Spanking, BDSM and erotic D/S
I've just finished editing one of the first photosets I shot with my partner D. There's a preview image from this set on the homepage already, but here are a couple more:
I've been pleased to see the first preview get positive feedback on Fetlife and SpankingTube, because this scene represents a bit of a departure from the classic disciplinary spanking scenario. Don't get me wrong, I love domestic discipline, school scenes, punishment and edgy fantasies as much as anyone. But I also like variety, and one of the things I'm looking to explore alongside the above is consensual, erotic dominance and submission.
I spend far more time submitting willingly to my partners in the bedroom than I do acting out roleplay scenarios in which I'm playing a protesting character who hates every second. But this sort of sensuality is a tricky mark to hit in porn. The kind of play I enjoy in private doesn't necessarily translate well to scenes that are fun to watch. Of course, the internet is full of sexually explicit BDSM porn - but I'm a picky soul, and it's rare for me to find scenes which suit my taste. First, a lot of it is far harder BDSM than I personally enjoy. I like the pain of CP and have an endless appetite for severe spanking, but I'm not really a fan of the other sorts of pain play you commonly see - electroplay, needles, clamps, pegs, mouth and foot torture, painful suspensions and the like.
I'm looking for subtlety, for nuance, for beautiful, visual rich imagery. I'm looking for eye contact and intimacy that makes me catch my breath. I like my spankings hard, but when it comes to BDSM I'm looking not so much for physical intensity as emotional intensity. Romantic power exchange, palpable sexual chemistry, a sizzling energy between the players.
By all means show me hardcore dungeon scenes, extreme pain play, demanding bondage - but unless I can sense genuine trust, respect and vulnerability, it's unlikely to maintain my interest. Sexually explicit porn which turns me on is rare, and it only ever works for me if there's an emotional narrative I can hook into. I like tops that simmer with restrained violence. I like humiliation when it's subtle - not pornographically degrading, but small acts which get inside the sub's head. I like unrehearsed displays of affection between the players.
Show me an erotic BDSM scene between two lovers where the sex is subtle and implicit, but the CP is strong and explicit, and I'm sold.
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Hand Prints
I am simply beside myself with anticipation for the launch of this site.
Fred
I love having my buttocks grasped and fondled by a partner, so I suspect you'll see rather a lot of it. Tom tends to rub and squeeze during and after a punishment, unless playing a figure in authority who really wouldn't.
:-)
(Also seconding the yay for the bottom-fondling shots. :-) )
Pictures
Bryan
Bottom-fondling = Ass kneading
What a lovely phrase, and how well it captures what is missing from so much web content!
I'm finding it really difficult to write succinct press releases describing what I'm doing, because on the one hand there's this... and on the other there's the really dark, edgy, intense, non-consensual fantasies. It can be tricky to try and communicate a concept which incorporates both ends of that spectrum!