A fetish is as unique as the person who enjoys it. Within the broader terms we use to describe what we’re into - spanking, humiliation, ageplay - there are all kinds of specifics that belong only to us. What do you long to be spanked with? Which words most get you going? Is there a particular kind of school uniform or other clothing that turns you on to wear, or see others wearing?
Our latest release, ‘Come Here Young Lady’, is a custom-made fantasy for one of our viewers. I don’t know exactly what they requested (only Pandora does; your privacy is important to us!) but there’s a lot to love about this film: so much of what makes it hot is in the small details, the way Pandora makes the viewer feel like they’re being undressed and scolded and shamed. It’s also of course an F/f ageplay scene, which regular readers of the blog may have noticed is right up my street!
If there’s a particular fantasy close to your heart that you’d like to see Pandora bring to life, everything you need to know can be found on our new customs site. In the meantime, head over to our newest release to let Pandora - and her favourite spanking slipper - put you right in your place.
Porn takes many forms. Many people assume it’s all about people with idealised bodies engaging in aggressive fucking, but we know that’s only a small part of it: there is porn for every niche, starring every body type, catering to every audience. And of course it comes in so many different formats too, including audio stories and photo galleries.
The jerk-off instruction video (JOI) has become incredibly popular. People have been telling each other what to do in bed since time immemorial - and as a pornographic genre, it's really found a foothold once everyone started carrying little video studios around in their pockets. As DIY porn has exploded, particularly in this strange new post-pandemic landscape, swathes of new small, independent pornographers have been looking for ways to engage their viewers shooting solo in the bedrooms. What better way to do that than to involve the viewer directly?
Point of view scenes are intimate and carry a powerful punch with the feeling that your favourite porn star is speaking directly to you. They know you're probably wanking while watching their video - and if they tell you exactly how they want you to do it, it adds an extra layer of excitement. You can now get JOIs aimed at male and female viewers - this one is aimed at cock owners, as it was a custom film ordered by a viewer. If you'd like us to produce a cunt-oriented JOI film, leave a comment on this post!
Our latest film, Bend Over New Boy, combines a school caning POV with Pandora in the role as gleefully sadistic prefect with a naughty strap-on fuelled JOI, all in prim and proper English school uniform. A follow up to our recent caning JOI film A Visit to the Schoolmaster, this is a story of tables turned and bottoms beaten with a subversive little twist. Imagine yourself in the role of helpless new boy during his first term at school, facing the cane for the first time... and whatever's in your pants, touch yourself as much as you like.
We’ve got a midweek update for you to start October off right. Pandora has a new purple slip, and given their exhibitionist proclivities they wanted to show it off for us! If you enjoy high heels, seamed stockings, lacy underwear and cheeky grins, this one’s for you.
With plenty of suggestive poses to show off Pandora’s beautifully spankable bum, it makes for a great weekday quickie!
Pandora tells me that her latest photoset, Provoking a Caning, was shot by her real-life partner Felix, in the honeymoon phase of their early relationship. You can feel the erotic tension in these pictures. Pandora, in a sexy little black dress, is in the mood for both pain and pleasure. She poses provocatively, giving both Felix and the viewer a flash of her nipples, a glimpse of her arse and then plenty more. She knows what she wants, and she plans to get it.
Felix isn’t going to put up with the impudent teasing for long, though: soon the clear red stripes of an expertly-wielded cane start to appear on Pandora’s bum-cheeks. She’s shown bending over, with her hands on the sofa, dress rolled up and sporting a cute pair of fuck-me shoes. More cane welts appear as the set progresses, and soon Pandora is lying face down on the sofa, displaying her marks. While you never see the cane being wielded, it’s easy to imagine the impact, the swish, the thud and the sting, and Pandora’s aroused whimpers. A few face close-ups show the expression every affectionate, horny sadist loves to see on the face of a well-thrashed submissive.
Much of the joy in this set comes from what is not shown but can be imagined: the flirty dialogue between two people who are hot for one another and still enjoying the process of discovery; the progression from tease-and-please to lusty, urgent impact play… and then what might come afterwards. There’s something both arousing and endearing about getting a little glimpse into a private world which a couple are happy to share with us. It will warm your heart – and probably your parts as well.
Here in the UK, the lockdown has changed all our lives profoundly - and as I’ve written about previously, shooting porn is no exception!
Performer-produced porn is nothing new; many of us who work in the industry already have experience of planning, filming, editing and promoting our own shoots from start to finish. These skills have never been more essential than they are right now, at a time when co-stars and camera operators are out of the question unless they’re people we already happen to live with.
That’s why everything in this simple first-person-POV clip is Nimue Allen’s own work, and it’s part of a growing genre of ‘lockdown porn’ that I’m sure we’ll see more of in the coming weeks. The viewer is cast as a wayward sub who has selfishly chosen to share a drink with friends despite the risk, and femdom Nimue must take your punishment into her own capable hands.
We love performer-produced porn here at Dreams Of Spanking, because it’s the perfect embodiment of our values. The performer has total control over every aspect of the shoot, so consent is baked right in and we’re given the chance to play with new themes and ideas at our leisure. When producing my own porn, I’ve often found it gives me the chance to try things out I might not have an opportunity to in another context - and of course our fans reap the benefit of that experimentation!
Nimue told me that she found shooting this scene to be “very therapeutic” - and I must say, I think being on the receiving end of the caning she describes would be pretty damn therapeutic too...
Watching Tight Trouser Tease got me thinking about bodies; my body, others’ bodies and just how much we are up against in terms of understanding and accepting our bodies. In this film, Pandora talks about the changes to their body during pregnancy and how delightful it has been. It led me to a few questions, the most challenging of which was: If loving our bodies is good for us, as we can hopefully all agree it is, why then do we appear to be in an almost global crisis when it comes to physical self esteem?
There is a lot of talk about bodies in media and culture right now, from censorship to sex work, to reproductive rights, gender autonomy, body image, and let’s not forget the age old debate of Fit v. Fat. Our bodies are constantly under scrutiny. One would think that with the world at large so up in arms about who can do what with their body, and the unreasonable “norms” we are expected to conform to, that we’d be kinder to ourselves in light of all that negativity. Sadly, these wounds run deep for so many, and getting out from under that systemic microscope can be a significant challenge.
Like many, I have personally been on a crusade to heal and improve my self-image of my body. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I have definitely picked up some jewels of wisdom along the way. Everyone’s path is different in this regard, but here are some reminders and strategies that I have found useful in navigating “body positivity”:
Habits are hard to change, but not impossible
Our words and actions are more powerful than we sometimes realize. One way in which this seems almost universally true is self-talk. If every morning while you brush your teeth you stare into the mirror and tell yourself how good, miraculous and worthy your body is, and how proud you are of all it accomplishes, you will inevitably be able to better embrace and accept your body than if you scowl and criticize and bully yourself.
But here’s the rub: that’s so much easier to say than do. It takes awareness, commitment and dedication to change those inner monologues. Be gentle with yourself. If you catch yourself being harsh, ask yourself if you’d say those same things to a friend or family member? You deserve the same respect you give others.
My body does an awful lot for me, and I bet yours does too. Sure, mine doesn’t rock climb or run very fast, it’s soft where it’s told it should be firm, but it’s mine, and I’m grateful for it. Health, disability, past trauma and how you were raised to feel about your body can all contribute to not feeling very grateful for the body you have.
An interesting and eye opening exercise is to literally take stock of your body and find all the reasons that it’s so great. Start at your feet and work your way up, finding positive things to say about as many parts of yourself as you can without solely acknowledging how things look. I don’t love the aesthetics of my legs, for example, but telling myself that they are too short and thick to be sexy won’t help me feel good about myself. Noting that they are strong and they take me places and allow me to do the things I love to do, makes me an ally of my legs. Suddenly we are on the same team - and I have bestowed value on them that is not just about how they look.
Bodies are ever-changing … and that’s a good thing!
If you stopped reading this article and looked at your body right now, you would find that much like all other bodies, regardless of size, fitness, wellness, etc, your body is constantly in flux. Our bodies are not static. They are ever changing, and forever giving us new and important information. It is easy to slip into thinking that the iteration of our body that we used to have when we were younger, or the body we could have if only we stopped eating dessert, are superior to the bodies we have right now. But if you wish that you could love your body more, you have to start loving it now. That sounds reductive and oversimplified, but it’s true.
How? Meet yourself, and your body, where you are.
If you want to make changes, do. Or not! But I can tell you this: it’s easier to change your body if you already love it before you ask it to change.
Take your body where it is appreciated
Working on your own body acceptance and celebration is a worthy effort, and something that can be very inspiring to those around you. But if you are met with hostility or resistance from others, or you’re simply tired of being caught up in someone else’s thoughts and feelings and projections about their own body, you owe it to yourself to manage your exposure to those sources of negativity. In short, don’t let anyone derail your efforts or convince you that you are any less worthy than you believe you are. If someone in your life is unable to be respectful and keep their negative comments to themselves, take your body where it is appreciated.
Being able-bodied, fit, thin, beautiful, etc. is not your cost of admission to a fulfilling life. You don’t owe anyone anything in terms of how your body looks or works. The more you believe that the less they can impact you with their own miserable agenda.
For most of us, it is a long and circuitous road to body acceptance and body love - but every journey begins with a single step, and only you can know what it is that you need to navigate in a world gone mad with impossible beauty standards and endless sources of shame. I’ll leave you with a quote from the groundbreaking 90’s African American girl group Salt-N-Pepa’s hit, I Am the Body Beautiful, that I have always found inspiring:
“There ain't enough words to express how I feel
I'm body beautiful, true, that's for real
Am who I am and that's all I can be
Open up your mind so your eyes can see”
POV porn films are a nicely immersive experience, though most of the ones I’ve seen in the past have been aimed solely at a male viewer. I once watched something that I’m sure was filmed by taping the camera to the end of the chap’s dick, which was a little disconcerting. Part of the charm of our latest film, Spanked and Scolded by Auntie Margaret, is that it is deliberately but not ostentatiously gender non-specific. Watching this video, so anyone who likes the idea of a proper old-fashioned OTK spanking from a dominant woman can feel that they are the one being thoroughly scolded, and about to feel that mean-looking hairbrush on their bare buttocks any minute.
Pandora, in her role as strict Auntie Margaret, wears a classy vintage outfit of frilled blouse, tight pencil skirt and wide patent belt, with a pair of deliciously intimidating black-rimmed specs. She’s also wearing vintage nylons. One of the nice touches which will thrill the vintage CP lover is the sound those stockings make each time she crosses and uncrosses her legs (and yes, you do get an upskirt flash or two of stocking-top.)
Something about this film put me in mind of my encounters with the Aristasian Empire back in the 90s: an all-female crew who were dedicated to vintage values, clothing, and domestic discipline: plenty of hairbrush spankings and stern lectures on it being for your own good were on the menu there. While I’m not in the least tempted to go over anyone’s knee myself, I enjoy Auntie Margaret’s classy charm, and the mixture of scariness and underlying mischief that comes across throughout. Her smirks left me wondering whether Auntie Margaret perhaps enjoys punishing naughty nieces and nephews a little too much...
It’s a simple premise, but effective: you-the-viewer know you’ve been bad and deserve everything you’re going to get, and the lovingly-detailed description of exactly what will happen to you and just how much it’s going to hurt, enlivened with various little mimes of pulling down your underwear and laying you over her lap, builds up the anticipation magnificently. It’s well-paced, with the tension increasing at a steady rate.
The effect on anyone who identifies as a brat or naughty little is easy to envisage. Go on, just think about how red your arse will get as you lie over Auntie Margaret’s lap, held firmly in place, with that wicked brush being wielded again and again, each stroke harder than the last one…
Two words to make any bumfan swoon: yoga pants. Two more: short shorts. This week's scene is not only a hot tease by a lady with a gorgeous bottom, it's a handy visual demonstration of just which clothes best show off a lovely bum. Pandora Blake is off on a date, and she just can't decide what to wear. So, from tight yoga pants to sexy short shorts, she shows you exactly what the options are, and just how nicely they all highlight the full curves of her big butt.
Personally, I'm a fan of yoga pants. No matter what shape your bottom, the tight fabric clings and hugs so well that – in my opinion – it'll look so deliciously spankable that it's pretty hard to resist. Despite the fact that they cover every inch of each buttock, they're so tight they're close to being naked. Obviously, Pandora works this outfit with exactly the style and confidence of someone who knows the appeal of a beautiful big bum.
Tight shorts are to a bottom what dangling jewelry is to a cleavage – they're like a highlighter, pointing right at something beautiful and saying 'look! Appreciate me!' When I'm going up the escalators on the tube, a quick glance up and I never fail to spot one or two bums in tight shorts or trousers that I just want to... Hmm. Smack? Bite? Squeeze?
All of the above.
There's something incredibly satisfying about a lovely big bum. My bum, like the rest of my body, grows and shrinks on a relatively regular annual cycle – getting smaller in the summer when it's too hot to eat much, then getting nice and big and plump just after Christmas when I've gorged myself on roast potatoes. While the title of the video – Does My Bum Look Big in This? is a playful homage to worries about weight and body shape, I love that the video celebrates the sexiness of a deliciously big butt.
There's something very satisfying – and, of course, spankable – about a bottom with full curves. A big bum that you squeeze into a pair of jeans, letting the fabric stretch tight and taut across your buttocks.
I have a pair of short shorts that only come out in winter – partly because I hate having to shave my legs, so I want to wear them with leggings, but partly because in the summer the shorts don't fit quite right. They hang off me a bit, looking deflated and a bit sad. In winter, when I've plumped up a bit, they fit just right – tight and sexy. It's not just the way they look that I like, it's the way that they feel – cupping and hugging me tightly.
In Pandora's video, I'm torn between the tight short shorts as my favourite outfit, or the sexy yoga pants. Of course, there are definitely merits to the sexy tight pink shorts too, and I suspect there'll be some who prefer Pandora's bottom in just a flimsy black lace thong - or kneeling on the sofa with her knickers pulled down and cheeks spread. Whatever your preference, though, I can tell you one thing for sure: if you like big butts, you'll adore this.
In this blogpost I want to talk about intimacy. There are a million different ways you can establish intimacy with a partner, but establishing intimacy in art is a much trickier thing. How do you invite the viewer into a particular book, play or, in this case, porn scene?
Well, Pandora does just that in this week's video – she literally invites people in.
Lodger Wanted is a POV femdom tease – Pandora Blake plays the sexy landlady who invites you, the viewer, into her home. From the beginning you're placed directly into the scene, with the camera showing your first-person perspective as you follow her from room. Pandora also gives you some pretty intimate instructions - “I think there might be a stain on the back of my skirt, can you have a look?" - and some angry words if you're caught peeking.
The concept of viewer involvement in porn is pretty fascinating - it wasn't until very recently that POV porn has been possible. For most of human history pornographic material was necessarily something you'd see remotely – in paintings or drawings or woodblock prints. I'm not aware of any of this material taking a 'point of view' angle – although I'd be interested to know if it ever has. Are there woodblock prints drawn from the point of view of someone receiving oral sex? I suspect it wouldn't have occurred to the artist to do it. Perhaps those who were rich enough could afford live performances, but most people could only be as close to the performers as pen and ink would allow.
I tried to find out when the first POV porn was made, and it looks like – as withmany porn innovations – it first appeared in Japan. In the late 1980s it started as a niche concept, then gradually took off.
Now, though, there are a number of ways in which porn producers and performers share intimacy with their audience. From camming to blog comments, twitter and video blogs, many performers speak directly to their viewers, sometimes as recorded messages and sometimes as live interaction. The internet is an interactive medium, and now more than ever porn consumers are able to collaborate in the porn they watch - make suggestions, request customs, and submit ideas that can be turned into hot new films. Lodger Wanted is one of a growing number of viewer requested scenes on Dreams of Spanking - others include Bathtime and The Stableboy.
Then there's POV porn – like this femdom tease video which invites the viewer to play the part of the prospective lodger, shown around Pandora's home while she flirts and teases, sashaying through the house and deliberately bending over to show off the way the tight skirt hugs her round bottom, and eventually removing her stockings and suspenders, before lounging naked on the bed and scolding you for watching her.
I like the idea of POV porn for a whole heap of different reasons. Firstly, it's pretty inclusive when you think about it – in this scene the "lodger" could be anyone, of any gender or body type. Secondly, there's an extra-sexy thrill from the feeling that the performer is addressing you directly. You're not a voyeur, you're a participant - the main character (in this case Pandora's coquettish landlady) is flirting with you.
A long time ago, playing Grand Theft Auto with a partner (I know, I know, it's not exactly the most PC of video games) we ended up in a discussion about strip clubs in games versus stripping at the cinema. Obviously there are some mainstream films with stripping scenes that are intensely hot – Salma Hayek performing a striptease with a live python in From Dusk Til Dawn, for instance – but there was something about visiting the strip club in Grand Theft Auto that both of us found more arousing. Even though it was repetitive, unrealistic, and nothing like a real strip club, it was happening to us in a way that film stripteases we'd seen had struggled to capture.
Part of it came from our involvement - we'd pressed the buttons to get our character into the club in the first place - but another significant factor was the fact that it was shot from our point of view. We were looking directly through our character's eyes, and having what felt like a more immediate interaction.
The same is true of other video games I've played. I'm not a fan of running around shooting things to collect random points, but give me a game like Mass Effect, where you build relationships with other characters and – if you're charming enough – eventually have sex with them? I'm sold.
I'm not the only one either – games developers and designers are currently working on innovative ways to use virtual reality to make our porn dreams come true. From simple POV sex videos to full-on interactive games, virtual reality hardware like the Oculus Rift means that a few years down the line, there'll be even more ways for producers to conjure the same feeling of intimacy.
Although sometimes it's good to sit back and watch, safe and sound behind a fourth wall that performers never break, there's something hot about putting yourself directly in the picture.
And if you agree, well, go and knock on Pandora's door – she's very welcoming.