A good spanking is a skill - for spanker and spankee both. Your intention, your technique and your negotiations with each other as play partners all make a huge difference to the overall experience for both parties, but how can you navigate that in a way that creates the session you’re both looking for?
Our performers have learned a lot about this over the years, but in many of our films their tricks are almost invisible. This week we’re taking you behind the scenes to show you some of what’s really happening when we create our fantasies: how to position someone over your lap, how to cup or flatten your hand to give a variety of sensations, how to discuss a spanking in advance and make sure you’re both on the same page.
At the same time, our Hand Spanking Demo shows a beautiful connection between the performers starring in it. Molly’s clearly very much enjoying her role as demonstration bottom here - she’s been waiting a while for this spanking from Zoe, and Zoe certainly doesn’t disappoint.
There’s a lot to learn from this film - and even if you’re an old hand yourself, we’re sure you’ll enjoy the chance to watch two gorgeous spanking pros enjoying each other’s tips, tricks and company. Not to mention Molly’s beautiful bottom!
Kink education has always been a big part of what we’re trying to do here. Dreams of Spanking is a porn studio, but it’s also a community: a place where spanking fans can find out what they like, what they want to try next and how to go about doing it in a way that’s fun and safe for everyone involved.
We got some great films out of our day shooting with Stephen, Kelley and Becci. By the end of the afternoon they’d been to school, undertaken a severe workplace discipline session and given Kelley a fantastic birthday surprise, and that wasn’t even all of it! Once the stories had been told, Becci found themselves with a beautifully warmed-up bottom - and, well, it seems a shame to waste it...
If you’d like to learn more about the mechanics of spanking, Show & Tell is a great place to start. All three performers bring some lessons of their own to the table, from Kelley’s tips on spanking stances to Becci’s description of how a sjambok is used. Of course, the film isn’t only educational; you’ll also get to see Becci stretched beautifully out across a spanking bench, gasping and squirming as Stephen and Kelley demonstrate some techniques.
Perhaps the most exciting thing of all about this film is the sjambok. It’s a favourite implement of Becci’s, and one of the first they were ever beaten with - but neither Kelley nor Stephen had used one before this was filmed. We’ve never featured one on the site before, so it’s been a new experience all round!
Remember our recent Guest Director release The Credit Card? If you need your memory jogged a little, it’s the one where the stunning Sha Luciana gets her incredibly spankable behind roundly warmed by her husband Pharaoh, following his discovery of her latest credit card bill. I’m sure you remember it anyway, of course; a spanking like that is hard to forget!
Anyway, when that came out we promised you a little something more to follow - and we always keep our promises. This weekend we’re excited to announce the release of some exclusive behind-the-scenes footage that gives us all a chance to get to know Pharaoh and Sha a little better - and see some more of her perfect bottom, too.
This film is amongst the most intimate and personal footage we’ve released here on Dreams of Spanking. The beauty of Pharaoh and Sha’s content is that everything you see is real; most of their films show punishments Sha would have received whether the camera was rolling or not.
There’s a casual, conversational tone to the whole clip, and they really make you feel like you’re hanging out with them listening to them chat. They’ve also got a special surprise in store at the end - what do you reckon Sha’s getting punished for this time?
We recently posted a Performer Spotlight featuring Pharaoh and Sha Luciana - the First Couple of the spanking world. We’re delighted to now be releasing their new domestic discipline film The Credit Card, which is also the next installment in our Guest Director series. Here’s a pro tip - you’re going to want to watch it immediately.
First of all, Sha has one of the most perfectly spankable butts I have ever seen. Seriously: I’m exclusively a sub, and even so my immediate thought when she first bent over in front of the camera was hell yes. From the OTK warmup in tight white jeans to the bare-bottom spanking that leaves her writhing and crying out, Sha looks incredible.
Secondly, Pharaoh really knows what he’s doing. In the introductory clip he describes himself as “definitely a hardwired spanko”, and he is not wrong. The punishment he administers is hard, fast and perfectly calculated; I’m pretty sure some of those unrelenting strokes must have hurt his hand almost as much as they hurt Sha’s backside!
Thirdly - and best of all, from my perspective - everything about this film is completely authentic. Sha’s spending spree was real, and her punishment for it was real too. What this film gives us is a glimpse into their relationship; we get to see how connected they are and how much they trust each other. We get to see that Pharaoh knows just how hard a punishment Sha can take, and we get to see the tears in her eyes when the pain is at its climax. There’s a beautiful, tender moment toward the end, where she’s looking up at him once the punishment is done, and the depth of their relationship is in their eyes.
We’ve been excited about all of our guest director films, and this one is no exception. If you enjoy it as much as I did, you’re in for a treat: we’re soon to be releasing a behind-the-scenes chat between Pharaoh and Sha, featuring a demonstration of a domestic discipline punishment you’re bound to love.
We’ve got a midweek update for you to start October off right. Pandora has a new purple slip, and given their exhibitionist proclivities they wanted to show it off for us! If you enjoy high heels, seamed stockings, lacy underwear and cheeky grins, this one’s for you.
With plenty of suggestive poses to show off Pandora’s beautifully spankable bum, it makes for a great weekday quickie!
Pandora tells me that her latest photoset, Provoking a Caning, was shot by her real-life partner Felix, in the honeymoon phase of their early relationship. You can feel the erotic tension in these pictures. Pandora, in a sexy little black dress, is in the mood for both pain and pleasure. She poses provocatively, giving both Felix and the viewer a flash of her nipples, a glimpse of her arse and then plenty more. She knows what she wants, and she plans to get it.
Felix isn’t going to put up with the impudent teasing for long, though: soon the clear red stripes of an expertly-wielded cane start to appear on Pandora’s bum-cheeks. She’s shown bending over, with her hands on the sofa, dress rolled up and sporting a cute pair of fuck-me shoes. More cane welts appear as the set progresses, and soon Pandora is lying face down on the sofa, displaying her marks. While you never see the cane being wielded, it’s easy to imagine the impact, the swish, the thud and the sting, and Pandora’s aroused whimpers. A few face close-ups show the expression every affectionate, horny sadist loves to see on the face of a well-thrashed submissive.
Much of the joy in this set comes from what is not shown but can be imagined: the flirty dialogue between two people who are hot for one another and still enjoying the process of discovery; the progression from tease-and-please to lusty, urgent impact play… and then what might come afterwards. There’s something both arousing and endearing about getting a little glimpse into a private world which a couple are happy to share with us. It will warm your heart – and probably your parts as well.
I’m going to do something I try to never do when I write: I’m going to preface this article. I wouldn’t usually, but the material is personal and incomplete and may seem a bit rambling and disconnected. However, I suspect that I’m not alone in the questions and conclusions that I’m mulling over, so please bear with me and hopefully there’s a kernel or two that resonates or contributes to a bigger conversation.
When I set out to watch Fetish Fvckdolls 2 (which if you haven’t watched it, I’d encourage you to do so at your earliest convenience) I wasn't expecting it to be a big deal. I’ve blogged here before about how watching porn that’s “not your usual taste” or incongruent with your own desires is interesting and can be enlightening. I was pretty sure that a collaboration by queer and trans performers like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 would be just that: interesting, but not my cup of tea.
Why? Well, I’m a straight-identifying, dominant-leaning cisgender woman who almost exclusively watches gay male chastity porn. Specific? Yup. And really kind of a world away from transfemme submission, which is the overarching main theme running through the four vignettes in Fetish Fvckdolls 2. You can see then how I might have thought that my interest in the film would be purely academic. Interestingly, it was not.
Now, I’m not here to say that this film changed me, nor should the incomplete epiphanies on sexuality that I’m sharing here be mistaken for me jumping on a bandwagon. Neither of those are true. What does feel true, is that I’m feeling really aware of my straight privilege after watching this film.
If you’re a straight person and that term makes you uncomfortable … I feel you. But it should make you uncomfortable. Privilege is a pervasive and dangerous thing when not acknowledged. Honestly, how two-dimensional of me to discount a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 as something that couldn’t touch me, something that I wouldn’t be able to identify with! How ridiculous and heteronormative of me to presume that I wouldn’t relate to these scenes. If it was mainstream lesbian porn (you know, the kind performed by cis women for the straight male gaze) would I have been so dismissive? Probably not, because I’m a straight woman who has had sex with other straight women and I’m blisteringly aware of the weight of the male gaze. But I presumed that I wouldn’t relate, or be aroused, by this.
Confused and intrigued, I discussed my bias with my husband, who has recently (or in his words: finally) self-identified as asexual. He watched part of Fetish Fvckdolls 2 with me and commented immediately that he hadn’t even noticed that the performers were trans until the fourth vignette because he was witnessing them as human beings, rather than sexual fantasies. I was surprised by that, because for me transfemme visibility is the point of the project. He asked what would make a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 more “my kind of porno”. I didn’t have an answer because I was processing that actually, this is my kind of porn.
Confused? Me too.
How could I think that gay male chastity porn is more relatable to me than porn that has trans women at the heart of it? Am I secretly kind of a bigot? But I know and love so many queer and trans people! Am I not as straight as I thought? Maybe, but that’s not the primary concern for me. The concern is that even though I think I know so much about sexuality, it turns out I don't know as much as I thought.
Yes, yes, we like what we like. The heart/loins want what they want. But it’s becoming evident to me now that the shackles of straight privilege (ie: never having to consider your sexuality or have it challenged, because it’s the cultural default setting) are just that: shackles.
What Fetish Fvckdolls 2 taught me about myself is that heteronormative thinking is limiting because the definitions are so static. “Straight” doesn’t leave much room for variety. Any “exploration” within straight sexuality is expected to be episodic, or at the most, a phase. So when, as a “straight” person, I watched this film, it was a bit dizzying to not see the performers as fantasy objects, and to relate to them on a human level. It revealed to me things I hadn't known before about how objectifying my gaze tends to be.
Fetish Fvckdolls 2 is radical and fresh. It puts trans women at the center of each encounter. Not only are they the subjects of their own experience, they are shown in willing and delighted submission. Not here the degrading porn tropes that cast trans women as exotic freaks with hard cocks, or strip them of autonomy - no, the trans women in Fetish Fvckdolls 2 are very clearly represented as the people they are. Full stop.
I learned that my erotic appetite, regardless of whom I choose to get frisky with, is essentially about the treatment and experience of the people involved, not the combination of bodies I see on the screen. I began to reflect on what turns me on and what turns me off in adult entertainment: it’s not the bodies at all. It’s the dynamics. I haven’t ignored trans porn in the past because it was trans. I've ignored it because when it’s badly done, it’s so likely to be dehumanising.
Fetish Fvckdolls 2 has been made with such smart and mindful intentions by everyone involved that the sexiness absolutely transcends all notions of genre and the limitations of what I thought I could be into. I watched the film three times. It’s 90 minutes long. It took me almost 5 hours of watching this film and then more time processing the experience for me to begin to get my head around these personal biases and blindspots.
What I have learned from Fetish Fvckdolls 2, what I’m so glad to begin to understand about myself, is that I like porn because I watching people fuck. Not just men, not just straight people, not just cishet couples. What I don’t like in porn is mindless and narrowly conceived narratives, and hegemonic control of my gaze. I’m not comfortable knowing that I have been a contributor to that mindlessness, a cog in the wheel of a cultural and artistic system that holds people back, misrepresents them and strips them of humanity, no matter how subtle the effect seems to be.
Having realised that, I want to do better. I know that I won’t always get it right, but only good can come from growth and empathy. And besides, if nothing else, a whole new world of porn just opened up to me, so if you’ll forgive me, I have some catching up to do …
So much of the delight of porn is the fantasy, isn’t it? We seek storylines and situations that turn us on and tickle our imaginations, allowing us to transport ourselves into the scene and vicariously experience the unknown. As someone who has had a long-standing interest in spanking and being spanked, I realized while watching Pandora’s Birthday Caning, featuring Pandora Blake and Sarah Gregory, that of course spankings can be lighthearted and loosely structured, all while remaining intense and enthusiastically consensual. It’s sometimes easy to forget that spanking, both giving and receiving, can absolutely be a joyful, exuberant act - it needn’t be limited to discipline, humiliation, punishment, or the other more traditional tropes of the genre.
This spanking film shows how fun and friendship can be excellent catalysts to very exciting spanking and caning porn. If you want to watch quality porn films (and clearly you do if you’re here), palpable chemistry between porn performers should be a basic requirement, in my opinion. Even if the scene is less sexually charged, chemistry doesn’t fall to the wayside.
Pandora’s Birthday Caning is a refreshing film in that sense. There is no obvious seduction, no pantomime of desire. The genuine comfort and authenticity between Pandora and Sarah proves that two people having a warm and sincere conversation alongside OTK spanking can be immensely gratifying to watch. Pandora and Sarah are clearly very comfortable with one another, and that comfort provides a soft and stable grounding to this unscripted, behind the scenes porn film. In lieu of theatrical roles, we get to see sparkling smiles, shy eye contact, sincere compliments and genuine excitement about the thrills of discovering, honing and thoroughly enjoying spanking both professionally and privately.
I absolutely appreciate how genuine this lesbian spanking film is. It’s a conversation between friends and colleagues that creates space for casual erotic experiences to unfold. For me, being able to be a “fly on that wall” is not only intimate and fascinating, it removes the ‘fourth wall’ and makes the whole scene more approachable and accessible than more scripted and dramatic productions. While ‘amateur porn’ has a similar authenticity, a grittiness and realness, and also often lowers that fourth wall, there’s something lovely about watching a personal, candid scene unfolding between two consummate professionals like Pandora and Sarah, shot and edited to professional quality.
I love and appreciate when films can help give you a new perspective on things. In this case, Pandora’s Birthday Caning has given me a new way of looking at spanking that I can now take away with me, continue to mull, and incorporate into my own experiences and fantasies - which makes this film the gift that keeps on giving.
After a quiet year, I have some big news.
I’m stretching my creative wings again with some new queer porn collaborations. Last weekend I filmed a scene with Courtney Trouble and Chelsea Poe with me and Chelsea performing together, which was a dream come true. I have a massive porn crush on Chelsea and we had so much fun. Our scene was (of course!) very kinky and involved butch/femme dynamics, spanking, flogging, makeouts, Chelsea making me squirt everywhere with her fingers and tongue (she kept asking me to cum on her tits, which I’ve never done before - it was very horny) and me sitting on and fucking her face with my cock until we were both drenched in jizz. Chelsea had to hop in the shower afterwards to rinse my cum out of her hair. It was so great to connect with her and I hope we get to work together again.
Courtney, who was our videographer, was so great to work with and made everything super easy. They were warm, sweet and welcoming, delightfully enthusiastic about my gender expression, and helped me get over my nerves. I stopped getting regular pre-shoot anxiety ages ago, but it was a bit scary shooting with two porn icons whom I’ve admired from afar for years. I’m so so glad to have worked with them both and can’t wait to release the finished scene, which is a collaboration and will be distributed through QueerPorn.tv, Dreams of Spanking and other channels.
It's coming. And so are we...
Sometimes a good, long over the knee spanking is all you need to melt. To feel the stresses of the world around you slip away as you surrender yourself to sensation. And with this film, a no-frills, unscripted erotic hand spanking, you will feel yourself melting along with Pandora. I know I did.
Wearing beautifully elegant black lace knickers and hold-up stockings, it doesn’t take long for Pandora to be turned into a puddle of bliss. John Phillips’s firm hand takes her through a long, slow warm-up, ramping up the erotic tension and building a rhythm that has Pandora saying “yes please”.
Confession: that’s pretty much exactly what I was saying too.
There are so many things I like about this scene. Its rawness. The light (because I am both a sucker for beautiful light and also a massive nerd). The moments where the camera closes on Pandora’s face as she flashes us a grin of approval. The build-up to a climax of twelve hard spanks... plus a couple extra for good measure.
Don’t get me wrong; I love getting lost in a good story. I like frills. I like well-thought out scenarios and dramatic build up. But sometimes simple is the most effective way to my heart. And this scene is so gorgeous because of its simplicity. Just Pandora, receiving a delectable, shiver-inducing over the knee spanking.
Sometimes that’s all you need to melt. Even when you’re just watching.