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How severe is too severe?

One of the things I've occasionally thought about, as a feminist who runs a spanking site, is content warnings. Fundamentally, the idea behind these is that if something might include content likely to trigger someone recovering from serious trauma, it's respectful to give notice in advance that the topic is likely to come up, so anyone who needs to can prepare themselves and isn't caught off guard.

I think it's a really great way of making material more inclusive. Yet I've never gone ahead and instituted content warnings on Dreams of Spanking, at least not overtly. What I do instead is to make the content of each scene very explicit in the tags and copy surrounding the film. I try not to spoiler plot twists, but I do often remove the element of surprise from how the story of a film unfolds, in the interests of pre-warning viewers what they can expect - both to catch the attention of people with particular niche tastes, and to pre-warn people who might find certain content distasteful or upsetting. So far, I've been happy with that system. But if any film on Dreams of Spanking has made me wonder if it should include a content warning, it's our latest film starring Tai Crimson.

Tai Crimson is caned at home by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

When I was editing Caned at Home, I found parts of it so extreme - both in terms of the severity of the physical punishment and the nastiness of the verbal degradation and emotional abuse - that it made me feel uncomfortable. The whole scene was shot in a single take, so I didn't see any out-of-character interactions to break the tension and reassure me that Tai was okay with what was happening until the scene was over. However, I needn't have worried. The moment "cut" is called, Tai bounces up and enthusiastically tells me that she could have taken double the number of strokes. In fact, she almost seems disappointed that the scene hadn't been harder.

So I decided to reuse a film format that I trialled during our ATVOD investigation (and which may have played a part in our successful appeal win, although it's hard to be sure); showing snippets of out-of-character performer interviews or behind the scenes interaction both before and after the main film, to contextualise the fantasy in the real-world context of the performers' tastes and desires. Since we won our appeal, I hadn't particularly felt the need to do this - especially with films where the fantasy shows pleasure spankings and explicit consent. But Caned at Home is definitely not one of these.

Tai Crimson is caned at home by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

If edgy domestic scenarios showing the disproportionately severe punishment of a helpless girl aren't a turn-off for you, Caned at Home has much to recommend it. In particular, the sequences of hard and fast cane strokes falling one after the other without a break are some of the most convincingly severe thrashing I've ever seen on a UK spanking site. Tai has a high tolerance, and this was the third time we'd played together; she'd asked me to push her to tears, and this was our last scene of the day, so there was no reason to hold back. As it turned out, even the nastiest verbal abuse I could come up with - and one of the hardest canings I've ever delivered on camera - weren't quite enough to break her.

Tai Crimson is caned at home by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

Perhaps you love severe caning and verbal degradation as much as Tai does, in which case Caned at Home will be right up your street. But if, like me, you prefer to know for sure that the performers were into it before watching a scene of this intensity,  I recommend watching the performer interview and behind the scenes video first, to reassure yourself that no only was Tai unharmed by the making of these scene, but actively enjoyed it. It's lovely to work with a young woman who is so in touch with her kinky sexuality, and so articulate at expressing her fantasies and fetishes.

Tai Crimson is caned at home by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

Besides, severe canings that leave livid welts are most definitely not BBFC-compliant. Dreams of Spanking is currently the only UK spanking site where you can watch material like this, and we will remain so until the Digital Economy Bill means we have to stop, too. So enjoy it while you can.

Origins of a Pervert

My interest in porn performing was largely spurred by the desire to have an avenue for indulging my 'low-concept' kinky fantasies. I’m still a fan of the 'high-concept' (simple ideas that can be succinctly explained in a sentence) but the opportunities to, say, have your self-worth consensually attacked while your head is flushed in a toilet are a lot more infrequent. That’s why Bullied at Home is a strong contender for my favorite film I’ve been in.

Little girl Tai Crimson is bullied at home by Nimue Allen at Dreams of Spanking

Let me back up. Long before I became the perverted hedonist I am today, I was a burgeoning young deviant with unrestricted internet access. Out of that access came the ability to form a broader perspective of the world from an early age, a skill for discerning truth from bullshit with relative ease, and a penchant for depravity. While today, spanking is the core component of my sexuality, it was originally the second kink I had come across that clicked with me.

The first? Wedgies.

Little girl Tai Crimson is bullied at home by Nimue Allen at Dreams of Spanking

One might assume that this kink arose from first-hand experience, but that would make far too much sense. The girl who loves being tormented you see before you was once a boy who had never been bullied in this manner, but was desperate to experience it. Wherever it was in pop culture I first encountered the concept of pulling one’s underwear up to cause discomfort and embarrassment, the end result was a teen who spent far too much time emulating the experience for herself.

Did you know I have a huge embarrassment kink? If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be telling you that I ripped at least a dozen pairs of underwear in middle school from giving myself wedgies hanging from the rafters of our garage. And I definitely wouldn’t be telling you that I once rode my bike around the park and high school near our house with a sign on my back reading “WEDGIE ME” in bold letters. The countless problems with this idea are left as an exercise to the reader.

It didn’t end there, of course. Just as wedgie fetishists and spankos share significant overlap, so do wedgie fetishists and swirlie fans.

Little girl Tai Crimson is bullied at home by Nimue Allen at Dreams of Spanking

For the uninitiated, a 'swirlie' is the act of pushing the victim’s head into the toilet bowl while flushing – another indignity I had never actually experienced, and thus took it upon myself to try out.

While these schoolyard kinks inserted themselves into my psyche at a young age, it took a lot longer to be able to see and articulate the compelling threads that run between them. Namely, strong desires to be humiliated, bullied, and made to feel like the pathetic little girl that I am.

Over time (and especially since having started hormones this past February), those themes have further intensified and coalesced into the primary variety of scenarios I now fantasize about: extremely edgy scenes with plenty of mind-fucking, where the masochism is both physically and emotionally heavy.

Little girl Tai Crimson is bullied at home by Nimue Allen at Dreams of Spanking

That bring us to Bullied at Home. This scene was a chance for me to satisfy those sorts of desires, with the delightfully sadistic bully role filled by the amazing Nimue Allen. Pandora came up with the “threatening to get kicked out of your foster home” spin, which genuinely got me wet the first time I heard it.

I couldn’t have asked for a more safe and comforting environment to be able to get into that sort of dark headspace in, and I hope you’ll agree that the end result is as hot to watch as it was to film!

The dark fantasies of Tai Crimson

The reason Dreams of Spanking is called dreams is that one of the core concepts of the site is to clarify the boundary between fantasy and reality. This is important to me because my fantasies are often fucking twisted.

I get off to thinking about being bound, violated, totally helpless, and punished against my will. This does not mean I endorse or desire non-consensual acts in real life: far from it, my edgy fantasies make me more invested in enacting and promoting good consent and communication, and in making sure I don't ever take advantage of anyone, or let myself be taken advantage of. Those of us with dark sexual psyches have good reason to think hard about the ethics of erotic power, and how to play with these ideas in a safe, securely-contained space that doesn't impinge on the real world. Actually doing something to someone against their will might be fine to dream about, but it's totally off-limits in reality.

So exploring that boundary line, where dreams end and reality begins, is one of the ideas behind this site: that's why we never publish an edgy non-consent fantasy without accompanying it with behind the scenes videos, out-takes and performer interviews, to show you that fantasy is just fantasy, and make visible the reality behind it. It's also become a policy of mine to not write non-consent scenarios for performers. If I come up with a film idea that is really dark and twisted, I'll either play the submissive role myself, or assign it to another performer only after they've raised the idea of shooting something similar; in that case, I'll run the script past them and amend it to suit their taste before we shoot. But my preference is to work with spankees who have a strongly-developed sense of their own kinky sexuality, and who come to the shoot with scenario ideas of their own.

That's one of the many, many reasons why Tai Crimson was such a pleasure to work with. 

When we were making plans for our second shoot with her - the first since she came out as transgender - she sent me the link to her sex menu, and invited me to peruse it before coming up with scenario ideas. Reading it, I learned two things: firstly, that Tai is the most self-assured teenage pervert I have ever met, and secondly, that she is even filthier than I am. A lot of the stuff on Tai's sex menu already takes me out of my comfort zone - for instance, her fetish for "swirlies", which is when a bully shoves your head in the toilet and flushes it. Luckily, I'm relatively practised at navigating discomfort, and perfectly happy to up the ante and add further twists and intensity until the scenario comes back into the realm of my own twisted imagination. Sometimes two wrongs really do make a right. For instance, one of the scene negotiations went like this:

me: (reads Tai's sex menu) How about a school bully scene including slapping, spanking, wedgies and (maybe) swirling, with Nimue topping Tai?

Tai: Oh gosh, yes! Struggling/roughhousing that leads to being facesat on & taunted might be a nice addition as well. Plenty of fun bully stuff to toss in as well - like, say, having armpits shoved in my face. (My ass, thighs, and tits are also open for punching!)

me: Awesome! How about having you be cousins, or even foster siblings in a shared home, and it be an after-school type thing with both of you still in uniform? With Nimue threatening to get you in trouble if you don't do what she says - actually having you both be in care would make this EXTRA edgy, as she could threaten to get you kicked out. If that's too dark, I will totally understand :)

Tai: Personally, it's dark enough that it just made me wet. Which is a resounding yes.

The shoot was at my place, and we were together for two days and two nights. The first day was spent shooting trade content for Nimue's World, and Tai's forthcoming Amateur Porn studio. I got to witness the filthy hotness that is Tai first hand, viewing some incredibly hot scenes from behind the camera. Tai and Nimue have great chemistry, and I really enjoyed watching it develop over the course of the day. For Nimue's site we shot a bathroom control scene, an introductory striptease, a tit torture photoset and a queer sex scene; and for Tai's clip store it got even kinkier, with a figging and anal ice cube scene, a bondage and tickling scene, a super-edgy interrogation scene, and a forced intoxication/breath play scene where Tai was forced to smoke weed and hold it in, only breathing when Nimue permitted her to. I have to admit that it's unusual for me to feel like the least kinky person in the room, but there's no denying that Tai and Nimue are way ahead of me.

So by day two, shooting four videos and two photosets for Dreams of Spanking, we were all warmed up and ready to roll. Last time we shot with her, we didn't get the chance to shoot an introductory photoset with Tai, as the day was already over-full getting all the shots we needed for our cinematic production Houseboy. So this time, we kicked things off with a cutesy photoset of Tai as an adorable schoolgirl, showing off her new girly look, her spankable bottom, and her puffy, newly developing breasts. 

I quickly discovered that shooting an innocent photoset with Tai is pretty much impossible. She loves being looked at, and as she removed her clothes the evidence of her arousal became more and more visible. This gallery is going live on the site this week, so you don't have to wait much longer to see how horny she got...

Throughout the shoot, Tai was taking selfies and updating her Twitter - which I thoroughly recommend following. I love this behind the scenes shot of her spread-eagled on the bed before our next scene, posting to the internet while she waited for me to be ready:

The next scene was another photoset - this time a domme/sub scenario with me using Tai's body as a pretty canvas for colourful hot wax. I bought these coloured play candles from Kink Craft at Eroticon earlier this year - they're lovely people, and I highly recommend their toys! I've played with wax before in private, but never brought it into a shoot. Tai was the perfect model, whimpering (and getting more and more turned on) as the wax dripped on her body - including in her most intimate places.

I really enjoyed covering her in colours to match my bedspread, making her wriggle and squirm, and seeking out all her sensitive spots. We also learned that the wax that burned hottest was the black one - and it left Tai with some lovely pink marks, as well as the beautiful decoration of the wax itself.

Once Tai had brushed all the wax off (and we'd shaken out the sheets!) we stayed in the bedroom for our first video - a more sexually explicit scene than the usual fare on Dreams of Spanking. When I first shot with Tai, she mentioned how much she loved anal play and big butt plugs. These are two of my favourite things too, and initially the Houseboy script had an extra femdom BDSM scene where I tormented Tai in all sorts of delicious, sexy ways. Sadly, we had to cut it due to lack of time, so when I planned to shoot with her again I was even more eager to make sure we got the chance to indulge in some butt play.

Tai is infamous for her love of anal CP - that is, smacking the butthole itself, rather than the buttocks as in traditional spanking. It's more exposing, more humiliating, more intimate and much more vulnerable. It's one of my big kinks too, and I was thrilled to have the chance to explore it on camera with a fellow queer femme who gets it.

Finally, once I'd warmed up Tai's hole, her cheeks and her thighs with smacks of my hand and my whippiest implements, the scene culminated with a strap-on fucking with my biggest dildo. This isn't the first time I've done this on camera, but it is the first time on Dreams of Spanking. Tai took it beautifully, and the scene was very real, very powerful, and very hot. It was an honour to explore something new together on film, and I can't wait to share the results with you.

After lunch, we moved to the lounge for the foster home bullying scene mentioned above. I got to take a break from performing, and it was gorgeous watching Nimue and Tai work their magic, with Tai as the new kid in the home, and Nimue as the boss bitch who smacks her around. This scene was straight out of Tai's filthy imagination, combining forced undressing, some tit and face slapping, lots of super edgy degradation and verbal abuse, over the knee spanking, wedgies and - last but not least - the ultimate humiliation: shoving Tai's face in the toilet, and flushing it.


I would never have written this scene if Tai hadn't listed all of these acts in such glowing, horny terms in her sex menu. Watching this scene unfold from behind the camera was a real treat. It's lovely to know that after ten years in porn, things can still surprise me - and I can discover the appeal of acts I never thought of as hot before. I'm grateful to Tai for being so authentic, so utterly open about her filthiest fantasies, and for trusting us to realise them for her. Even if wedgies and swirlies aren't your bag, I think Tai's total immersion and submission in this scene makes it really watchable - you can tell how into it she is, and it was wonderful to see her face light up when she talked about it in the post-scene interview!

I'd love to say that after the toilet-flushing everything got lighter and fluffier, but I'm afraid that it just escalated from there. The last two scenes of the day were, if anything, even more intense.

Although Tai had received lots of pain and domination so far, she hadn't been spanked with much other than the hand. That was about to change: our penultimate scene, lifted straight out of her sex menu, featured me as a no good, very bad therapist, and Tai as my vulnerable young client who confides her kinky fantasies to me. I shame her for having them, tell them that they're disgusting and wrong, and then take sadistic advantage of the situation and coerce her to take 'corrective punishment' from me.

It's interesting to note that even describing this scene to you now, I'm feeling a flutter of nervousness and vulnerability that you'll think I'm a terrible, terrible person for having this scene on my site. It's a fantasy that goes so strongly against the core principles of my morality - that there's nothing wrong with being kinky, that you shouldn't be ashamed about what turns you on - that I'm shy even about telling you we filmed it, even though you already know it was Tai's idea, not mine. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with this being a fantasy of Tai's, either. That would be pretty ironic.

But I can tell you that I struggled to shoot this scene. I had to call cut at some point, just because I knew that my toppy dialogue sucked and I was totally failing to be the nasty, shaming abuser that Tai's fantasy required. Tai patiently fed me the script - "Tell me I'm a perverted freak, that there's something wrong with me, that no respectable or normal girl would be into stuff like this, that I deserve everything I get" - and I nodded and took some breaths, and we got back into character and tried again. I think we got there in the end.

It was pretty humbling, though. It's not often that the top is the one that has to safeword: and it renewed my admiration for Tai's strong sense of self; how aware and assured and accepting she is of her sexuality, that she can take ownership of her own shame scripts in this sort of consensual play. I hope the scene turned out well enough to do her wholeheartedness justice, despite my hesitance in the role of the kink-shaming authority figure.

I can attest that she took a pretty hard beating with some wickedly painful implements, including my much-hated stingy bathbrush, and the senior tawse. By the end of this scene Tai's bottom was ... well, crimson.


Then it was time for the final scene of the day; the caning Tai had been dreaming of since before she first shot for us.

By this point, you won't be surprised to hear that the plot involves unfair punishment and excessive severity. Tai plays her character from the bullying scene with Nimue; Nimue tattled that Tai was smoking and selling weed, and I play their overly strict caregiver who believes everything Nimue says, and punishes Tai with a hard caning. Luckily, I am 100% secure in my confidence that hard caning is something Tai loves and craves, and so it was easier for me this time to get into character and bring it to life. 


It also helped that giving hard canings is one of my favourite things to do - I love the craft of it, lining up perfectly parallel lines and judging the accuracy and power just right. Tai took it beautifully, and I'm delighted with this scene, and everything else we shot that day. I very much hope that she was satisfied with the results!

It was a pleasure and a privilege to host Tai's first shoot as a female spankee, and to assist one more trans girl in the valiant mission of queering up the spanking scene. It certainly needs it. All I can say is, those spanking sites that won't shoot trans performers are totally missing out. Tai is a treasure, and I can't wait to share her scenes with you all.

A beating that's so much sexier because we're all co-conspirators...

Something as dark and sordid as blackmail is ripe for kink. Firstly there's the power-play element: where you're never quite sure quite who's got the upper hand. Secondly, the subversion of society's inclinations to make sex something dirty and sordid: excellent blackmail material.

In this week's scene, Ten Amorette take all of that darkness, wraps it up in her tight, smart, dress, and sashays over to politician Paul Kennedy's house with the aim of entrapping him in a sordid spanking scenario

An over the knee hand spanking for Ten Amorette at Dreams of Spanking

 You can probably tell that this scene is inspired by House of Cards: when Pandora emailed me about it, she explained that she'd been watching a lot of the devious Netflix series at the time. I was delighted, because I personally find House of Cards a massive turn on: the machinations, the double-crossing, the fact that you never truly know what Frank Underwood is thinking, until he turns to camera and beckons you closer, giving you a keyhole glimpse into his evil plans. 

An over the knee hand spanking for Ten Amorette at Dreams of Spanking

In this scene, it's Ten Amorette who has the power, and politician Paul Kennedy who's caught in her honeytrap. But her exposition at the beginning of the scene is borrowed straight from those intimate moments during House of Cards, where the audience is invited to both fear and root for the 'bad guy.' Ten sits on the bed, putting the finishing touches to her outfit – tight dress and high heels, a real femme fatale costume - and explaining her hopes for the afternoon. She wants to make sure that she gets enough material to blackmail Paul. She's heard he's into some 'freaky stuff' in bed, and if she can draw his spanking kink out, then she should get the evidence she needs to truly screw him over. 

A hard belt whipping for Ten Amorette in this new blackmail porn film at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora explains that this technique was a new idea, which came up during a discussion at the feminist porn conference. The dilemma: how do you make performer consent explicit in a non-consent scene? Blackmail is a great test case for this, because either character can be the one doing the blackmailing. While you may have a spankee who is feigning reluctance to get spanked, in a blackmail scenario they're there because – like Ten Amorette in this scene – they want to get the payoff when they gather the blackmail material. 

A hard belt whipping for Ten Amorette in this new blackmail porn film at Dreams of Spanking

Of course in a scene with more characters, or one with a longer story arc, you can use conversations with other characters to make the blackmail plot explicit. But the House of Cards-style discussion means you can break the fourth wall without needing more characters, and it also gives it a delicious conspiratorial air. You, the viewer, are being invited along with Ten Amorette as she carries out her plan. 

I think this conspiratorial atmosphere is one of the things that made House of Cards so sexy, and it's one of the things that adds to the hotness of Ten's blackmail porn scene. She gets to Paul Kennedy's house, and teases him into giving her an over the knee spanking. To someone who wasn't involved in the back story, it may look like your average playful sexy spanking scenario. But to us, the audience – Ten's co-conspirators – we know that she'll need a much harder beating if she's going to get the evidence she needs... 

A hard belt whipping for Ten Amorette in this new blackmail porn film at Dreams of Spanking

The ultimate school bully fantasy

Sometimes I watch a spanking film and realise halfway through that I should probably be wearing headphones. The crisp smacking sounds of a particularly thorough beating, or the squeals of a protesting character, echo around the room and I belatedly realise that someone might be able to hear. Then there are the films which are so thoroughly absorbing I forget about headphones, and it’s only after the credits roll that I remember I have neighbours. This was one of the latter.

Pandora plays the school bully, and Ten Amorette the innocent schoolgirl who refuses to hand over her lunch money. What ensues is a fast-paced bondage takedown, involving girl-on-girl wrestling, spanking, struggling, and a harsh thrashing with the strap.

Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora and Ten have an amazing chemistry, as evidenced by the fact that they can play scenes at such different ends of the roughness spectrum. This week’s spanking video couldn’t be more different in tone from the caring, erotic spanking in ‘The Surprise Present’ - that one started with a sensual flogging and ended with kisses and caresses, whereas this is rough, angry and aggressive.

Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking
Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking

I’m biased, because many of my teenage fantasies involved the idea of being punished by a prefect or older school student for some imagined or invented slight, but holy God this scene is hot. Two schoolgirls in matching sexy uniforms – white knee socks, black patent heels, and tiny short skirts – having a ferocious schoolgirl catfight that ends with the dominant one wrestling the other to the floor and stripping her skirt and knickers, and giving her a sound spanking...

Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking
Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking

It's hot not just for the dynamic between Pandora and Ten - which is smoking - or for the school uniforms complete with tiny skirts, tight shirts, and ties that are used to leave Ten bound and gagged on the floor. Or for the speed - the swift movements with which Pandora throws Ten to the ground, the struggle, the wrestling, the conflict. The extra-hot touches, like Pandora's hand clamped over Ten's mouth, smothering her cries, or the harsh slap to her face that tells her who's got the power.

Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking
Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking
Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking

It’s uniquely sexy because of the combination of all these things - because of the sheer number of knicker-moistening triggers that are effortlessly tossed into one scene. The cruelty. The resistance. The humiliation. The vicious strokes of the leather strap.

It's just the whole damn fantasy.

Ten Amorette in school uniform bound, gagged and spanked at Dreams of Spanking

An edgy fantasy made flesh

Sometimes a lover will whisper a particular fantasy in my ear, and my heart beats extra-fast because it presses exactly the same buttons as fantasies I've had myself in the past. This week's scene is that feeling made flesh.

Alex Reynolds likes edgy scenes and harsh roleplay where there's a struggle or an abuse of authority. She likes disproportionate punishments and begging and screaming and beating.

And so do I.

'Playing Truant' doesn't just float my boat, it's almost measure for measure one of the scenes that's played out in my head ever since... well... ever since I started fantasising.

Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking

Paul Kennedy plays an angry, predatory truant officer, who's been watching Alex behave like – his words – a 'little slut.' She skips school and fools around with boys, and he's been watching her, clearly enjoying the show and scheming how to take advantage. He collects enough information that he can not only scold her, but blackmail her to submit to his violent, nasty urges.

As she squeals and begs him to stop, he punishes her far more severely than she deserves – a vicious tawsing across her naked buttocks and oh-so-sensitive thighs.

Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking
Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking

Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy are a couple in real life, and I really appreciate their candid discussion in the performer interviews accompanying this film. Alex explains that this is the kind of scenario she enjoys most – rough scenes where Paul abuses his authority to dish out cruel punishments. Paul's demeanour in the interview is so different from his character in the film that it's clear this sort of role is very different to how he actually is – and both partners explain what they find so liberating, and so rewarding, about exploring these different roles in scene.

Paul's character is certainly a nasty piece of work in this scene, as he strips Alex to the waist and roughly fondles her breasts, before bending her over for the tawse. He frequently shoves a hand between her legs as she squirms away, and grins with evil delight as he paints vivid red stripes onto her bottom and thighs. And in case you're worried, the camera stays on the couple after Pandora calls “cut”, to show Alex snuggling up to her lover, thanking him for bringing her desires to life.

Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking

I might start using this film as an instructional video. As someone whose most often-used phrase in bed is 'be mean to me', I've now got this bookmarked so that when I want to show just how mean I can say 'like this'. Beat me like I'm a naughty schoolgirl caught playing truant. Beat me like I'm a helpless young woman entrapped by a very nasty man.

Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking
Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking

It's not often we get to see a spanking film that shows sexual coercion as well as corporal punishment – and it might make me uneasy if the love Alex and Paul have for each other didn't shine out of the screen. If you are worried, I recommend you watch the interview before you watch the film – it's an in-depth discussion of kinky sexuality by two very articulate, experienced players, who are perfectly comfortable sharing their darker side with each other – and with us.

It's a seriously sexy treat for me to see have two talented performers act out something that's so closely matches one of my own fantasies, and if you're keen on this type of edgy, harsh punishment then I'm sure you'll love it too. From the words Paul chooses to humiliate Alex, to her well-acted misery and fear, there is so much in this scene to love.

Real life couple Alex Reynolds and Paul Kennedy play on the darker side at Dreams of Spanking

I don't think there's any way to end this post other than with a huge thank you to Paul and Alex, for sharing this aspect of their play dynamic, and for such a smoking hot interpretation of the things that happen in my head.

Have you had a similar experience with a particular Dreams of Spanking scene? I love the idea of sharing a specific film with a lover, and saying 'look! This is what my fantasy looks like!' Which scene is your closest match?

Reading while getting the strap

One of the things I find hottest – whether it's during a kink scene or sex itself – is distraction. Having to perform one task while someone else tries to distract you, or being the one doing the distraction. This can be something really simple, from cleaning the oven (as in last week's playfully sexy Provocative Housework) to reading out loud.

This week, the amazing duo Molly Malone and John Beecroft are back. With their trademark flirtatious chemistry, they act out a spanking scene that's based on a true story. Molly rents the village hall to host kinky workshops, although she hasn't told John, the hall manager, exactly what she's using it for.

Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking

Unfortunately, she accidentally leaves a bag behind -  and when John looks inside, he finds a book entitled "Curious Pleasures" alongside a selection of even more cuious implements. Molly squirms as he quizzes her about her erotic spanking hobby, deliciously embarrassed at having to explain that her corporal punishment workshops are ... umm... "relationship counselling".

Molly looks like she wants to sink into the floor as John demands to know if her parents know what she's doing - or what if someone took photos? He tells her it's disgraceful to treat it as all fun and games - in his day, punishment was a serious matter, used for discipline. John gives her a choice: accept a real punishment from him, or he'll tell everyone her secret.

It's clear that John is simply itching to have a go with Molly's kinky toys - and as she realises that his motivations aren't as strict as he claims, Molly quickly accepts, and willingly bends over the sofa for a beating.

Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking
Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking

And this is where the distraction bit comes in: in between lashing her bare bottom with the flogger, John asks Molly to read out passages from the book he found in her bag. An old-fashioned text explaining how some people corrupt corporal punishment to use it for 'carnal purposes', it's perfect to be read aloud by a giggling, teasing Molly.

When John steps things up a notch, and picks up the strap for phase two of Molly's punishment, he insists that she keeps reading it as he beats her. I'll be honest: as soon as the book came out at the start of the scene I'd been waiting for this moment.

Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking

I think it's mainly so arousing because the distraction of reading highlights just how hard the strokes are. As each whack lands, we hear a sharp intake of breath, and Molly jerks at the impact, pausing briefly in her recital as she takes a moment to absorb the pain.

Distraction doesn't make the spanking more painful, necessarily – it just makes the pain more apparent. The impact, the involuntary reactions all call delicious attention to that moment when the strap connects with her bare bottom.

With Molly's increasingly teasing comments, it soon becomes clear that John's as kinky as she is. For all his claims about "depravity" and "discipline", it's obvious to Molly, and to us, that John is loving every minute of the experience. And with the gorgeous juxtaposition of Molly's calm, measured reading voice and her gasps as each stroke of the strap leaves its mark, I can't say I'm surprised.

Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking

Alongside the element of distraction, I should also mention that I love the whole look of this scene. When Molly takes off her jacket to reveal a tight corset, tiny skirt and leather collar, the contrast between the two is perfect - John as the distinguished disciplinarian, and Molly as the coquettish, cheeky madam. She giggles and flirts, and is clearly delighted that rather than reporting her, John has decided to take an interest in her hobby.

I've said before how much I love the chemistry between Molly and John (and if you keep watching after the credits on this video you'll see more of it in the out-takes). I think one of the best things about spanking performers who are play partners in real life is that everything feels so natural - from the initial reprimands to the order to bend over, the playful flirting and the dialogue. Oh, especially the dialogue.

When he's finished with the strapping, John turns to Molly and declares:

“You may put what passes for your clothes back on.”

I'll be distracted by the thought of that line for a pretty long time to come.

Punishment and curious pleasures for Molly Malone at Dreams of Spanking

The Workaholic - Erica Scott behind the scenes

In my head, I divide the scenes on Dreams of Spanking into two categories. The first is "how I play in real life". You can find scenes like this under the consensual, playful and positive tags - spanking that is fun, informal and mutually fulfilling, with people I like a lot. The other category is "what I fantasise about". These fantasies are nothing like my real life play preferences. I fantasise about serious spankings in dark, fictional contexts, often with an unwilling spankee.

My whole concept of ethical production of spanking porn centers around consent. It's very important to me that the performers in my productions have a say in what they do on camera, are treated well on the day, and come away happy. When I'm filming a fun, sexy spanking between me and my friends or lovers, this enjoyment shines through. But what if we're acting the parts of characters and creating a drama that doesn't have a happy ending?

That's where behind the scenes material comes in.

My approach to behind the scenes content is twofold. Firstly, it's important to have videos and photos available on Dreams of Spanking - and not tucked away out of sight in a members area, either, but right there on the tour pages. Performer interviews, out-takes and candid snaps all help to create transparency and honesty about the shooting process, and invite you in to watch how we made our darker, edgier scenes. Not only can you see which scenes have behind the scenes material and which don't before you join, and read a synopsis of each out-takes video, you can watch our free performer interviews in full.

For instance, The Workaholic, our latest M/F film starring Erica Scott and Paul Kennedy, has a 12 minute out-takes and "making of" video showing you the process behind the product, and a 9 minute free interview with Erica.

Behind the scenes with Erica Scott at Dreams of Spanking

The Workaholic: Behind the scenes

Performers: Erica Scott, Paul Kennedy

Out-takes and making of video for The Workaholic! Shooting with a mirror in the background is not straightforward. Why didn't we just cover it? Lots of snark and giggling from Erica and Alex, scene negotiation between Erica and Paul, silly voices, and a hilarious misunderstanding that resulted in Erica stoically staying quiet during 30 seconds of hairbrushing - for no reason. Torture! But there was lots of hugs and post-scene euphoria once we'd wrapped. Erica is a true spanking star. How she took that hairbrushing while still delivering witty one-liners I have no idea.

Who doesn't love spanking out-takes? You can browse all our scenes which include behind the scenes material here.

Behind the scenes with Erica Scott at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora Blake interviews Erica Scott

I was absolutely delighted to get the chance to shoot with the renowned Erica Scott in LA this year. This lady is a spanking legend! We took some time after the shoot to chat about how we met, blogging, her books, life, love and spanking. You can find out more about Erica at ericascottlls.blogspot.com.

The other element, just as important, is off-site. In my opinion one of the cornerstones of ethical porn production, the thing that makes it possible for fairtrade porn to be trustworthy and transparent, is social media. I first developed these ideas in my blogpost from 2008, Cumshots, spanking and the role of blogging in feminist porn.

For the first five years of my spanking career I was working as a performer for other producers, and if I felt uncomfortable on a spanking shoot, I know I wouldn't always have felt comfortable saying so in the end-of-day interview, where you are often expected to smile for the camera before you get paid. Blogging, on the other hand, is a different matter. I have never asked or paid a performer who's filmed for Dreams of Spanking to blog about the experience. If anyone chooses to do so, it is in their own time, and their own words. The one or two times in my career I've ever had a bad shoot experience, I didn't blog about it. I was wary of being accused of lying or causing "drama", so I kept quiet and warned fellow models away in person instead. Any performer who writes about a shoot is promoting the producer they worked with, and you wouldn't want to do that unless you still liked them.

So if you want to tell if a spanking film was produced in a fun and fairtrade way, don't take the director's word for it. Any ethical porn director will provide info about all their performers, including links to their blog, website and twitter if they have one. Click the links and read the blog posts, tweets, and facebook posts by the performers themselves.

I'm lucky that so many of my performers are enthusiastic bloggers. Erica has really out-done herself with this scene. You can read her original write-up of the shoot experience in April, written only a day later. More recently, she's also posted an announcement of the video release, a fun post about the behind the scenes video, and a new post last night linking to a new model spotlight featuring Erica Scott on The Spanking Galleries, which includes lots of previews of The Workaholic.Thank you Erica, you really are spoiling us!


Read Spanking Model Spotlight – The One and Only Erica Scott on The Spanking Galleries

Passionate rows and intense punishment

God I love a good ruck. A back-and-forth row that screams passion just as much as a good shag does. If given the choice between a calm and gentle relationship with lots of cuddles on the sofa, or an angry, feisty, plate-smashing partnership, I’d definitely go for the latter.

Erica Scott and Paul Kennedy play a stunning example of that kind of heated relationship in this scene, and I can’t decide what’s better – the passion with which she begs him to give her sexual satisfaction, or the frustration she howls face-down on the bed when he responds by giving her a beating instead.

Spanked wife Erica Scott gets the wooden hairbrush and leather strap at Dreams of Spanking

This scene was shot while Pandora was in Los Angeles, and it turns out it was a bit of a surprise one – you can read the back story here, incuding how they came up with the plot. Pandora’s really glad she got to shoot with Erica, and I reckon when you’ve watched this you’ll be delighted too!

Workaholic is not for the faint-hearted. It starts with a fairly traditional idea – the lonely wife trying to seduce her workaholic husband by dressing in deeply sexy lingerie and surprising him in the bedroom. But it quickly gets very dark, as Erica tears up her husband’s work proposal and angers him so much that only a thrashing with the leather belt will curb her rude behaviour.

Spanked wife Erica Scott gets the wooden hairbrush and leather strap at Dreams of Spanking

There’s a glorious tension in the dynamic between Erica and Paul – we know that Erica’s frustrated, but we also know that when she impulsively rips up her husband’s work report, she’s getting herself in serious trouble. But Erica isn’t going to take her punishment without giving her husband a piece of her mind. With every smack on her bottom she’s giving angry retorts, fighting back and struggling as he pins her wrists behind her back. She might be being beaten, but that doesn’t mean she'll submit - and it certainly doesn’t mean she’s in the wrong.

Even as Paul is spanking her with a hairbrush, Erica is making her point - that’s what I mean about the back-and-forth. It’s not just a whacking in which one person dominates the other. Even as her bottom turns bright red and she squeals in outraged agony, Erica hurls witty comebacks and biting remarks at Paul to the point where he genuinely feels starts to feel guilty for neglecting her.

Spanked wife Erica Scott gets the wooden hairbrush and leather strap at Dreams of Spanking Spanked wife Erica Scott gets the wooden hairbrush and leather strap at Dreams of Spanking

Since I've started working at Dreams of Spanking I've talked about ‘chemistry’ a lot. There's this idea that in porn, because people are professional performers, there can't be any real heat or passion. It's crap, of course - as you’ll know if you’re a Dreams member. While the tone and atmosphere of each scene is different, there are so many films where the chemistry between two performers just crackles off the screen. For instance, there's a similar sizzling passion in Bitch – which stars Pandora and Vix Vixxxen, and involves lots of heated kisses, slapping and hissed ‘fuck you’s.

With their angry battle of wills, Paul and Erica get you not just horny for the punishment itself (with a hand spanking and violent wooden hairbrush spanking over the knee, and a hard thrashing with the leather strap, it really is incredibly hot) but they also get you believing in the characters. I feel for Erica’s frustration, and winced when she tore up the report. And above all I was felt her genuine passion when she tried to get her husband to see her point of view.

As with many domestic disputes, there isn't any clear right or wrong here: sure, Erica’s given such a thorough beating it’ll be a long time before she destroys her husband’s work again, but I feel like Paul’s left feeling apologetic as well. There’s no clear winner in this fight (unless you count those of us who are lucky enough to watch it). But I’ll leave it to you to see if they kiss and make up at the end.

Spanked wife Erica Scott gets the wooden hairbrush and leather strap at Dreams of Spanking

New update: Donna Draper's Secretary behind the scenes

Donna Draper's Secretary - Behind the Scenes

Donna Draper's Secretary: Behind the scenes

Performers: Pandora Blake, Vix Vixxxen

Behind the scenes during the filming of Donna Draper's Secretary. Out-takes and out-of-character chatter as Pandora, Vix and Nimue discuss the perils of being over-ambitious, plan their Mad Men dialogue and negotiate the caning. Vix demonstrates her skill at remembering her mark, and shows off her famous poise (not including getting over excited while bending over in heels and nearly falling on her arse)!

The nearly-falling-over is definitely my favourite bit of this - not only because of the hilarious way Vix sways back and forth without moving her feet, but because the reason she lost her balance in the first place was that she was cracking up and slapping her thigh with delight, cackling "I love my life". I can't think why; all Nimue had said was that we could see her cane stripes through her sheer knickers. Perfectly normal observation if you ask me!

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