There's something utterly delicious about letting yourself go. I am always in awe of porn performers who can stay in character in the face of some intensely hot beatings. In fact I'd love to know more about how different performers prepare for a scene – how do you get in the right headspace for performing? Are there certain elements (like costume, dialogue rehearsal, a cup of tea with their co-performers) that each actor prefers before they start performing? Perhaps a topic I can tempt some of the Dreams of Spanking cast into exploring in another post...
I know that Pandora makes sure all our performers have the opportunity to shape the scenes they're in and control what happens on camera – the spanking, scenario and interaction. As well as being a crucial element in ethically produced porn, I suspect this also makes it easier to fully immerse yourself in a scene.
This approach is also a large part, for me, of what makes a porn video enjoyable to watch: seeing genuine pleasure as the participants let themselves get caught in the moment, relishing an erotic spanking that perfectly fits their own desires and kinks.
Our latest F/M film comes from just such a performer contribution, and as a result the video is a really candid depiction of the desires of the spankee. Ron Beastly – trans porn performer, gorgeous bear cub, and owner of more than his fair share of excellent pants – had been shooting some more traditional punishment scenes in the morning, and over lunch he requested a change of pace: a simple spanking for pleasure.
During his interview, Ron talks about the kind of spanking that he likes best - a pleasure spanking in which he can really let go. You can see the full interview on Ron's previous scenes (his introductory photoset, a magical school spanking, and an over the knee spanking from his 'big brother' Seani Love), but this spanking video includes some snippets of the interview too, so you can watch Ron's explanation as well as the gorgeous fulfilment of his desires side-by-side in the same video.
Ron explains that spanking actually hurts more for him if he can't wiggle around and respond freely. If he's supposed to pretend that he doesn't enjoy it, he doesn't enjoy it, as he needs to move his body freely in order to process the pain.
I can see exactly where he's coming from, and I think that's part of the joy of well-tailored spanking play, or any kind of pain play: the same intensity of smack can induce very different sensations or emotions depending on your perception of the scene – what your motivations are, whether you move or cry out, and a number of other things. I'll certainly be more hurt by a smack that comes as a 'punishment' than a smack that comes as a 'treat', and I love being able to explore both different feelings at different times.
The spanking in this video falls firmly into the 'erotic spanking' category, with Ron moaning and writhing with pleasure at the feeling of Pandora's hands on his bum. She caresses and holds him firmly over her lap as well as giving him a long, thorough over the knee spanking that varies in intensity as he responds to every touch.
The gorgeous thing about this little scene is that it so simply captures Ron's genuine reactions - you can identify the moment that he really lets go, and I loved his gleeful grin of pleasure as he arches his back and pushes his bum up to meet Pandora's hand.
This video is a really good way to get to know not only Ron, but another dimension of masochism and kink. I love the intimacy of it – watching someone else let go, getting inside their head and understanding a bit more about how kink works for them.
For me personally, I often find it easier to get that same feeling – heading to that happy place that's the perfect balance between pleasure and pain - if I'm masked or restrained. Something about struggling against my bonds, but feeling helpless, helps me to process the pain, and feel the smacks as tingling pleasure. I'm also similar to Ron, I think, in my desire to cry out: I enjoy something more if I can be a bit vocal – whether that's erotic moaning or just sharp intakes of breath.
I suspect what helps someone to relax into a spanking is as individual as the kind of spanking they like in the first place, but I'm really curious – so I'd love to hear in the comments if there's something in particular that helps you reach this kind of happy place....
And, of course, please do go and visit Ron in his happy place!
After our shoot with David Weston, Nimue and I headed across Bristol to meet with our next new male spankee - Ron Beastly. It was Ron who had recommended the fantastic studio we were using, as he lived nearby. We got together for dinner and a lovely evening of chatting and getting to know each other. It was clear the three of us had plenty of things in common beyond a mutual interest in making queer, ethical porn, and by the time we settled down for a good night's sleep I couldn't wait get started.
The day kicked off with two scenes for a new porn project Nimue and I are developing. This was our first shoot for the new site, which will be considerably more sexually explicit than Dreams of Spanking. Given Ron had previously done camming and escorting, he wanted to start with the hardcore scenes as being more in his comfort zone than the spanking scenes we had planned. Both scenes went well and were incredibly hot - if the rest of the shoots for the new project go as well then you are in for a real treat! I'll be posting more updates regarding this new hardcore site as things develop.
We also took some introductory photos of Ron for Dreams of Spanking, as we do with all new performers who have never done spanking porn before. He proved himself a natural flirt as he posed for the camera, and gradually revealed his body to show off his bare bottom until he was fully nude.
A furry trans man covered in natural ginger body hair, Ron is wonderfully comfortable in his skin. It's always a pleasure to shoot someone who so clearly enjoys being in front of the camera. I love giving new performers a platform to express themselves and indulge their natural exhibitionism!
At that point I had to make a conscious effort to stop taking pictures, or I would have got distracted taking art nude photos of his lovely furry body, and we would never have got round to the spanking...
Our male top for the day, Seani Love, arrived and we got ready for the first spanking scene.
In addition to their ginger furriness (talk about a great casting for father and son!) Seani and Ron share an interest in the magical, mystical and sacred. We will be exploring various fantastical themes in our shoot tomorrow, including beast play, werewolves, witches and wizards. The scene I'm most looking forward to, however, is the one I know least about. Seani and Ron are both practitioners of dark tantra and conscious kink, and so I will be opening the floor to them for a conscious kink ritual. I have no idea what it will look like, but I'm excited. (May 2014)
The first scene of the day evolved out of conversations with Seani and Ron, and was set in a certain school of witchcraft and wizardry. Ron's porn name, after all, is a play on Ron Weasley, and in this story Nimue played his swotty classmate who was too good at magic for her own good.
The potions master catches Ron sporting a large ginger beard, and upon questioning it transpires that he asked Nimue to cast a spell on him to help him grow facial hair! The spell backfired and Ron found himself with a huge ginger beard and covered in hair all over his body. The two are in big trouble for unauthorised use of magic, and their teacher wastes no time in giving them a firm ticking-off and bending them over the desk in his study for a spanking.
Both Ron and Seani were new to spanking roleplay, but this was a fun and lighthearted scene to warm up with. I also deliberately had Nimue get spanked first, partly to reassure Ron in real life that it wasn't going to be too terrible, and also to give him the chance to watch and see what would be expected of him.
Next I had wanted to cast Seani and Ron in a father/son scene for some over the knee hand spanking (I know how many of you are keen to see more embarrassing male/male OTK!). However, when we talked the scene through we realised that the guys felt too much like equals for the roleplay to feel convincing. Instead I cast them as brothers in a bratty domestic scene with plenty of arguing and talking back.
Ron is a student staying at his big brother's house during the summer, refusing to help out with the chores and spending all his time lazing around in his pants eating snacks and playing games on his phone. Seani lays down the law, but Ron is unimpressed by his brother's authoritative attitude - until Seani pulls him over the knee for a spanking with hand and slipper. This turned into a very entertaining scene, one of my favourites from the day, and really gave Ron the chance to let out his cheeky side!
Then it was time for lunch and a well-deserved break for Ron, who had done four videos already that morning! He really is a born performer, with boundless energy and enthusiasm in front of the camera. We filmed a video interview with Ron and Seani to give them a chance to introduce themselves and plug various projects they are working on, and then it was time for the afternoon - when we had some rather more unusual scenes lined up.
Drawing on Ron and Seani's love of the fantastical, Seani's experience as a kink professional helping men connect with masculine archetypes including the "Beast", and Ron's beast play fetish and self-defined identity as a furry creature, I'd written a scenario which combined all these elements. Seani played a magician who has captured a werewolf and intends to subdue it so he can use its power in a spell. The scene was very physical, with Seani using chains, a collar and lead, tone of voice, touch, punching and a singletail whip to tame the beast. Ron became very immersed in the role, snarling and growling and snapping at Seani. We even had bits of cured meat for Seani to feed the beast and use as rewards!
This scene had an incredible energy and was great fun to shoot, but very tiring, and afterwards as Ron came back into his body and his day-to-day identity he needed lots of cuddles and aftercare. I made sure he was well fed and snuggled up on the sofa to provide some much-needed strokes after being a poor mistreated beast. He even requested an out-of-character pleasure spanking from me, to help put him back into a good headspace. Well, it's a hard life, but someone's got to do it!
Finally, intrigued by the fact that both Seani and Ron are conscious kink practitioners, I gave them the floor to construct a ritual to do whatever they wanted. We talked long and hard beforehand about what to incorporate, and eventually the idea crystallised to have a ceremony honouring Ron and Seani's first professional porn shoot, integrating all the disparate elements of the day into a single scene. They centred the rite around the phrase "Solve et Coagula", which means to take apart and put back together.
This was a fascinating experience for me and Nimue behind the camera. I have been involved in rituals before and even led my own erotic magic rites as part of spanking scenes, but I had never tried to capture one on camera before. I wanted it to be as real as possible, without artifice, and I also wanted to try and break down the barrier between "performer" and "camera operator" and include all of us in the ritual space, both behind and in front of the camera.
So when Seani and Ron created the ritual container, they included me and Nimue, cameras in hand, inside the space. Cameras and camera operators were part of the rite. We broke the fourth wall and shamelessly got into each other's shots. The cameras - the fact of filming it - are part of this scene just as much as the performers. This also made it easier to get some intimate close-ups without worrying about catching each other in shot or "crossing the line". There was no line.
I had zero expectations or plans for this scene and gave the boys carte blanche to do whatever felt right to them. The resulting scene involved lots of tantric breath, impact play, ecstatic laughter and Ron begging to be hit harder, until he was flying on endorphins. That was the "breaking apart". Then Seani used rope to pull him back into his body and bring everything back together. Nimue and I held space while Seani tied him, and then we sat together with hands touching Ron, stroking him as he re-grounded and re-integrated. It was an amazing, intimate experience and a first for me as a director in many ways.
It is thrilling to continue expanding my horizons, taking the lead from the incredible performers I am so lucky to work with, and providing a space for them to express their kinks, their personalities and their sexualities on camera. Sometimes it leads to places I would never have expected, and that is so much more exciting for me than when everything follows the script I've written. I was humbled to work with Seani and Ron, and very grateful to them for putting so much creativity and energy into the shoot. I can't wait to share their scenes with the world!
You can read Ron's write up of this shoot on his personal blog here. His introductory photoset went live on the site this morning, and the spanking scenes will be published over the next few months. In the meantime, if you can't wait to see more, you can watch Ron's self-published solo scenes at his clips4sale store, and follow their adventures at their websites, Ron Beastly and Seani Love.