There's no stopping the freight train that is 50 Shades of Grey. Since the film opened in cinemas this weekend, you can expect a million more articles about it from kinksters and non-kinksters alike dissecting the story, the acting, and above all the consent.
Naturally the book is pretty controversial. It's a fantasy scenario, sure, but as the 50 Shades juggernaut rolled on and more people read articles about how to 'do' BDSM like Christian Grey did, a lot more people started getting worried that, you know, perhaps this weirdly stalky, abusive lead character wasn't the best role model for people just beginning to explore their fantasies.
I've been told I'm wrong on this, so feel free to angrily disagree with me, but as a general rule I'm uncomfortable telling people what they can and can't fantasise about. And while 50 Shades is clearly not the template for a healthy relationship, I'm not going to stand outside the cinema with a placard telling people it's causing them harm. Erika Moen put it brilliantly:
“I have faith in people to understand that the fictional book they're reading is just a trashy two-dimensional fantasy to get their juices flowing and not the blueprints by which to construct their actual relationships.”
But while it's certainly not a template for real-life kink, it's definitely a handy comparator when identifying mistakes, and looking at how we can do real-life kink better. So without further ado, here are five ways in which Dreams of Spanking is a hell of a lot better than That Bloody Book.
1. We're way better at negotiating
There's surely nothing less sexy than Christian Grey's bizarre 'sex contract', with bullet points and legalese obscuring the hotness of the acts he wants to perform. Loads of people have pointed out that the idea of an irreversible, non-negotiable 'contract' is laughable in BDSM, and they're right – no one gets to claim you as their sub 'forever' or hold you to clauses once they've stopped being sexy for you. But on top of that, there are much better ways to negotiate what you want in a scene. Let's see what we've got...
How about this amazing kinky spanking scene starring Caroline Grey and Will Savage? After blagging their way into a fetish club, they realise they haven't a clue what they're doing. With subtle questions, gradual escalation, and some aroused feedback from Caroline, he escalates to a full-on, knickers-down, over the knee paddling. They both have an amazing – all while trying not to let on that this is the first time they've ever done it - and not a contract in sight.
Or perhaps this beautiful bit of negotiation between Nimue Allen and Andrew Shada? The pair are on their first date, and there's clearly a spark that will appeal to romance fans. Andrew's shyness and Nimue's encouraging requests for a spanking are both cute and incredibly relateable. If Nimue can ask her beau for what she wants, so can you.
2. It's all consensual
I mean, this one should really go without saying. But the point I mainly want to make here is that, because Dreams of Spanking fulfils fantasies via roleplay, it has a broad scope to enact darker fantasies in an ethical, consensual way.
Scenes that involve an abuse of power or a particularly severe thrashing are always published with behind the scenes interviews and discussion. 50 Shades doesn't come with a separate interview in which Christian and Ana talk about how his abusive behaviour was just play-acting, and so it's much harder to draw the line between which aspects of a fantasy are hot because you'd never want them to happen for real, and which are things you'd like to do in real life. At Dreams of Spanking, we're able to make that distinction clear.
3. We switch it up
I read a lot of kinky erotica and watch a fair amount of porn, and one of the themes I often think about is the idea of roles. You play Christian Grey, I play Ana, and never the twain shall switch. But while there's certainly a place for strict roles that never waver, I love a bit of switching. Spanking someone who's going to spank you next adds a whole level of trust, as well as a frisson of sexy tension – if you spank them hard, are they going to get their own back? Not to mention a chance for some non-verbal negotiation as you show them exactly how you like it.
In 'Prove your Love' Michael Darling and Pandora Blake do one of the most balanced switch scenes I've ever seen, and in 'Beat the Recession', Nimue Allen and Sebastian Hawley take turns to spank each other on a money-saving celebratory night in. The best part of the second video, in my humble and pervy opinion, is when Nimue smacks both palms flat on Sebastian's beautifully-presented bottom.
4. Our romance is just more... interesting
Guy meets girl, guy wines and dines her, stalks her until she says yes and then they shag: as the premise of pretty much every mainstream romance ever, it's not exactly original. How about guy meets girl, girl gets a birch for Christmas and asks him to test it on her? Or perhaps guy meets girl, girl has hot fantasy about being a mistreated maidservant, and he surprises her on a Saturday morning by dressing up in period costume - and bringing a cane?
There's a time and a place for more traditional romance, of course – although you'll never see the “stalking is sexy” theme on Dreams of Spanking. One of my personal favourite photosets is Tangled With You – a stunning explicit gallery with Pandora and D being so hot and horny for each other it burns into every image. Which brings me neatly onto point five...
5. Our cast has chemistry
A couple of people have told me disdainfully that Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson (who play Christian and Ana in the 50 Shades of Grey film adaptation) don't really like each other that much. I don't know if this is true – to be honest I think I'd struggle to spend months working with someone I didn't like, so I doubt it. On the other hand, perhaps they've been put under so much pressure to capture a 'spark' that they're sick of the sight of each other by now. Either way, there's an easy way to get around the 'chemistry' issue when you're shooting porn: find people who really fancy each other, and ask them what they really want to do.
Dreams of Spanking scenes and ideas come from all manner of places, but the most vital is the performer fantasy element. When the people acting in a scene can help shape it with their own kinks and desires, what comes through is inevitably going to be natural and hot.
A beautiful example of this is Pandora's giggly caning at the hands of Paul Kennedy (who, by the way, I have a gigantic crush on). Not only is it something she's specifically requested, but it's so clear from her sexy sighs and excited giggles that Paul's catering to a genuine and heartfelt desire. Likewise with the gorgeous double caning that she begs from Nimue Allen and Thomas Cameron – you can watch the bliss suffuse her face as she counts out the strokes with audible pleasure, and moans in delight when she gets a bottom rub in between whacks.
What's more, Dreams of Spanking shoots porn performer couples like David Weston and Talia Lane, who are together in real life as well as on camera. In scenes like our latest Valentine's Day spanking special David and Talia just can't hide their natural flirty dynamic. And why would we want them to?
In case you'd reached the end of this and hadn't realised, every single link above goes to a different Dreams of Spanking scene. If you watched each scene, that'd still be less than 5% of what's available on the entire site. So if you're eschewing the cinema this weekend, grab yourself a subscription and have a rummage through our archive. All our films are downloadable, so once you've got them they're yours to keep forever, and watch whenever you like!
When I started blogging for Dreams of Spanking I felt a little overwhelmed by how much fantastic stuff there was in the spanking archives. Although I get to see the new hot spanking videos as they come out, I couldn't resist delving a little deeper to see if I could come up with a definitive list of my top five favourite scenes.
It's trickier than you'd think, probably because I find myself getting stuck in a particular mode for a while (“I love the strap – let's find all the videos that involve people getting strapped”) and then wandering off into another specific fantasy, before returning to one of my particular favourites and re-watching it a couple of times just to make sure it's exactly as fun as I originally thought it was (it always is).
I am also very aware how much my favourites are driven by my personal desires. When you read the list below you'll probably see deeper into my own filthy mind than even some of my partners have ventured.
My top five spanking videos will necessarily be different to your top five spanking videos, simply because porn is so personal, and everything pushes people's buttons differently. For me, anything that involves hot male subs, the strap, or a certain type of wittily brusque dominant will jump to the top of my own list. Other people might seek out a menacingly quiet top, the most severe caning they can find, or a very specific scene involving gorgeous historical costumes and a firmly-wielded riding crop.
So, after a lot of research (and by 'research' I mean exactly what you think I mean), here's an entirely subjective and quiveringly enthusiastic list of my top five spanking videos. Watch, enjoy, wander down your own avenues of spanking fantasy, then come back to the comments and recommend your own favourites.
“Am I making an impression on that smart mouth of yours yet?” Dana Kane is so far beyond superb in this spanking video that they haven't yet invented a word for her.
She plays a quick, witty, and very strict governess to two naughty youngsters – Pandora Blake and Michael Darling. I love her laser-accurate, painfully swift cane strokes and her withering, no-nonsense scolding. Her brusque, briskly efficient over the knee spanking with hand and paddle hits the spot too.
Above all, though, I am a total sucker for guys in make-up. The gender-bending elements in this scene and Michael wincing through his beautiful eyeshadow are a joy to watch.
When I started writing this post Pandora kindly sent me a list of suggestions to help me get started. This was the first one I clicked on, because she'd so temptingly titled it 'hot male spankees.' And she was not wrong.
It stars Michael Darling again (I cannot resist him - he has one of the most beautiful pain faces I have ever seen) and Sebastian Hawley, who has a gorgeously punky look that makes me weak at the knees. As they practice caning each other to see if they can take it, they get caught by their harsh schoolmaster, Thomas Cameron, who takes them inside for a much more severe punishment six of the best.
Punishment by proxy is an unusual scenario, and it grabbed my attention because there's a delicious thrill in two unwilling spankees being made to mete out discipline to each other.
Zoe Montana utterly rules (in both senses of the word) in this spanking video because she delivers such excellent, out-of-patience scolding, as well as a viciously effective over the knee hairbrush spanking.
But the real kick comes about four minutes in, when she orders the trembling twosome to punish each other. Properly. Pandora and Jimmy are both beautifully convincing as the terrified pupils caught breaking the six inch rule, and Zoe's special form of aversion therapy really hits home. Their teacher overrides their initial reluctance and ensures that they spank each other hard enough to really hurt.
A wet strapping for Andrew
This video was bound to be right up my alley because it contains two exceptionally gorgeous people. Andrew – a young, lean, beautiful submissive – and Thomas – a strong-armed, hotly angry top.
You might be able to tell, given that Thomas features in three of my top five videos, that I have a teeny bit of a crush on him. Teeny in the sense that the Amazon is a 'teeny' rainforest.
I love the scenario in this video - Andrew gets caught his sister soaking Pandora in a water fight, so he is hauled inside for on-the-spot punishment. This starts with a firm over the knee spanking over his wet underwear, before Andrew is made to bend over the table for some hard strokes with the strap. The beauty of his punishment is – as Thomas so rightly says - “It hurts more when it's wet.”
Lastly, I went on a really specific hunt. I wanted to find the video that – of all the amazing scenes on Dreams of Spanking – most captured one of my own fantasies.
When it's late at night and I'm lying in bed, one of the most common sex fantasies I reach for is that of the older guy punishing me as I try to struggle and get away. In the notes for this video, Pandora explains that one of the hot buttons for her is the severity of the beating which is disproportionate to her crimes. This tallies perfectly with what runs through my head when I'm alone at night: a severe beating from an older man, that makes me cry out in pain and anguish.
That's the primary reason I find this video so hot. The second reason, and the thing that made it leap out at me and give me that stomach-kick of lust, is Pandora's arse in tiny denim shorts. Tiny denim shorts being one of the hottest outfits in which to be beaten, and Pandora's arse being one of the hottest arses on the internet.
Tell me what your top spanking videos are...
So, there you have it – the top five spanking videos according to me. As I say, it took a lot longer to decide on my favourites than I thought it would, because every single time I thought I'd honed the list, I fall in love with yet another performer, or scenario, or implement (right now my fantasies involve Thomas Cameron, in the schoolroom, with a hairbrush).
But given that it's completely subjective, I won't spank you if you disagree. In fact, here's a perfect opportunity to do an archive tour yourself – pick a performer, implement, or scenario, and follow the trail of tags until you've found your favourites. Then come back and answer the sixty-million dollar question - which are your top spanking videos on Dreams of Spanking, and why?
Andrew Shada's first video for us introduced him in a top role, and he was understandably nervous. But it was important for both of us to include it; as a switch giving is just as important to him as receiving, and I wanted to give him a chance to express both sides of himself.
After shooting his introductory photoset, but before we filmed this video, I interviewed Andrew about a range of topics including his kinky interests, spanking and power exchange; being a bisexual switch; his experiences of male/male spanking; why he opted for historical costumes scenes, and what drew him to shooting spanking video. click on the image to watch the interview in our pop-up player:
All our performer interviews are free to the public, so members and non-members alike can learn about our cast and what brings them here.
Dating can be nervewracking when you're kinky. When do you tell your date that you like spanking - and how? Seasoned spankee Nimue doesn't waste time, and as soon as they're back to her house she takes the plunge.
Andrew is surprised, but not horrified... and as she introduces him to the pleasures of reddening her lovely round bottom, he proves to be a fast learner.
The resulting film is shy, sexy and super sweet. Going into his first ever spanking video Andrew's enthusiasm, and his nerves, were both very real. Nimue was the perfect partner to guide him through his début film.
First Date is an adorable, realistic story of young love, first time nerves, and a heavy wooden paddle.
These are important questions for any kinkster to consider. When do you tell a new partner you're kinky - and how? Would you discuss spanking - or even do it - on a first date?
Nimue's sensual enthusiasm and obvious pleasure in being spanked gives the whole thing an erotic flavour, and I found myself rooting for Andrew and willing him to have the courage and confidence to spank her as hard as she obviously craves. He's a fast learner, and by the end of this 15 minute film, wielding the wooden paddle hard enough to make her gasp, he definitely delivers.
We've got a new military historical series running at the moment, shot on our location shoot in September and starring Thomas Cameron, Andrew Shada and myself - plus Nimue Allen in a forthcoming episode.
Havelock's Campaign is inspired by our favourite Napoleonic War fiction including the Sharpe books by Bernard Cornwell, and the Flashman series by George Macdonald Fraser, and centres around the character of Major Harry Havelock, a cavalry officer in Her Majesty's Hussars. This character of Tom's creation almost instantly became a firm favourite (especially of me and Nimue, who quickly developed big old crushes on him!), and Tom's skill as an actor, and passion for the period, shines throughout.
The first episode joins the officers the night before they ride out on campaign. Havelock congratulates new Lieutenant Shada on his promotion, and takes the opportunity to introduce the boy to the privileges of rank...
Major Harry Havelock of Her Majesty's Hussars has been assigned a new Lieutenant, commission still squeaky-new. Lieutenant Shada requires introduction to the privileges of an officer and a gentleman: wine, wenching, and whipping! Havelock also takes the opportunity to provide the new Lieutenant with Flash Harry's patent method for domestic bliss: a brisk over-the-lap spanking and, if she needs it, a firm thrashing with the riding crop...
The fantasy of being given by one dominant to another is one I've always had. It combines helplessness and lack of control with the pleasures of being shown off, objectified, and being the centre of attention of two tops at once. When they are both hot young men in military uniform ... well, what more could a lady ask?
I also love being used as a "demonstration model" in a scenario where one top is training or teaching another. This is a theme we've visited before, such as in The New Head Girl. In that story, the "demo bottom" was entirely unhappy about the way she was being treated. My wench in this scene is a little more sanguine about her situation. Maybe she is resigned to her fate and determined to have what fun she can with it. Maybe she has grown fond of the Major and truly wants to please him. Maybe he has chosen well, and picked a girl who genuinely loves to be spanked and whipped. Either way, I enjoyed playing the character of a saucy girl, a tart who enjoys her work, and finds being a camp follower far more entertaining than the other roles available to a woman of her class.
As the scene progressed, I found myself increasingly empathising with her - if I had been in her situation, I would probably have done my best to end up in Major Havelock's tent, too!
The historical military setting happened to fall right within Andrew's comfort zone, and his first-shoot nerves evaporated as he slipped easily into the manners and jargon of the setting. Tom and Andrew developed a rapport on that shoot which really comes across in these scenes, and the behind the scenes videos are a wonderful opportunity to get to know shy Andrew a little better.
It was a good thing that Andrew grew to like and trust Tom over the course of the shoot, because Tom was topping him in his last scene of the day, a harsh riding crop thrashing. Andrew was exhausted by the end his first ever spanking shoot, and opted out of a final scene with him topping the wench (me!) which had been pencilled into the callsheet. But he was happy to go ahead with this one, and take one last beating before some well deserved R&R.
During his first battle of the campaign, Second Lieutenant Shada was tasked with carrying a crucial message, but failed to carry out his duty after his horse stumbled and broke a leg. Major Havelock gives the young officer a firm dressing down, but takes pity and offers him a final chance to save his career. Rather than face a court martial, Shada must suffer the punishment of a cadet, rather than an officer, one last time, and bend over for twenty lashes from his superior.
For me, this scene revolves around two key elements. Firstly, Havelock's genuine affection for the boy, clearly evidenced by the fond exasperation with which he scolds him, and the fact he gives him an option at all. Humiliating and embarrassing as it may be for Shada to drop his trousers and take the punishment which would have been due were he still an ensign, and not, in fact, a newly minted officer, it is certainly better than the alternative.
Officers were not flogged in the British army - that punishment was reserved for the rank and file, and was significantly more brutal than what is shown here. Flogging was administered to the bare back with long leather whips, and a severe flogging could be a death sentence. However, young aristocratic ensigns and cadets, sent to the army or navy in order to be educated and prepared for a career in service, would have been caned by their superiors, just as if they had been at school.
In this story, Shada's character attended a military academy (Sandhurst or Addiscombe, probably) and so did not serve in the army as an ensign. If he had, however, and if he had been entrusted with a task which bad judgement or bad luck prevented him from carrying out, he might well have found himself on the receiving end of a thrashing from his commanding officer.
As a lieutenant he is supposed to have grown out of that sort of foolishness, and cannot now expect the leniency of corporal punishment. Havelock, however, has grown fond of the boy and believes he has promise. The punishment here is not only an embarrassing return to a juvenile mode, it is also a second chance, a gesture of affection, and one that the young lieutenant is willing to receive.
The second thing I love about Military Discipline, the key moment that makes it really hot for me, is when Havelock exhorts Shada to take his punishment "like the gentleman I know you to be". Shada nods, summons his courage, and takes twenty strokes hard enough to leave his bottom welted and bruised as stoically as he possibly can. Andrew's expressive features and body language make it clear how much it is hurting, but as he exhales and fights for control you can also tell that he is trying as hard as he can not to show it.
I love restrained reactions, courage and dignity in a spankee. It's not politically correct, but I find it especially hot in the context of male/male punishment, where gendered expectations are a factor and the bottom is trying to "man up" and retain their manly pride in the eyes of their disciplinarian. Andrew really felt this whipping, you can tell, but the hottest thing is the way he tries to be brave. And, I should add, succeeds: given this was his first ever spanking shoot, he really did do amazingly well.
It's taken me a while, but finally I'm ready to share the photos from the last day on our big location shoot in September, with new male switch Andrew Shada. If you want to catch up, here are my posts on previous days on this week-long spanking and filming extravaganza:
Andrew arrived the night before, in good time - a relief after our other new male perfomer had no-showed earlier in the week. Before long he and Tom were deep in conversation about mutual interests including LARP and Doctor Who. I was glad that the two of them were hitting it off, because they were scheduled to do several scenes together the next day.
Once we'd popped Andrew's spanking shoot cherry, I decided to give his bottom a break, and it was time for another first: this time, his first video spanking as a top!
This scene is called "First Date" and stars Andrew and Nimue as a young couple who hit it off over dinner. When they get back to Nimue's place she nervously takes the plunge and tells him something he ought to know ... she likes to be spanked! Andrew is new to the idea, but game, and she gently guides him through it, showing him how to spank her the way she likes. He quickly gets the hang of it.
This was a super sweet scene and Andrew did brilliantly, but afterwards he was pretty wiped. "Wow, acting is exhausting!" he told me in surprise. No kidding.
Still, Tom and I had just had a break from being in front of the camera, and we were both good to go. I decided to give Andrew a scene off while Tom, Nimue and I nipped out to take some photos in the garden, as a couple home from a rock gig who can't wait til they get into the house before indulging in some steamy spanking play. Nimue did an amazing job with the photos in this set, and I struggled to pick out just four to show you - I can't wait to share the rest.
While the rain was holding off, we stayed outdoors to film the opening scene of The Water Fight, which was released the week before last. Paternal M/M discipline, and wet, see-through clothing all round!
We took a break for lunch, after which it was time for the last stretch of filming: a sequence of three historical/military scenes inspired by our favourite Napoleonic War fiction: the Sharpe books by Bernard Cornwell, and the Flashman series by George Macdonald Fraser.
I didn't have the budget to source Napoleonic costumes for everyone, so this storyline is set in unspecified Olden Times. Major Harry Havelock of Her Majesty's Hussars is about to set out on a new campaign. He has been assigned a new Lieutenant, fresh from Sandhurst, commission bought with daddy's money, of course. The night before they move out, Havelock summons the young Lieutenant Shada to educate him in the privileges of an officer and a gentleman: wine, wenching, and whipping!
Andrew and Tom blew me away with their acting in this scene. I knew Tom was good, but with the historical military setup I seemed to accidentally have stumbled across Andrew's comfort zone, and he took to it like a duck to water. He gave as good as he got in the aristocratic military banter, including throwing in some authentic colloquialisms even I hadn't heard of, and his performance contributed hugely to story and character development. I'm telling you, this boy has talent, and I'm thrilled to have found a storyline that brought out his best. We will definitely be doing more of this.
Our story continued throughout the campaign, including some old-fashioned M/M military discipline administered by the Major, who has taken on something of a mentor role to the young Lieutenant.
The final scenario I'd scripted was an M/F scene between my character, the saucy wench trained up by Havelock who had been gifted to Lieutenant Shada at the start of the campaign, and Andrew's character. But when the time came Andrew was knackered. His last bottoming film of the day, a hard riding crop thrashing from the Major himself, had taken a lot out of him. He'd more than earned his keep already - three bottoming scenes and two topping ones is bloody impressive on your first ever spanking shoot. I told him to sit down and enjoy a well-earned rest; I was sure we could find something else to do.
Luckily, Nimue had been admiring Major Havelock from behind the camera, and was dying to do a scene with him. "Please can I get spanked by him?" she asked as we made strong cups of tea to power us through the fiftieth spanking scene of the week. "Please?" It was perfect timing, and resulted in an incredibly sexy consensual M/F scene. Nimue played a lively young camp follower who notices that the Major has given his wench away, and decides to take the initiative and present herself to him at night to enquire about the position. He's surprised, but likes what he sees, and decides to put her through her paces there and then.
These three scenes together sum up a huge part of my kink, and they are very close to my heart. It was a pleasure and a privilege to be able to bring them to life with three such talented performers. I'm really looking forward to releasing these, and if you like military, historical, sexy spanking dramas as much as I do, I think you're going to love them.
Our new M/M film The Water Fight explores the themes of unfair punishment and spanking on a wet bottom, with new spankee Andrew Shada hauled across Thomas' knee for a hard on-the-spot spanking, before being made to bend over for the strap.
Siblings Andrew and Pandora are constantly playing tricks on each other - but somehow, Pandora always seems to get away with it, while Andrew always gets in trouble! In revenge for her latest prank Andrew sneaks up on his sister while she's on the swing, and douses her in cold water. She swiftly retaliates and makes sure Andrew is soaked head to toe before running and telling on him. The poor boy can't get a word in edgeways as their angry fath*r grabs his ear and hauls him inside for a damn good hiding.
A hard hand spanking over the knee shows Andrew that Thomas is really serious this time. Soon enough the older man has made up his mind that it's going to have to be a strapping. Twenty hard strokes will drive the lesson home. First, he fetches a jug and pours icy cold water over Andrew's tight briefs to make sure his bottom is dripping wet. Because as Thomas' mother knew very well, it does make it sting more.
I think I first encountered the idea of using cold water to increase the intensity of a punishment via Henry Higgins, and Blushes magazine. Here's a photo from 1985 showing a reformatory girl bent over a trestle whose tight shorts were soaked with water before she's given the cane:
There are so many things I love about this: the ritualistic aspect; the deliberate sadism of the disciplinarian in using their imagination to increase the discomfort of the victim; the way the water soaks through the tight fabric and renders it translucent, and catches the light as it pours down the legs.
When I see this photo I imagine the sudden shock of being soaked in cold water, how it would make you shivery and miserable as you awaited your fate, goosepimples springing up on chilly flesh which would then be all the more sensitive during the thrashing that ensued.
For some time now I've wanted to revisit this theme with a male spankee. I came up with a scenario in which the punishment fits the crime, with the poor boy who gets the cold water treatment having earned it by doing the same to his sister. But, because I prefer stories about sympathetic spankees who don't really deserve the horrible things that happen to them, I decided to make this one an unfair punishment, in which the sister has already got her revenge during the water fight that kicks everything off, but only Andrew is unlucky enough to get punished.
We had great fun going out into the garden to shoot the water fight itself, and it quickly became apparent that Andrew was a natural actor with a flair for the dramatic.
I picked out my most innocent, girlish dress - which also happened to be white cotton, to create a bit of a wet t-shirt effect, since I wasn't wearing a bra!
This was Andrew's first ever spanking video as a bottom, and he was very nervous indeed. We took regular breaks to reassure him but the poor lad was rather overwhelmed by the experience. He could barely speak as Tom gave him an in-character telling off, and once over the knee Tom's hard hand made him wince and gasp.
I'd originally intended for Tom's character to be very strict and severe, but Andrew's nerves brought out his kindly side. The paternal figure in this scene ends up coming across as firm but fair, sorry that he has to do this, wanting the best for his boy - and expecting the best of him, too. It's an interesting counterpoint to the theme of Andrew being unfairly punished while his sister gets away with it, but I rather like how it turned out.
Although the spanking is not especially severe, Andrew's genuine fear and nervousness lends an intense emotional atmosphere to the scene, and I think the result is a very realistic-feeling domestic punishment. Plus of course it absolutely begs for a sequel where my character gets her comeuppance!
I'm delighted to welcome our newest performer Andrew Shada to the site - male switch, spanking, bondage and pet play enthusiast.
In my everyday life I guess I'm a bit of a nerd: obsessed with science both fact and fiction, Doctor Who (as you can tell from the name!), history, real ale, war gaming, LARP, cosplay, yoga and comedy.
I also love to dabble and try new things, because you never know what you might like - and as Sir Thomas Beecham said “you should try everything once except morris dancing and incest”. Although actually I am rather partial to a little morris dancing.
I was put in touch with Andrew with a mutual friend who isn't in the kink scene herself, but knows what I do and supports my choices. She thought Andrew and I should talk, and when I saw his pictures on Fetlife and realised how cute he was, I quickly agreed!
I was particularly drawn to two photos, one showing Andrew looking deliciously toppy in historical military uniform, sitting in a leather armchair and holding a glass of port; and another of him in sub mode, doing the ironing wearing only his underwear. The latter was the inspiration for his first photoset.
My current policy of shooting photos first with a new performer originated on my first shoots with Jimmy Holloway and Sebastian Hawley, neither of whom had done any professional porn performance or fetish modelling before. Especially if someone is nervous on their first shoot, I find that photos can be a way to ease them in gently that is less nervewracking than video. While shooting photos we can talk and communicate more freely than while shooting video, and it gives them the chance to ask questions and give me feedback, while I can give them tips and, if necessary, coach them in body language. All of this is also excellent practice before shooting your first spanking video.
Andrew was nervous as hell, and had been compulsively smoking all morning while we were setting up to shoot. I decided to incorporate this into the first scene, with him as a houseboy who is spanked for taking an unauthorised smoke break from his domestic chores.
Andrew has been working all morning, cleaning Pandora's house, sweeping and mopping the floors. He ducks outside the back door for a well-earned smoke break. Unfortunately, his mistress catches him and drags him back indoors for a sound over the knee spanking. Once he has been well and truly punished, she orders him to strip naked, then gives him back the apron and tells him to finish his chores with his red glowing bottom on display.
Despite his nerves Andrew turned out to be a natural. There are so many images I love in this set. Such as the story hinted at in the above photo; or the embarrassment of having your trousers pulled down for a bare bottom spanking:
Andrew's submissive demeanour has an adorably forlorn, long-suffering quality. It's not pouty or bratty but sort of wistful and resigned.
This was his first spanking on camera, and I got the impression it was his first proper spanking in some time. He coloured up beautifully and I didn't need to go all-out to get a reaction.
And like me, Andrew has back dimples! For some reason I find this particularly cute on a boy.
Finally this scene provided another opportunity for me to indulge my well-documented apron fetish. The trope of a spankee being dressed only in an apron after punishment, with their spanked bare bottom on display, to add an extra dose of embarrassment to the completion of household chores, is a pretty common one in the M/F genre. M/F housework fetish bores me, but I love subverting it in male submissive or queer F/F scenes such as Cupcakes, Cheesecake! and Slave for a Day. And I couldn't resist the opportunity to revisit it one more time:
I think I've got it out of my system now. Mind you, I haven't shot a naked waiter scene yet - and Mr Will Savage would be a perfect candidate - so there might be some life in the old apron trope yet!
Pretty much every night that we were in the cottage, I would plan to blog what had happened that day. Predictably, each evening I was so tired that the idea of doing anything but flop straight into bed seemed impossible. Despite that I did manage to prepare and eat dinner each night, back up my photo and video files, plan the next day's scenes and deal with a few urgent emails, but anything else was beyond me.
As such I have a lot of catching up to do, which seems to be the permanent state of this blog. After Lola Marie we spent two days shooting for Nimue's World, of which I spent one day behind and one day in front of the camera; then three days in a row for Dreams of Spanking, shooting with Michael Darling, Leia Ann Woods and new male switch Andrew Shada.
It was a non-stop, insanely productive week. Nimue produced a total of 20 scenes on her two days, a height of efficiency which is completely beyond me, but even with my penchant for involved, complex storylines I still managed to shoot a total of 30 scenes over my four days, mostly videos with accompanying photos, but also including some standalone photo galleries. Once things started to flow, the three of us (me, Nimue and Tom) slipped into a groove that allowed us to get things done remarkably fast.
I'd love to get photo previews from all the hot scenes we shot up on the blog this week, but realistically it might take me a couple of weeks or more to get caught up. So meanwhile, while it's all fresh in my mind, I just wanted to post some of the more memorable highlights and impressions from the rest of Dreams of Spanking's first week-long location shoot...
Miscalculating the timings on the morning before we left, and having to throw all my packing into my suitcase from the list I'd written the night before at top speed while the cab waited outside.
Getting in a lovely hot bath on the first night we arrived for a soak... and realising that the immersion heater had emptied while both taps were running, and my nice hot bath was in fact a chilly lukewarm bath. Showers for the rest of the week, then!
Taking photos with my new stills camera and falling head over heels in love with the entire process.
Shooting my first needle play scene with Nimue, for her site, with me playing the top role. I'd never done it before and she asked if I'd mind learning on camera. Of course not, I said - in fact I love videos that are transparent about negotiation and show that bottoms can teach tops just as much as the other way round. We did it with two cameras on tripods in the end, so just the two of us in the room, and it was really special. I didn't get the same physical, 'uNf' response that I do with corporal punishment - it wasn't a horny experience in that way - apart from the fact that I was playing with Nimue's amazing breasts, which is always hot. But there was something very mentally and emotionally powerful about it.
I loved the moment when the needle goes in, and the gasp you get in response; then as it travels under the surface it doesn't interact with many nerves, but you can control when the point exits the skin again, and get that intake of breath again. I found it an intense, intimate form of control/power play, with loads of eye contact, and an indescribable jolt of energy as needle pierces skin. There's something electric about it.
Plus, although of course it's difficult to show this on video without pissing off credit card processors, when you remove the needles you get loads of blood, which is always fun to play with. It was the first blood play I'd done for years - since I quit self-harming in fact, which is why I've been avoiding blade/needle play - and it felt very positive for me, very healthy and safe. Plus Nimue's boobs were bruised from the entry/exit points for the rest of the week, which gave me a smug self-satisfied feeling whenever I saw them :D
Building log and coal fires in the living room stove, and heaping blankets on the bed to stay warm at night.
Being brought tea by Tom every morning - and grinning as he called me or Nims "Madame Director" (depending on whose day it was). Love that man.
Trimming apple switches with a penknife to use on Nimue's bottom
Using my gorillapod for its intended purpose, clinging to a curtain rail to drop a high face shot into a very small shooting space. Gorillapod enjoyed its little adventure!
Covering Tom in baby oil and getting him to do press-ups to bulk up his muscles for a sexy male top wood-chopping photoset. Porn for me! (my catch-phrase for the week). Then getting to snuggle up with him in bed afterwards and giggle under the covers. I love my life.
Discovering the extent of my unwanted bruising on Wednesday, and panicking about the big bottoming scenes I had planned for myself (including a 50 stroke full force caning) being ruined as a result. I managed to stay relatively outwardly calm about it, but I was gutted.
Here's an unedited picture of my bottom on Thursday afternoon, showing the remnants of bruising from the belt scene on Monday morning on the middle of my right cheek and in the tender inner area of my right crease. You can also see the cane stripes which have been permanently visible since April, and which are the reason I've regretfully decided to take a break from professional bottoming now until they've fully healed up. The pink bit is where the belt re-opened one fo those scars and made it bleed a bit.
Sitting up on Wednesday waiting for the second new performer of the week - male switch Phil Fury. He was driving across the country after work on Wednesday and due to arrive late in the evening. By midnight there was no sign of him, he hadn't sent the text I'd expected and he wasn't answering emails. I remember sitting there getting increasingly exhausted, grumpy and frustrated. After a week of 7am starts and long days I would normally have gone to bed at 10pm, and I resented every hour of lost sleep. Still, without his phone number there was little I could do. I gave him until 1am, then pinned notes on the gate to the cottage and the front door telling him to call/shout loudly if he arrived in the middle of the night.
By the morning there was still no sign of him. I texted Michael Darling to see, on the off chance, if he was free, and it turned out he was. Meanwhile we got on with shooting some scenes with just the three of us - as a result, Thursday turned out to be our most productive day, because we did five scenes with Michael when he arrived as well. Not a bad outcome for my first ever no-show.
Phil contacted me the following day from the hospital, after being involved in a collision on our way to us, which is about as shitty as you could imagine (and, as we'd observed the night before, pretty much the only valid excuse for not texting sooner). Here's hoping he makes a swift recovery and we can reschedule for a shoot in 2014.
Getting to shoot scripts that have been in my ideas folder for years - and bring some of my most powerful fantasies to life.
Shooting my first ever masturbation to orgasm video, for Dreams of Spanking. It shouldn't really have been a big deal after all the filthy things I shot Nimue doing for her site, but it was my first sexually explicit video (as opposed to photos) as a performer, and my first sexy solo scene, so it was a big deal for me. It felt like it went well - I'm looking forward to reviewing the footage and seeing how it turned out.
Deciding to do a 30s scene with Michael that none of us had brought costumes for, and throwing together a riding outfit with mid-calf skirt, boots and jacket out of items I happened to have with me anyway.
Making crumble with apples, pears and blackberries from the garden - and accidentally carbonising the topping in three minutes flat as we discovered that the temperature dial on the oven was a lie!
Being tied naked in a cupboard... and devising my escape
Dressing both Lola Marie and Leia Ann in various items of Victoriana from my collection
Getting my hands tawsed properly for the first time, which because Leia sensibly brought a relatively thin tawse with her, wasn't as awful as it would have been with a heavy thick one. It's not a kink that I enjoy at the time, but it's excitingly terrifying beforehand and leaves me feeling very brave afterwards, so that ticks several boxes. I'll definitely do it again.
Working myself up into a lather of nervous anticipation before my 50 stroke caning scene that had me faffing around beforehand until we were running nearly 45 minutes late. Everyone was very patient with me, and once the punishment started and I remembered how much I love hard canings, I wondered what all the fuss had been about. Here's the immediate aftermath of 50 full force strokes with two 8mm kooboo canes (right cheek courtesy of Tom, left cheek courtesy of Leia):
Not as dramatic as I'd hoped, but then my bottom is fairly resilient these days. Next time I'll have to take a 6 month break beforehand, and use 12mm dragon canes, clearly...
Chronicling my bruises during the week. Here's my bottom on Saturday morning. Apart from the marks on my left cheek, which are pretty much all from Leia's 25 cane strokes, you wouldn't known I'd taken 50 the day before, would you?
This is the huge bruise on the front of my thigh which I collected accidentally before we'd filmed a single scene at the start of the week, from walking repeatedly into the sharp wooden corner of the bed while setting up lights before I was properly awake. On Monday afternoon it was bright blue and pink and swollen, and it's still there over a week later!
And finally, here is the state of my bum on Saturday evening, after my last bottoming scene of the week, including old belt bruises, permanent cane stripes, residual marks from the 50 stroke caning, and fresh riding crop marks:
Lying awake at night coming up with alternative storylines for scenarios that wouldn't display my unplanned bruises - or for if the next day's model didn't show up - and then a part of my brain feeling disappointed when we didn't have to use them after all.
By Wednesday, feeling like we could do this every day, for the rest of our lives, as long as we had other people to take over the other duties of running the sites. By Saturday, running on empty and knowing there was no way we could have done another day even if we'd wanted to.
Consulting Tom on various historical details, and collaborating with him to get storylines note perfect.
Developing a fullblown crush on a character of Tom's based on Flashman from the George Macdonald Fraser books. I want to have sex with him. It doesn't have to be on camera. Nimue apparently felt the same way, because after we'd wrapped up the scenes on our schedule she asked to bottom to the Flashman character as well, in an unscripted bonus scene. She assured us that she had no objection to it getting rather sexy if we wanted ;)
Falling asleep on Nimue's bosom on the last night, after drinking a mere one and a half glasses of pink wine, and not being capable of any conversation more sophisticated than squeeing at cute animal videos on the internet. Her breasts are very comfortable.
Being so tired on the morning we left that I had to keep sitting down and staring blankly into space... before hauling myself to my feet and folding yet more items of school uniform and period costume into suitcases.
Packing up the cottage simultaneously mourning for the exhilaration, creativity, imagined worlds and sense of family that developed during the week... and being relieved that we'd finished and could finally start to relax.
Back in London, going to the nudist spa with Tom, Nimue and Michael to unwind after one of the most intense working weeks of our lives. Unable to hide the bruises on our bums and instead being open with people we met in the hot tubs about what we'd been up to. We met some wonderful people and made some new friends... and we were all surprised when a pair of total strangers started playing consensual spanking games in the big jacuzzi. Zoe Montana and I raised some eyebrows when we got up to similar mischief last year, so I was relieved to discover we weren't the only ones!
After six hours of sauna, steam, cool swims, sitting and chatting with wine in the hot tubs, the tension of fatigue had drained away and we were all ready to collapse. I fell asleep as soon as I got in the door and, two days later, I'm still feeling the lingering tiredness of having been running such high energy levels continuously for a week.
I've enjoyed looking through the photos so far and can't wait to get stuck into the video footage. I'll process previews for each day's shooting at a time and share some teasers as soon as possible. It's hard to say how successful the shoot was until I've reviewed the footage, but from everything I've seen so far, it was a huge success, and I can't wait to do it again next year!