I've really enjoyed the last two weeks. It's been wonderful to see so many of you re-subscribing and commenting on your favourite scenes. I've been very happy to welcome familiar names and new ones - and it's hard to tell, but I have a feeling that the percentage of female members is higher this time round.
It gives me a warm glow just to see the site back up again, and I've had great fun romping around the archive, enjoying the feeling of being immersed in familiar pages - like re-reading a favourite book after a long time.
I went to look at @DreamofSpanking just to make sure it's still there. (It is.) Feeling a bit... emotional.— Adele Haze (@AdeleHaze) June 11, 2016
Thanks for your patience, all of you, while we settle in, wipe off the dust and start firing up all the mechanisms to get this engine running again. AJ has been working morning and night keeping on top of your payment and tech support requests, and her blogpost about how it feels to be back made me shed a little happy tear. Girl on the Net has a lot on right now - in fact she's possibly even busier than I am - but both of us have been running around behind the scenes, working hard to clear space in our schedules. Bear with us while we get back up to speed. The timing of the appeal win was as much of a surprise to us as it was to you, so we didn't have any new content ready to upload when the site re-opened. I'm working on having something ready for this weekend, but if new updates are a bit erratic while we find our feet, you know why.
In the meantime, I know you've been enjoying the 274 spanking videos, photosets and audio stories in our archive since the site reopened - even though all our free content such as trailers and Backlash sponsored caning videos is cloud hosted, our bandwidth usage has been through the roof this month. You've shifted 10TB in a fortnight - and that usage is pretty much all logged-in members. That's a lot of video downloads!
So which spanking videos did our members make a beeline for, when the site re-opened? We asked our Twitter followers which of our scenes they'd missed the most. Here are their picks:
Every office should look like this! This film was Michael Darling's first ever porn appearance. I tried to help him out by getting spanked first, so he would know what was expected of him when his turn came, but perhaps the anticipation just made him even more nervous. Either way, Dana and Mike give classic performances in this elegant office punishment film, and he and I both end up with very red bottoms.
I have a lot of love for this film, which screened at Cinekink 2014 and was a milestone in my porn career - my first explicit masturbation scene and orgasm on camera. I play Tamora, a high-powered executive who copes with the stress of adult life by fantasising about being a little girl, spanked, scolded and helpless.
@DreamofSpanking houseboy! But they are all immense!— MrKink (@MrKinkUk) June 13, 2016
Where would a "best of" post be without Houseboy - the film that landed us not only the Cinekink 2016 Bring It! Award for up-and-coming filmmakers, but also the first prize in the Berlin Porn Film Festival Short Film Competition last year? I'm still ridiculously proud of this film, which brings storytelling, dominance and submission and spanking together in a tale of non-monogamy and jealousy in a queer, kinky household.
This was both Tai and Eliza's debut porn appearances; at the time of shooting, Tai identified as genderqueer, and had no objection to playing a male character for this film, which I wanted to be a female gaze celebration of submissive masculine beauty. Since the shoot, however, Tai has come out as trans, and so this film now stars not one but two trans women; a demographic all too often fetishised and objectified in mainstream porn, and erased from spanking porn entirely.
@DreamofSpanking All Carolyn Grey, ones where your butt gets it, I'd have to spend hours picking out others.— Eric Smaltz (@EricPlacer) June 12, 2016
@DreamofSpanking So many 2 mention. But stng plan , Edwardian gvrnss, Dana Kane scenes, little 10, only hs hand, Alex mirror to name few— Mr_London (@Mr_LondonX) June 10, 2016
A lot of you are Caroline Grey fans - and who can blame you? I think I agree with Mr London - my personal favourite scenes of hers are the Edwardian Governess films, starring Caroline alongside Amelia Jane Rutherford, myself and Will Savage in the second film, Invitations. Lush period costume, spanking over split bloomers, peachy bottoms glowing cherry red, and lots of authentic (and witty) dialogue from Caroline and Amelia.
I was hard-pressed to pick a fifth film for this post. All the scenes Mr London mentioned are worth watching - I considered featuring The Seating Plan, in which my fiance's sister Ten Amorette spanks me before my wedding; or Little Ten, in which Ten plays my bratty girlfriend and I treat her like a little girl, and give her a good scolding and spanking. I'm also fond of Alex's POV, an innovative point of view scene in which we aimed to capture the female spankee's perspective with the camera, focussing on the connection between Alex Reynolds and her disciplinarian, Tom.
But I picked Only His Hand because it's one of the films I wrote long before the site went live; back in the early days of preparation, when I was working my arse off trying to save up to have some shoots, and my brain was overflowing with spanking video ideas. It was particularly satisfying for me to bring this fantasy to life. Hand spankings are one of my favourite things because they have so much range; there is no better way to warm up a bottom for pleasure spanking, but that equally, a hard hand spanking is just as painful as a paddle or hairbrush - if not more so. The idea of being held firmly in place by a strong, angry teacher who is determined to give me a punishment spanking I'll never forget, and show me just how hard his hand can be, still makes me shiver. Tom executed my fantasy to perfection, and this is one of the hardest hand spankings I've received on camera. (I think the only harder hand spanking on Dreams of Spanking is Over His Knee, and only because it goes on for longer; we skipped the plot and indulged in 20 minutes of pure, unadulterated over the knee spanking.) I love the storyline for Over His Hand - the neat way that the punishment fits the crime, and the absolute helplessness of my character during her well-earned punishment. If you want to see me genuinely squirm and struggle over the knee during a hand spanking that pushed my limits, you should watch this.
Those weren't the only scenes named on Twitter - for instance, in a protected tweet Kodders mentioned Adornment, Charley Says and Bridezilla, all strong contenders for a Dreams of Spanking "best of". What scenes were you happiest to see back after our ten months away?
One thing is clear - the site being back up is bringing you as much pleasure as it is me, and I couldn't be happier to see you enjoying it.
Maintaining Discipline – our new flirty two-part switch storyline starring Pandora Blake and Mike Pain – is like a Who's Who (or What's What) of corporal punishment instruments. The pair work their way through the slipper to tawse and cane, with a bit of warm-up hand spanking thrown in when they switch roles. Because of this, I thought it'd be a good excuse to take a closer look at some of our favourite implements.
Most blog posts I write for Dreams of Spanking are written from my point of view as an enthusiastic, horny sex blogger, eager to tell you all the ways in which individual scenes float my kinky boat. This time, though, I'm going to pretend to be Amazon – providing recommendations for further viewing depending on which implement you prefer. So grab a membership if you don't have one already, and settle down for some personalised film recommendations...
In part one of Maintaining Discipline, new teacher Ms Blake is given instruction in corporal punishment by the friendly headmaster. He wants to make sure she can keep her pupils under control, and what better way than with the stinging whack of the slipper on a bare bottom? The headmaster makes an unexpected offer - and bends over so Pandora can learn to dish it out.
In Maintaining Discipline part 2, though, it's her turn to understand how it feels - a clearly aroused Ms Blake offers up her bottom, and the headmaster shows her just how much corporal punishment can hurt.
If you like the slipper, you might also like: Sent to the Headmistress. Cute delinquent schoolboy David Weston is hauled in front of the stern headmistress, and bends over her desk for a spanking.
You might also like one of my personal favourites. Pandora tells me that it's rare to see male/female switching films in spanking porn, so if you love M/F switch scenes as much as you love the slipper, I bet you'll enjoy The Schoolgirl's Revenge. Grown-up schoolgirl Molly Malone cunningly turns the tables on her old headmaster Sir John Beecroft, in a twisted tale of blackmail and revenge.
Wooden rulers are a special kind of implement. While many spanking tools are made specifically for the job, the wooden ruler is something that might be found lying around any classroom or study, and happen to be conveniently to hand when the time comes to dish out punishment. In Maintaining Discipline part 1, Pandora tries out both slow, hard strokes and a quick flurry of six cracks in a row.
If you like the ruler, you might also like: Dana for Senator. Dana Kane's Senatorial campaign starts soon, and her interns Michael Darling and Pandora Blake need to shape up. So Dana makes use of the wooden ruler that lies so temptingly on her desk nearby...
Leather straps and tawses have always been a favourite of mine. In Maintaining Discipline part 2, a calm Mike Pain explains to Pandora that the tawse hurts more because of the split in the centre of the leather, before advising her to use it "as hard as she can". It certainly has an impact – ear-splitting cracks followed by tell-tale red stripes that instantly appear on Mike's bottom.
If you like the tawse, you might also like: The Prefect and the Fag. One of my favourite ever Dreams of Spanking films, because it contains two guys who just happen to be the kind of people I'd blush at if I met them in a bar - plus some twisted abuses of power and an intensely hot tawsing at the end.
It's also well worth checking out Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy in Playing Truant – a more vicious tawsing on the tender skin at the back of the thighs, in which both performers pull off a spectacular translation of fantasy into reality.
In case it wasn't obvious, the cane is one of the most popular things on Dreams of Spanking – I'm sure you can guess why. In Maintaining Discipline part 2, part of Pandora Blake's tutorial involves learning how to use the cane. With headmaster Mike Pain bent over the desk, providing calm instructions, she starts first with a thin cane and then onto much harder strokes with a thick one. Which is more painful? I'll let you decide...
If you like the cane, you might also like: There are plenty of scenes to choose from here, and I'm struggling to pick just one or two. What I will say is that if you love the cane, you're in for a real treat, because we've been on a bit of a caning spree recently, as so many amazing people joined in with our sponsored caning protest against the UK porn laws - such as bondage superstar Ariel Anderssen.
And, of course, if you enjoyed watching Pandora cane Mike in Maintaining Discipline part 2, you definitely shouldn't miss Mike Pain's spectacular début thrashing on Dreams of Spanking – Mike's Secret - which might just the hardest caning Pandora has given on film to date.
So what do you think? Were we right - if you like the slipper, ruler, tawse and cane, did you enjoy our recommendations? Or do you have other favourites?
It's the end of the year, and that means awards time. Spanking Blogg are running some Spanking Awards this year, and we've been nominated in a few categories. In fact, voting has already closed in some categories, but the rest are still open, so there's still time to get some last minute votes in.
I was thrilled to be nominated twice for the blog categories - this blog was nominated for Best News Style Blog, and my personal/political blog Spanked, Not Silenced was nominated for Best Creative Blog. The winners were announced on Christmas Eve and I was surprised and pleased by the results!
My personal blog came second in the creative category, runner up to Alex in Spankingland by Alex Reynolds, Dreams of Spanking cast member and top spanking model. Her articulate, thoughtful blog is always fascinating reading, with some wonderful writing about kink psychology, D/S and social commentary on the wider scene. Plus there are often hot spanking photos and scene reports. I love her blog - and voted for it. I couldn't think of a more deserving winner, and I'm delighted to be her runner up!
As for the news style blog - well, I was thrilled that this blog placed too, coming second to Chross the Spankologist. Given Chross' standing in the scene, and the fact that whenever he links to you in his Spankings of the Week he can send a spike of over a thousand visitors to your blog without even trying, I think that's a fair win. I wasn't expecting this blog to place at all, so it's wonderful that even after three years you still think we're worth reading.
Winner CHROSS Spankologist BLOG
Runner Up DREAMS OF SPANKING BLOG
Winner Alex in Spankingland
Runner Up Pandora Blake – Spanked not Silenced
Voting is still open for the following categories:
It's a tough choice - I wish I could vote multiple times! There are some categories still to come, including Best Male Spankee, Best Website and Most Improved Website, so please do nominate your favourites for those categories, and keep checking back to Spanking Blogg for new polls as they open. And most importantly, please support your favourite performers and producers in the spanking industry by casting your vote!
Finally, it's the time of year when the Rise Awards are open for nominations. Last year Dreams of Spanking was thrilled to be a runner-up for the Fan Favourite award - let's see if we can beat that this year! The adult industry is often dominated by the big mainstream sites but its the small cottage sites that are often the most creative and interesting. Head on over and nominate your favourite porn sites - let's give small, queer, independent fetish sites some love!
When I started blogging for Dreams of Spanking I felt a little overwhelmed by how much fantastic stuff there was in the spanking archives. Although I get to see the new hot spanking videos as they come out, I couldn't resist delving a little deeper to see if I could come up with a definitive list of my top five favourite scenes.
It's trickier than you'd think, probably because I find myself getting stuck in a particular mode for a while (“I love the strap – let's find all the videos that involve people getting strapped”) and then wandering off into another specific fantasy, before returning to one of my particular favourites and re-watching it a couple of times just to make sure it's exactly as fun as I originally thought it was (it always is).
I am also very aware how much my favourites are driven by my personal desires. When you read the list below you'll probably see deeper into my own filthy mind than even some of my partners have ventured.
My top five spanking videos will necessarily be different to your top five spanking videos, simply because porn is so personal, and everything pushes people's buttons differently. For me, anything that involves hot male subs, the strap, or a certain type of wittily brusque dominant will jump to the top of my own list. Other people might seek out a menacingly quiet top, the most severe caning they can find, or a very specific scene involving gorgeous historical costumes and a firmly-wielded riding crop.
So, after a lot of research (and by 'research' I mean exactly what you think I mean), here's an entirely subjective and quiveringly enthusiastic list of my top five spanking videos. Watch, enjoy, wander down your own avenues of spanking fantasy, then come back to the comments and recommend your own favourites.
“Am I making an impression on that smart mouth of yours yet?” Dana Kane is so far beyond superb in this spanking video that they haven't yet invented a word for her.
She plays a quick, witty, and very strict governess to two naughty youngsters – Pandora Blake and Michael Darling. I love her laser-accurate, painfully swift cane strokes and her withering, no-nonsense scolding. Her brusque, briskly efficient over the knee spanking with hand and paddle hits the spot too.
Above all, though, I am a total sucker for guys in make-up. The gender-bending elements in this scene and Michael wincing through his beautiful eyeshadow are a joy to watch.
When I started writing this post Pandora kindly sent me a list of suggestions to help me get started. This was the first one I clicked on, because she'd so temptingly titled it 'hot male spankees.' And she was not wrong.
It stars Michael Darling again (I cannot resist him - he has one of the most beautiful pain faces I have ever seen) and Sebastian Hawley, who has a gorgeously punky look that makes me weak at the knees. As they practice caning each other to see if they can take it, they get caught by their harsh schoolmaster, Thomas Cameron, who takes them inside for a much more severe punishment six of the best.
Punishment by proxy is an unusual scenario, and it grabbed my attention because there's a delicious thrill in two unwilling spankees being made to mete out discipline to each other.
Zoe Montana utterly rules (in both senses of the word) in this spanking video because she delivers such excellent, out-of-patience scolding, as well as a viciously effective over the knee hairbrush spanking.
But the real kick comes about four minutes in, when she orders the trembling twosome to punish each other. Properly. Pandora and Jimmy are both beautifully convincing as the terrified pupils caught breaking the six inch rule, and Zoe's special form of aversion therapy really hits home. Their teacher overrides their initial reluctance and ensures that they spank each other hard enough to really hurt.
A wet strapping for Andrew
This video was bound to be right up my alley because it contains two exceptionally gorgeous people. Andrew – a young, lean, beautiful submissive – and Thomas – a strong-armed, hotly angry top.
You might be able to tell, given that Thomas features in three of my top five videos, that I have a teeny bit of a crush on him. Teeny in the sense that the Amazon is a 'teeny' rainforest.
I love the scenario in this video - Andrew gets caught his sister soaking Pandora in a water fight, so he is hauled inside for on-the-spot punishment. This starts with a firm over the knee spanking over his wet underwear, before Andrew is made to bend over the table for some hard strokes with the strap. The beauty of his punishment is – as Thomas so rightly says - “It hurts more when it's wet.”
Lastly, I went on a really specific hunt. I wanted to find the video that – of all the amazing scenes on Dreams of Spanking – most captured one of my own fantasies.
When it's late at night and I'm lying in bed, one of the most common sex fantasies I reach for is that of the older guy punishing me as I try to struggle and get away. In the notes for this video, Pandora explains that one of the hot buttons for her is the severity of the beating which is disproportionate to her crimes. This tallies perfectly with what runs through my head when I'm alone at night: a severe beating from an older man, that makes me cry out in pain and anguish.
That's the primary reason I find this video so hot. The second reason, and the thing that made it leap out at me and give me that stomach-kick of lust, is Pandora's arse in tiny denim shorts. Tiny denim shorts being one of the hottest outfits in which to be beaten, and Pandora's arse being one of the hottest arses on the internet.
Tell me what your top spanking videos are...
So, there you have it – the top five spanking videos according to me. As I say, it took a lot longer to decide on my favourites than I thought it would, because every single time I thought I'd honed the list, I fall in love with yet another performer, or scenario, or implement (right now my fantasies involve Thomas Cameron, in the schoolroom, with a hairbrush).
But given that it's completely subjective, I won't spank you if you disagree. In fact, here's a perfect opportunity to do an archive tour yourself – pick a performer, implement, or scenario, and follow the trail of tags until you've found your favourites. Then come back and answer the sixty-million dollar question - which are your top spanking videos on Dreams of Spanking, and why?
The site is updated weekly with full-length spanking films, mostly between 5-20 minutes long but occasionally longer, and every so often Dana posts additional bonus videos. Dana Kane Spanks already contains a whopping 142 spanking scenes, the biggest archive of any new site I've ever seen.
In the videos Dana primarily spanks her male partner, known on the site only as "My Bottom's Bottom", and the adorable Spanked Angel, another regular playmate of Dana's. One other male spankee is known as "The Very Bad Boy".
Neither My Bottom's Bottom nor the Very Bad Boy show their faces in the videos, and Dana has not yet worked with any professional male spankees. After all, as I've learned, they can be quite hard to find, as in most places the market does not yet exist. I'm looking forward to seeing her expand her range of male victims as the site develops, and I'm sure that if she and Michael Darling were ever in the same town again she would set up a shoot with him in an instant!
Dana Kane Spanks does feature a number of female models from her hometown of Las Vegas as well as several professional female spankees including Cheyenne Jewel, Christie Cutie, Sarah Gregory and Kelley May (as far as I know, Kelley's first ever appearance on a spanking site other than her own clips store).
And, most recently, me! I filmed with Angel and Dana during my recent visit to Atlantic City, NJ.
Here's the scene description:
Pandora and Angel are lying in the hotel suite, talking about the party. They're being awfully bawdy, talking about all the hot guys and girls, and I can't tolerate their bad language for long. I lecture the girls on ladylike behavior, but they both argue back, saying that there's nothing wrong with their language or behavior, and that I am being unreasonable. After a bit of their backtalk, I've heard enough - I pull out two bars of soap and tell Pandora and Angel that they'll be sorry for their dirty language. Angel stands in the corner watching as I tell Pandora to open her mouth wide for the soap, then spin her around and spank her hard with hand and strap while she wriggles on the bed on hands and knees. I then bring Angel over and, over her protestations, shove the soap into her waiting mouth...and then watch her mouth pucker in disgust. Angel is placed into hands and knees position right beside Pandora, and they're both thoroughly spanked and strapped with soap bars firmly in their dirty little mouths. Then...there's a twist...
This was a really fun scene to shoot - it was lovely working with Dana again, and Angel is such a sweetheart. Dana also set up a hilarious behind the scenes prank which will be revealed in due course, but suffice it to say it was enormously entertaining for Dana and I, and rather less funny for poor Angel!
Dana Kane is one of the most capable disciplinarians on the planet and a very impressive woman, smart, funny and the embodiment of elegance and class. If you meet her you quickly discover that she is also warm, welcoming and open-hearted. I hope we can collaborate on many future occasions, and I wish her all the best with her new site Dana Kane Spanks.
I felt like I was taking a bit of a chance by filming a cross-dressing F/FM scene with Mike Stryker and Dana Kane. Being a little bit self-indulgent. Sure, we all love a bit of gender-bending, but would anyone want to watch it? Do people really want gender politics in their spanking porn?
Mike and I play siblings united in our rejection of default gender roles. Mike feels fabulous in eyeliner and lipstick, and I prefer the comfort of baggy clothes that free me up to run around and climb trees. Unfortunately, our absent parents aren't the tolerant sort, and they've hired an uber-strict governess for the summer to turn us back to the straight and narrow. The fearsome Ms Kane embarks on a harsh discipline regime, part of which is forcing us out of our preferred clothing and into more conservative garments. Once Mike is dressed in a smart suit and tie and I've put on a pretty frock and feminine underwear, she takes us both over the knee in an attempt to spank the non-conformity out of us.
This is a super-hot fantasy for me, but it's a tricky one too. Hypothetically, if someone were to find this hot scene because they actually believed that tomboys and transvestites deserved to be punished, I wouldn't be able to share their enjoyment. For me, this is one of those scenes where sympathy with the spankees as the mistreated party who are just trying to be themselves is essential. Once that's understood, scenes like this can actually stand as a reverse political statement in favour of freedom of expression.
Having said that, I wouldn't go so far as to call this a serious film. On the contrary, it's joyously light-hearted and camp. Mike played it up to the hilt, and the clash of personalities resulted in a lot of fun banter. I adored Dana's satirical performance as the repressive governess, precisely because I know that in real life we're on the same side.
And - well, Mike Stryker paddled in lipstick. What's not to love?
The New Governess runs at nearly 19 minutes and includes both F/M and F/F, with Mike and I both subjected to hand spankings, over the knee paddlings and the cane. It comes with 60 hand-captured screengrabs and 24 high definition photos by Tricia Sullivan.
Our other recent F/F film also plays on the theme of dressing up, and being dressed by undressed by a lady in charge. In After the Play Party, however, the mood is much more consensual and sexy. This is the steamiest Zoe and I ever got on camera, and it made for a highly memorable, intensely erotic scene.
This film is the sequel to Adornment. At the start of the evening, Zoe dressed me up to her liking, and gave me some vivid cane stripes to wear under my outfit. Now, we're home from the play party and fizzing with energy after the fun we had while we were out. But the night is still young.
Zoe toys with me and teases me, pulling at the nipple clamps I've been wearing all evening under my dress. She spanks, straps and canes me over the thin silk, then makes me remove the dress. She delights in cruelly removing the painful nipple clamps, and the sexual energy intensifies as both of us become increasingly excited by the pleasure she takes in hurting me. Finally, she takes her time giving me a hard beating with the riding crop and a thick cane.
This site is about my own fantasies and experiences as a spankee and switch, but it's funny to see which real life incidents get enshrined in video and which don't. I've just put up the second film on the site which is about a procrastinating university student being punished to help them improve. The first, The Secret to Success, was about consensual discipline sought out and directed by the bottom. This one, Plagiarism, features the more traditional discipline imposed by a teacher on her student... but with a couple of twists.
Mike's procrastination problem has landed him in big trouble. He made the deadline on his latest essay, but he didn't have time to write up all his research in his own words. Suddenly, he's facing accusations of plagiarism.
His tutor Ms Kane and teaching assistant Pandora don't want him to fail her class - they know he's capable of good work. But there isn't time to rewrite the paper before the end of term. They give Mike an option: instead of an F, he can accept corporal punishment, until they're sure that Mike understands the seriousness of the issue. Ms Kane will administer the strapping, and Pandora will witness it. Poor Mike is remorseful and humiliated as he takes his punishment under the watchful eyes of both staff members.
This never quite happened to me, but I certainly missed deadlines and handed in essays that failed to fulfil their potential because I'd started writing too late. In reality, I had to ask my boyfriend Tom to spank me to help me manage my time better; this method would certainly have been more direct!
This storyline isn't intended as derisive towards Mike's character, but sympathetic. I'm sure many of us can identify with his situation. Mike himself, when he saw the scene, said he found it easy to put himself in this character's shoes, and felt like in an alternate universe this might have been him.
Mike took his punishment beautifully, and Dana delivered both the spanking and the scolding with blazing authority. The hottest thing about this scene for me was the eye contact; holding Mike's gaze as he struggled under the strap.
I like the dynamic of having a witness to the punishment, especially a woman watching a man be spanked, and I hope you do too.
I've just added behind the scenes videos to The Morpheus Club and our latest scene, Marital Discipline. I've written before about why I think behind the scenes material is so important on a kinky porn site:
Behind the scenes footage and out-takes are one of the most effective ways of demonstrating the consent of the performers. Video interviews and smiley post-shoot pictures are good, but I know from my own experience of shooting that even if you didn't really enjoy the shoot, you're expected to put on a smile for the camera at the end, and you're still in "work" mode, so you do. Candid behind the scenes footage is much harder to fake, and you can get a much better sense of the performer's personalities and level of involvement by watching it.
Briefly, here's what I'm trying to do with the behind the scenes stuff:
- Make it available as much as possible, especially in edgy scenes or scenes with spankees other than myself;
- Not publish anything which isn't flattering or respectful, or which compromises a performer's privacy;
- Make it honest, transparent, and publically visible rather than hiding it away on members-only pages.
If you're interested and haven't read the post, take a look; it explains my reasoning in some detail.
I discovered a new Tumblr yesterday which sets out to do similar things: not show the production atmosphere of one particular site, but provide a space for the happy, goofy, silly side of BDSM rather than the serious theatre which most publishers focus on. It's called Happy BDSM and it's made of awesome.
I've submitted the first of these behind the scenes photos from Marital Discipline:
As Dana leads Mike by one arm over her knee, I can't remember which person on set first calls out "Superman!" But after that, we have to pause shooting until everyone has stopped cracking up.
Of course no matter how much fun everyone's having, behind the scenes on a spanking video shoot isn't all smiles and laughter. There's a lot of thinking and logistics too, planning shots and dialogue and discussing what happens next. I found my early shoots very stressful and I'm sure that spilled over onto my performers to some extent, but I think I've come a long way since then, and this year's shoots have all been pretty laid back behind the scenes.
I've tried to represent the mood of the shoot fairly in all the behind the scenes videos I've published. Sometimes there isn't time to show you everything (I had three hours of behind the scenes footage for episode one of The Morpheus Club!), and sometimes there isn't much to show at all. But I think it's important to give you at least a glimpse of the performers' out-of-character moments. And I'm sure they'll let me know if they think I've rose-tinted anything!
The Morpheus Club: Pandora's Initiation was one example of a more stressful shoot - at least for me. Four actors, only one crew member, dozens of different shots, no storyboard and a director who was bottoming. This shoot was only ten months ago but I'd do it very differently now. But we did it, and the only person who got upset was me. Even after Hywel graciously took over directing responsibilities, I was still too uptight to relax into the CP, and wimped out during the final caning.
Eh, it happens. Everyone was great about it, and Amelia reassured me by telling me that bravery doesn't always work well on camera anyway. And I think she and Hywel had fun despite my fretting. You can watch it all in the behind the scenes video:
Pandora's Initiation: behind the scenes
24 minutes of behind the scenes footage, and that's even after editing! Laughter and cameraderie between takes, and lots of kinky negotiation and discussion as four enthusiasts collaborate to create a unique scene.
On this occasion, Pandora struggles to direct as well as act, and ends up asking the experience Hywel to step in and help her direct. But she still finds it hard to let go and relax into the scene, and has to ask for a break during the final caning. A candid, honest look at the difficulties, as well as the fun side, of improvised BDSM film-making.
This is one of my favourite photos of Mike ever:
Although Trish snapped some amazing candid photos, the behind the scenes video accompanying our latest film Marital Discipline is much shorter and sweeter. No stresses or difficulties on this shoot, thank goodness - everything went delightfully smoothly. We edited most of the shots in camera so there's not huge amounts to show you, but there's some chatter between takes and a couple of gigglesome moments. I filmed two interviews with Mike and Dana on that shoot which I'll publish as the other two scenes go up.
Marital Discipline: behind the scenes
Take a peek behind the scenes during the filming of 'Marital Discipline'. Mike and Dana talk nipple piercings, the difficulty of shuffling with your pants round your ankles, and how long it was since he was last clean shaven. Includes some in-character dialogue and a first take of the ending not used in the final movie.
Five years ago, I had no interest in F/M. I had nothing against it; it just wasn't my kink. As a female spankee it didn't seem relevant to my experience.
Then I kept hearing from toppy/switch women frustrated with the lack of sexy imagery focussing on male subs and bottoms. I subscribed to the groundbreaking Filament Magazine (sadly now ended) and learned about the female gaze, and the need for more women to create erotic imagery aimed at women. I read the archives of Male Submission Art and started to notice the way that submissive male performers are sidelined and even mistreated by the adult industry. This is not only unfair and contrary to the principles of ethical production, but it's a feminist issue too. Women have just as much right to quality porn catering to their sexual desires as men, and many women want to look at hot men. The adult industry has some catching up to do.
In December 2008 I filmed my first F/M material with Zoe and Jimmy, found it just as hot as any other spanking content, and started to wonder why I'd never looked at it before.
The longer I spent on the scene, the more I realised that the reason I'd never sought out F/M was that I'd never seen any I liked. Partly this is because of the gender segregation practised by so many websites. I'd never been exposed to it. But since then I've started looking, and I can find very little F/M which eroticises, which celebrates, the male spankee.
Nowadays I identify as a switch, and have enjoyed spanking a few male bottoms in my time. I don't just enjoy the power trip of spanking a man: I enjoy his body, too; the curve of his bottom, the way his toes curl, the subtleties in his voice and his breath. I find a range of male bodies aesthetically pleasing, from the lean to the soft to the chunky, and I find them no less aesthetically pleasing while being spanked.
If I'm watching a man being spanked on video then the male spankee's body isn't an unfortunate side effect of the spanking experience. It's the point. I want to see his body in all its glory. I want to see his face while he's spanked, I want close ups of his wide eyes, bitten lips and flushed cheeks. On video, I want to hear him yelp and catch his breath. I want to see him kick. I don't want to see an anonymous, nameless bottom thrashed by a domme who pouts at the camera rather than connecting with her sub.
Look at any blog or site which publishes F/M imagery. How many male spankees are named? How many have their faces shown? I'll give you a clue: it ain't many.
If I'm watching F/M, I'm in the delicious position of identifying with both halves of the couple. My toppy side identifies with the domme, imagines having that boy to play with. I want the boy to be fuckable, because this is porn and I'm shallow like that. I want to see male spankees who are easy on the eye. But my top side wants to know what he's like, this boy being spanked. What's his name? What's he like? What turns him on? How does he react when you do this? If I'm topping a guy I don't want to play with a piece of meat I don't know from Adam, without ever seeing his face. I want to get to know him, find out what makes him tick. I want to look into his eyes and see the effect I'm having.
Then there's my bottom side. The spankee in me empathises with the male bottom; imagines myself in his place. In order to identify with him, he needs to have an identity. I can't identify with a nameless, personless bottom floating near Mistress Whatsername. I want to identify with a person: I want to watch his journey, understand his experience.
Top and bottom, it adds up to the same thing: I want F/M that shows me a male spankee with personality. I know I'm not alone in wanting this. I've spoken to huge numbers of people who share my frustration. In order to find spanking porn which focuses on the male spankee I have to watch M/M - and I do. But what does that tell you about the extent to which the industry caters to a male audience?
At this point people argue with me: what's wrong with liking F/M that focusses on the domme? It's very popular, after all; lots of people like it. I would like to state, for the record, that I don't think there's anything morally wrong with that mode of F/M. (I do think there's something morally wrong with an industry that refuses to pay male bottoms for their time or expenses, but that's an aside.) Aesthetics and sexual desire are subjective, and if that's your kink, that's okay. It may not be what I like, but I'm not trying to take it away or criticise anyone for liking it. If that's what you want to see, great: I'm glad so many people are catering to your desires. But my desires, and the desires of everyone else I've talked to, male and female, who wants to see porn that celebrates male spankees, currently aren't catered to, and that's the problem I want to address.
My aim is to expand the scope of the genre, not restrict it. Watch femdom with my blessing, if that's what you like. In the meantime, for the rest of us, I offer a new angle on F/M: malesub.
Five years ago, F/M wasn't my thing. It turns out I just wasn't watching the right F/M. Done right, F/M is absolutely my thing. Put it this way: I found this video such a turn on that I got wet while editing it. Repeatedly. At the end of each work day, this was what I was fantasising about.
Frustrated with Mike's behaviour despite regular discipline, Dana initiates a little regression. Freshly spanked, bathed and shaved baby smooth, her bratty husband is transformed into a good little boy.
When I sat down with Mike before our shoot to discuss scene ideas and asked him if he had any particular fantasies he'd like to explore, he confessed that he didn't often fantasise about spanking: age play was much more his thing. I've become increasingly interested in the psychology of age play lately, and "little boy/girl" and child/parent roleplay definitely has a place within my kink. It's also very compatible with spanking and discipline, and I've already published a couple of "little girl" photosets on this site.
Of course, one has to be very careful to make it clear that age play is exactly that - roleplay. I thought it might be fun to make that explicit by introducing an age play/regression dynamic into a consensual adult discipline scenario. Mike provided the adorable pink dropseat jammies he wears here, and gamely volunteered to be shaved in order to make the transformation more dramatic. Other than that, I gave Dana and Mike the freedom to take the scene where they would. And boy, did they run with it.
I am in love with so many aspects of this scene: from the playful, affectionate, sexy flirtation between husband and wife which seamlessly integrates with the discipline dynamic; to the mutual trust and respect between both the performers and the characters, and the sensual intimacy of the bathtub sequence. I have a dozen favourite moments but the absolute best ones were all unscripted. Here are my top two:
Early on in the scene, Dana challenges Mike: "Who agreed to this relationship, and the terms of it?" Mike starts to give the reply he thinks she's looking for: "I did". But almost immediately he stops and changes it to we: "We did."
I fucking love this. The connection and charge between them is immediately ramped up. It moves the conversation from adversarial ("whose fault is this?"), to negotiative, co-operative ("how can we fix this?"). It shifts the focus onto the relationship, the consensual, equal partnership between the two of them. Which makes the ensuing punishment so much hotter.
Towards the end, Dana has a much more obedient, happy, spanked Mike over her knee and is explaining to him that the final part of his punishment will be an early bedtime sleeping on the sofa, and he won't be allowed back into the big bed with her until he's proved he can behave. "Understand?"
"Yes what?" Mike laughs. "Come on, I want to hear you say it."
Behind the camera, I'm wondering what Dana likes to be called. Miss? Ma'am? We haven't discussed it. I'm intrigued to see how this will play out.
Mike is laughing nervously. "Say what?"
Nervous, blushing, smiling from ear to ear, Mike eventually whispers: "Yes, Mummy." And I melt in a puddle on the floor.
I believe that most CP enthusiasts will find something to enjoy in this scene. The sexual chemistry is sizzling, the roleplay is convincing, warm and funny. Mike is gorgeous, and I defy the ladies not to be won over by his dazzling blue eyes and transformation from neatly bearded man to adorable, babyfaced little boy. Dana is smoking hot, teasing and playful with a hard hand and unquestionable authority.
And oh my god, just look at this bottom:
Even if F/M isn't usually your thing, give this one a try. It might surprise you.
I'm super excited to announce the publication of Dana for Senator, our première scene starring Mike Stryker and Dana Kane. This is the first of four spanking scenes that we filmed on our recent video shoot. Here's the trailer:
This was Mike's first ever dedicated spanking shoot, although he's performed in adult video before, and it was an honour to watch his bottom redden under Dana's expert attentions.
Given how formidable a spanker she is, it's fortunate that Dana is also such a kind, gracious person. She put Mike and I instantly at our ease, and the three of us found lots to chat about as the day progressed. You can catch up with some of our gossip in the behind the scenes video.
Both Mike and Dana are great fun to roleplay with. This scene started life very simply as an F/FM office punishment, but between us it quickly gained depth. I love blending politics with punishment, as anyone who's watched Non-Violent Resistance will be aware, but this was the first time we'd run an electoral politics scenario.
I'm a big fan of The West Wing, and corporal punishment seems to fit pretty neatly into the urgency, efficiency and eccentricity of a well-run political campaign. I reckon Councillor Dana Kane's campaign office sounds like a great place to work!
The most amazing part of this scene, for me, was the pleasure of playing for the first time with both Dana and Mike, and the privilege of watching Mike's bottom mark up so dramatically. As well as acting alongside them, it was my job to look after both of them, particularly Mike, and make sure they were feeling comfortable and having fun. So watching his face closely as he was spanked to keep an eye on how close we were to his limits was, of course, purely professionally motivated. Not perving at all. Nope.
But there was lots more to enjoy: Mike's well-chosen shiny underwear, for instance, which made Dana coo appreciatively way between shots; the warmth of Dana's dominant persona, despite her firmness, and the sense that her character genuinely wanted to help ours learn and improve. Plus the fourth-wall-breaking irony of the two of us getting into trouble for the blank fax confirmations, which was all the fault of the producer for poor attention to detail in the props department. The producer, of course, being moi. So I got what I deserved, I guess, but it was a bit unfair for poor Mike!