having done some demos on my recent USA trip I've decided to start making occasional instructional videos.

We teamed up to create two switchy spanking presentations. The first demonstrated negotiation, communication and feedback during a spanking scene, and the second was a sexy showcase of cane techniques at various points on the severity spectrum.

We also shot a couple of bedroom scenes, including one in which I spank Molly when she gets home from an all-night rave (in her cute clubbing outfit including UV hotpants and fluffies!), and another which was a re-creation of a real life punishment she gave me for being an hour late to meet her for a date.

On the second day we were joined by photographer Tricia Sullivan, and we indulged ourselves with some more extended scenes that involved a bit more dressing up. In two of them Molly and I played dykey housemates who introduce spanking into their friendship after challenging each other to a strength contest.

At the other end of the butch/femme spectrum, we shot a retro fetish scene with fifties dresses, high heels and cupcakes. Molly looked amazingly sexy as a glam 50s housewife in a polkadot apron and vintage lingerie - and the cupcakes were tasty too.

Nimue then moved in front of the camera in my favourite scene of the whole shoot, a wedding-themed switch scenario. Bridezilla Molly takes her stress out on hapless bridesmaid Nimue... but after her beating Nims realises that Molly is just as moody as ever, and decides that she needs to turn the tables.

This one was amazing to watch from behind the camera. Great acting, hard strappings and canings and pretty dresses. Molly flounced beautifully, and Nims' sympathetic portrayal of the bridesmaid trying to help her best friend cope on her special day really helped to make the relationship real.

Somehow after all that we still all had some kinky energy left, so at the end of the day Molly, Nimue and I got together in front of the camera for an hour-long spanking and switching extravaganza called "Ring of Fire"... and if you can't work out how it goes from the title and the below picture, it will have to remain a mystery. By the end we were exhausted, happy and deliciously sore!

It was wonderful playing together as three switches; it all felt very balanced and harmonious. A lot of spanking performers are switches but it's quite rare to see one person go both ways in the same story. It's still more acceptable to be a female switch than a male switch, so I'm keen to do more switch scenes with boys as well as girls.

I really enjoyed collaborating with Nimue behind and in front of the camera, and I'm planning to do more work with both these amazing ladies over the coming year.

New behind the scenes videos

I've just added behind the scenes videos to The Morpheus Club and our latest scene, Marital Discipline. I've written before about why I think behind the scenes material is so important on a kinky porn site:

Behind the scenes footage and out-takes are one of the most effective ways of demonstrating the consent of the performers. Video interviews and smiley post-shoot pictures are good, but I know from my own experience of shooting that even if you didn't really enjoy the shoot, you're expected to put on a smile for the camera at the end, and you're still in "work" mode, so you do. Candid behind the scenes footage is much harder to fake, and you can get a much better sense of the performer's personalities and level of involvement by watching it.

Briefly, here's what I'm trying to do with the behind the scenes stuff:

  • Make it available as much as possible, especially in edgy scenes or scenes with spankees other than myself;
  • Not publish anything which isn't flattering or respectful, or which compromises a performer's privacy;
  • Make it honest, transparent, and publically visible rather than hiding it away on members-only pages.

If you're interested and haven't read the post, take a look; it explains my reasoning in some detail.

I discovered a new Tumblr yesterday which sets out to do similar things: not show the production atmosphere of one particular site, but provide a space for the happy, goofy, silly side of BDSM rather than the serious theatre which most publishers focus on. It's called Happy BDSM and it's made of awesome.

I've submitted the first of these behind the scenes photos from Marital Discipline:

As Dana leads Mike by one arm over her knee, I can't remember which person on set first calls out "Superman!" But after that, we have to pause shooting until everyone has stopped cracking up.


They're both still giggling even after the spanking starts

Of course no matter how much fun everyone's having, behind the scenes on a spanking video shoot isn't all smiles and laughter. There's a lot of thinking and logistics too, planning shots and dialogue and discussing what happens next. I found my early shoots very stressful and I'm sure that spilled over onto my performers to some extent, but I think I've come a long way since then, and this year's shoots have all been pretty laid back behind the scenes.

I've tried to represent the mood of the shoot fairly in all the behind the scenes videos I've published. Sometimes there isn't time to show you everything (I had three hours of behind the scenes footage for episode one of The Morpheus Club!), and sometimes there isn't much to show at all. But I think it's important to give you at least a glimpse of the performers' out-of-character moments. And I'm sure they'll let me know if they think I've rose-tinted anything!

The Morpheus Club: Pandora's Initiation was one example of a more stressful shoot - at least for me. Four actors, only one crew member, dozens of different shots, no storyboard and a director who was bottoming. This shoot was only ten months ago but I'd do it very differently now. But we did it, and the only person who got upset was me. Even after Hywel graciously took over directing responsibilities, I was still too uptight to relax into the CP, and wimped out during the final caning.

Eh, it happens. Everyone was great about it, and Amelia reassured me by telling me that bravery doesn't always work well on camera anyway. And I think she and Hywel had fun despite my fretting. You can watch it all in the behind the scenes video:

Pandora's Initiation: behind the scenes

24 minutes of behind the scenes footage, and that's even after editing! Laughter and cameraderie between takes, and lots of kinky negotiation and discussion as four enthusiasts collaborate to create a unique scene.

On this occasion, Pandora struggles to direct as well as act, and ends up asking the experience Hywel to step in and help her direct. But she still finds it hard to let go and relax into the scene, and has to ask for a break during the final caning. A candid, honest look at the difficulties, as well as the fun side, of improvised BDSM film-making.

This is one of my favourite photos of Mike ever:


Bubbles! Dana gives Mike a foamy nose

Although Trish snapped some amazing candid photos, the behind the scenes video accompanying our latest film Marital Discipline is much shorter and sweeter. No stresses or difficulties on this shoot, thank goodness - everything went delightfully smoothly. We edited most of the shots in camera so there's not huge amounts to show you, but there's some chatter between takes and a couple of gigglesome moments. I filmed two interviews with Mike and Dana on that shoot which I'll publish as the other two scenes go up.

Marital Discipline: behind the scenes

Take a peek behind the scenes during the filming of 'Marital Discipline'. Mike and Dana talk nipple piercings, the difficulty of shuffling with your pants round your ankles, and how long it was since he was last clean shaven. Includes some in-character dialogue and a first take of the ending not used in the final movie.


Dana tickling Mike's polkadotted feet, and delighting in tickling him to make them kick :)

Marital Discipline: F/M celebrating the male spankee

Five years ago, I had no interest in F/M. I had nothing against it; it just wasn't my kink. As a female spankee it didn't seem relevant to my experience.

Then I kept hearing from toppy/switch women frustrated with the lack of sexy imagery focussing on male subs and bottoms. I subscribed to the groundbreaking Filament Magazine (sadly now ended) and learned about the female gaze, and the need for more women to create erotic imagery aimed at women. I read the archives of Male Submission Art and started to notice the way that submissive male performers are sidelined and even mistreated by the adult industry. This is not only unfair and contrary to the principles of ethical production, but it's a feminist issue too. Women have just as much right to quality porn catering to their sexual desires as men, and many women want to look at hot men. The adult industry has some catching up to do.

In December 2008 I filmed my first F/M material with Zoe and Jimmy, found it just as hot as any other spanking content, and started to wonder why I'd never looked at it before.

The longer I spent on the scene, the more I realised that the reason I'd never sought out F/M was that I'd never seen any I liked. Partly this is because of the gender segregation practised by so many websites. I'd never been exposed to it. But since then I've started looking, and I can find very little F/M which eroticises, which celebrates, the male spankee.

Nowadays I identify as a switch, and have enjoyed spanking a few male bottoms in my time. I don't just enjoy the power trip of spanking a man: I enjoy his body, too; the curve of his bottom, the way his toes curl, the subtleties in his voice and his breath. I find a range of male bodies aesthetically pleasing, from the lean to the soft to the chunky, and I find them no less aesthetically pleasing while being spanked.

If I'm watching a man being spanked on video then the male spankee's body isn't an unfortunate side effect of the spanking experience. It's the point. I want to see his body in all its glory. I want to see his face while he's spanked, I want close ups of his wide eyes, bitten lips and flushed cheeks. On video, I want to hear him yelp and catch his breath. I want to see him kick. I don't want to see an anonymous, nameless bottom thrashed by a domme who pouts at the camera rather than connecting with her sub.

Look at any blog or site which publishes F/M imagery. How many male spankees are named? How many have their faces shown? I'll give you a clue: it ain't many.

If I'm watching F/M, I'm in the delicious position of identifying with both halves of the couple. My toppy side identifies with the domme, imagines having that boy to play with. I want the boy to be fuckable, because this is porn and I'm shallow like that. I want to see male spankees who are easy on the eye. But my top side wants to know what he's like, this boy being spanked. What's his name? What's he like? What turns him on? How does he react when you do this? If I'm topping a guy I don't want to play with a piece of meat I don't know from Adam, without ever seeing his face. I want to get to know him, find out what makes him tick. I want to look into his eyes and see the effect I'm having.

Then there's my bottom side. The spankee in me empathises with the male bottom; imagines myself in his place. In order to identify with him, he needs to have an identity. I can't identify with a nameless, personless bottom floating near Mistress Whatsername. I want to identify with a person: I want to watch his journey, understand his experience.

Top and bottom, it adds up to the same thing: I want F/M that shows me a male spankee with personality. I know I'm not alone in wanting this. I've spoken to huge numbers of people who share my frustration. In order to find spanking porn which focuses on the male spankee I have to watch M/M - and I do. But what does that tell you about the extent to which the industry caters to a male audience?

At this point people argue with me: what's wrong with liking F/M that focusses on the domme? It's very popular, after all; lots of people like it. I would like to state, for the record, that I don't think there's anything morally wrong with that mode of F/M. (I do think there's something morally wrong with an industry that refuses to pay male bottoms for their time or expenses, but that's an aside.) Aesthetics and sexual desire are subjective, and if that's your kink, that's okay. It may not be what I like, but I'm not trying to take it away or criticise anyone for liking it. If that's what you want to see, great: I'm glad so many people are catering to your desires. But my desires, and the desires of everyone else I've talked to, male and female, who wants to see porn that celebrates male spankees, currently aren't catered to, and that's the problem I want to address.

My aim is to expand the scope of the genre, not restrict it. Watch femdom with my blessing, if that's what you like. In the meantime, for the rest of us, I offer a new angle on F/M: malesub.

Five years ago, F/M wasn't my thing. It turns out I just wasn't watching the right F/M. Done right, F/M is absolutely my thing. Put it this way: I found this video such a turn on that I got wet while editing it. Repeatedly. At the end of each work day, this was what I was fantasising about.

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Marital Discipline

Frustrated with Mike's behaviour despite regular discipline, Dana initiates a little regression. Freshly spanked, bathed and shaved baby smooth, her bratty husband is transformed into a good little boy.

When I sat down with Mike before our shoot to discuss scene ideas and asked him if he had any particular fantasies he'd like to explore, he confessed that he didn't often fantasise about spanking: age play was much more his thing. I've become increasingly interested in the psychology of age play lately, and "little boy/girl" and child/parent roleplay definitely has a place within my kink. It's also very compatible with spanking and discipline, and I've already published a couple of "little girl" photosets on this site.

Of course, one has to be very careful to make it clear that age play is exactly that - roleplay. I thought it might be fun to make that explicit by introducing an age play/regression dynamic into a consensual adult discipline scenario. Mike provided the adorable pink dropseat jammies he wears here, and gamely volunteered to be shaved in order to make the transformation more dramatic. Other than that, I gave Dana and Mike the freedom to take the scene where they would. And boy, did they run with it.

I am in love with so many aspects of this scene: from the playful, affectionate, sexy flirtation between husband and wife which seamlessly integrates with the discipline dynamic; to the mutual trust and respect between both the performers and the characters, and the sensual intimacy of the bathtub sequence. I have a dozen favourite moments but the absolute best ones were all unscripted. Here are my top two:

  1. Early on in the scene, Dana challenges Mike: "Who agreed to this relationship, and the terms of it?" Mike starts to give the reply he thinks she's looking for: "I did". But almost immediately he stops and changes it to we: "We did."

    I fucking love this. The connection and charge between them is immediately ramped up. It moves the conversation from adversarial ("whose fault is this?"), to negotiative, co-operative ("how can we fix this?"). It shifts the focus onto the relationship, the consensual, equal partnership between the two of them. Which makes the ensuing punishment so much hotter.

  2. Towards the end, Dana has a much more obedient, happy, spanked Mike over her knee and is explaining to him that the final part of his punishment will be an early bedtime sleeping on the sofa, and he won't be allowed back into the big bed with her until he's proved he can behave. "Understand?"

    "Yes."

    "Yes what?" Mike laughs. "Come on, I want to hear you say it."

    Behind the camera, I'm wondering what Dana likes to be called. Miss? Ma'am? We haven't discussed it. I'm intrigued to see how this will play out.

    Mike is laughing nervously. "Say what?"

    "You know."

    Nervous, blushing, smiling from ear to ear, Mike eventually whispers: "Yes, Mummy." And I melt in a puddle on the floor.

I believe that most CP enthusiasts will find something to enjoy in this scene. The sexual chemistry is sizzling, the roleplay is convincing, warm and funny. Mike is gorgeous, and I defy the ladies not to be won over by his dazzling blue eyes and transformation from neatly bearded man to adorable, babyfaced little boy. Dana is smoking hot, teasing and playful with a hard hand and unquestionable authority.

And oh my god, just look at this bottom:

Even if F/M isn't usually your thing, give this one a try. It might surprise you.

A well-run campaign

I'm super excited to announce the publication of Dana for Senator, our première scene starring Mike Stryker and Dana Kane. This is the first of four spanking scenes that we filmed on our recent video shoot. Here's the trailer:

This was Mike's first ever dedicated spanking shoot, although he's performed in adult video before, and it was an honour to watch his bottom redden under Dana's expert attentions.

Given how formidable a spanker she is, it's fortunate that Dana is also such a kind, gracious person. She put Mike and I instantly at our ease, and the three of us found lots to chat about as the day progressed. You can catch up with some of our gossip in the behind the scenes video.

Both Mike and Dana are great fun to roleplay with. This scene started life very simply as an F/FM office punishment, but between us it quickly gained depth. I love blending politics with punishment, as anyone who's watched Non-Violent Resistance will be aware, but this was the first time we'd run an electoral politics scenario.

I'm a big fan of The West Wing, and corporal punishment seems to fit pretty neatly into the urgency, efficiency and eccentricity of a well-run political campaign. I reckon Councillor Dana Kane's campaign office sounds like a great place to work!

The most amazing part of this scene, for me, was the pleasure of playing for the first time with both Dana and Mike, and the privilege of watching Mike's bottom mark up so dramatically. As well as acting alongside them, it was my job to look after both of them, particularly Mike, and make sure they were feeling comfortable and having fun. So watching his face closely as he was spanked to keep an eye on how close we were to his limits was, of course, purely professionally motivated. Not perving at all. Nope.

But there was lots more to enjoy: Mike's well-chosen shiny underwear, for instance, which made Dana coo appreciatively way between shots; the warmth of Dana's dominant persona, despite her firmness, and the sense that her character genuinely wanted to help ours learn and improve. Plus the fourth-wall-breaking irony of the two of us getting into trouble for the blank fax confirmations, which was all the fault of the producer for poor attention to detail in the props department. The producer, of course, being moi. So I got what I deserved, I guess, but it was a bit unfair for poor Mike!

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