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A vintage Dreams of Spanking scene - and a slice of personal history

Victorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of Spanking

Since Dreams of Spanking launched, I've been impatient to edit and release The Victorian Brothel. I chose the image of me over Tom's knee, wearing bloomers and a corset, as the homepage header image back when I designed the site in the summer of 2011. I always intended to create a rotating gallery of images on that header, showing a wider variety of scenes, but somehow I never found time.

I was incredibly proud of this film when we shot it. This was my second ever shoot as producer/director, a day with Zille Defeu, her husband Duncan, our friend Jay, Tom and me. The first Dreams of Spanking shoot had just been me, Jay and Tom. Those early shoots were a steep learning curve for me.

Until The Victorian Brothel, every scene was a crash course in new aspects of filming that I had to work out from scratch. There was a lot of stopping and starting. Trying to juggle the mental demands of directing with the physical and emotional challenges of bottoming on camera, I found it hard to avoid getting stressed. But The Victorian Brothel was our final scene of the day, and it was the first scene I'd produced that felt like it went well at the time. With Duncan, Zille and Jay behind the camera, Tom and I got into character and the roleplay flowed. It felt as natural as the roleplay scenes we played in private. Trusting our friends to capture our live improvisation, I was able to immerse myself in the scenario, get fully into character, and surrender to the beating without having to balance that headspace with other, more technical concerns. As a result I was able to take a much harder spanking, paddling and caning than I usually can while performing/directing, and I was really happy about it. 

Victorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of Spanking

That was over seven years ago, in early December 2009. The reason I didn't edit this film before the site launched, along with the other two scenes we shot that day - Caned in Jodhpurs and Liberated Ladies of the Jazz Age - is simple. The Victorian Brothel was originally written as part of a series of films entitled The Adventures of Molly Brown. I'd written several episodes of it; this was the fourth chapter in the story. I hadn't had a chance yet to shoot episodes one to three, but the shoot with Zille and Tom was a perfect opportunity to shoot the episode in which my character meets his for the first time. I very much intended to shoot the others at some point, however; and I wanted to wait and release them in story order.

Sadly, I never got a chance to film the backstory. Episodes one, two and three fell by the wayside. And when I realised that the age verification policy in the Digital Economy Bill was going to put a cut-off point on my ability to keep the site alive in its current form, I finally accepted that I wasn't going to get the chance to shoot them any time soon. Meanwhile, I'm trying to release as much of the content I care about while the site is still legal in the UK.

So Molly Brown's story starts here: with her first appointment with a new customer in Mrs Slater's brothel. An urchin who grew up in the streets and the workhouse, Molly was sent out to work for various undesirable trades, but somehow always found herself sent back to face the the steely glare - and the hard leather strap - of the beadle. When Mrs Slater turned up to see if he had any new girls for her, he packed her off to the brothel - and Molly's life entered a new chapter.

Victorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of SpankingVictorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of Spanking

Scrubbed to within an inch of her life, Molly began her transformation into a girl Mrs Slater's customers might find appealing. She earned her share of licks from the madame, too; but it was nothing compared to the beadle's strong right arm. When Mrs Slater saw how well Molly took her punishment, she thought to send her to one of her more eccentric clients, a gent with a predilection for administering corporal punishment to the plump bare bottoms of comely wenches. Molly lacked the elegance and accomplishment of other girls, but she was resilient and quick-witted, and Mrs Slater saw the potential to train her up to please her more unusual clientele.

Molly took well to Mrs Slater's training, and was finally declared ready to meet her first customer. But although Molly is no stranger to taking a beating, she still is not particularly inclined to behave submissively. Sparks fly between her and the gent as he tries to bend her to his will, and her quick tongue and stubborn nature get her into more trouble than she'd bargained for.

Victorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of Spanking

So that's Molly's backstory. You never know, it's not impossible I might be able to shoot the previous episodes sometime in the future - although perhaps I'll look too different by the time the stars align, and I have affordable access to the venues and cast I need. In the meantime I think this scene stands well enough on its own. Although I can tell you now that the next chapter has also been shot, and will be released in the coming weeks, starring myself, Tom, and a new character played by Leia Ann Woods...

Coming back to this film to edit it, seven years after it was filmed, was a weird experience. Tom and I split up three years ago, and it was very strange to watch us on camera. I almost felt like I was watching someone else; and yet in other ways seeing us together all those years ago felt very real, and very personal.

I remember writing this scene for us to play. Although Tom plays a very overbearing, bullying character, and to the uninitiated perhaps this scene might be edgy enough to seem non-consensual, I can tell you for certain that this scenario was my fantasy, and performing it was an authentic act of self-expression. But it was fascinating and somewhat dissonant to watch this recording, a piece of my own personal history, and reflect on how much has changed since then.

Victorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of SpankingVictorian wench Pandora Blake is punished by Thomas Cameron at Dreams of Spanking

There are some aspects of this film that I would definitely do differently nowadays. For instance, the way that Tom's patriarchal character throws around the word "whore" makes me wince, now, as an advocate of sex workers' rights who is fighting against stigma and whorephobia. These days I would seriously consider before I took on the role of a historical sex worker, but back then I didn't think twice.

Editing this, I had the opportunity to reflect on how far Dreams of Spanking has come - not only politically, but technically. The Victorian Brothel was shot before I knew to record audio separately from the cameras, or to use face lights. It was a frustrating edit in some ways, as I struggled to salvage a legible soundtrack from two cameras that both had audio isses - one picking up a lot of wind noise (from where I have no idea, given we were indoors), the other plagued by mechanical clicks and whirrs from the operation of the camera. But I feel like I've managed to massage it into a shape that communicates my vision, hopefully without too many technical distractions. I hope you'll forgive any that remain.

For me, the power of this film comes from the interaction between the characters. It's a hard corporal punishment scene, both physically and emotionally - the intensity brings me/Molly to tears towards the end. But not only is the spanking itself severe, the atmosphere of the scene is rife with tension. The scenario unfolds as a battle of wills between a cruel gentleman with particular tastes, and a spirited wench who doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut. I certainly took more strokes, and harder, than if Molly Brown had been submissive than rebellious. But I loved it.

Life has moved on since Tom and I filmed this scene. We are no longer together, and there have been many changes for both me and Dreams of Spanking. But this film holds a special place in my heart. It shows what Tom and I did best - hard, accurate spanking that pushes me to my limits, quick-witted dialogue, sparks flying between two strong characters, and Tom's trademark brand of elegant, articulate dominance.

When I filmed this scene, it seemed to encapsulate everything I wanted to achieve with Dreams of Spanking: immersive roleplay between real life partners, lush costumes and locations, and imaginative historical settings with a quirky sense of humour and a rich attention to detail. That was why I chose a still from this scene as our banner image - and why, although much has changed since then, I'm still very pleased to share it with the world. 

Victorian pin-up perfection

Despite containing nakedness, over the knee spanking and hard caning, there is something almost innocent in these images. Maybe it's the Victorian setting, or Pandora's white flouncy underskirt. Whatever it is, it really gives this scene a romantic air that I love. It's a sort of nostalgia for a time I only know from books and films.

The Victorian Brothel starring Pandora Blake and Thomas Cameron is a gorgeous sepia photoset that manages to perfectly capture a sort of mentor/protegee experience. I think the slightly cheeky but nervous smile on Pandora's face as she looks up at him is one of the things that make me think of the asymmetrical power dynamic between a strict teacher and student who is eager to impress.

Pandora Blake and Thomas Cameron in The Victorian Brothel at Dreams of SpankingPandora Blake and Thomas Cameron in The Victorian Brothel at Dreams of Spanking

There is an innocence in the photos of Pandora as a Victorian wench getting ready to meet (and please) her new client. I love the image of her kneeling at his feet; the way her hands are tucked under her bottom, and she is looking at the floor but still turned towards him, and the smile on his face as he sits relaxed. It holds possibility; his hand resting on his knee looks like all he has to do is lift a finger and he will be touching her breast. It’s powerful; charged with sensual tension but not overtly erotic…and despite not being submissive, I find I can’t decide if I want to be on the floor or in the chair.

The sequence of photographs where Pandora is showing herself off for Thomas is fascinating. There is an air of confidence but also uncertainty. It conveys the feeling that she is proud of her body but not quite sure if the person she is showing off for approves. Even when she is laid over his knee she seems confused by his lack of apparent response to her charms - which makes her reaction to the first spank so delightful...

Pandora Blake and Thomas Cameron in The Victorian Brothel at Dreams of Spanking

I love the careful way Thomas explores her; lifting her skirt, parting her white bloomers, stroking her bum, and skimming past her more delicate area before teasing with a finger, as if he is testing her readiness. The way he lines up the paddle while Pandora tenses, her face crunched as she prepares for the first impact of leather.

I think my favourite image in this set is the one of the cane impacting on Pandora’s bare bottom. The pose, composition, the way the heels lift her bare bottom, and the stocking tops frame the ‘impact zone’. I love how the cane is pressing into her flesh, bending slightly with the force of the stroke. Plus, it is a very lovely bottom, especially with that pattern of bruised stripes across it. It’s an image I have gone back to more than once.

Finally her punishment is over, and Thomas gathers Pandora on his knee. There is something really sexy about the way Pandora bites her lip as Thomas bites her nipple. The way he has her arms pinned behind her back just adds to the feeling. This is a really hot image, that gave me all the right kind of shivers. The film that goes with this photoset has just been released, and I can't wait to watch it because I think it will be hot hot hot.

The last image in the set reminds me of those collectable cards you used to get in cigarette packet, of the sexy ladies in their underwear. It has that air about it, Victorian pin-up perfection.

Pandora Blake and Thomas Cameron in The Victorian Brothel at Dreams of SpankingPandora Blake and Thomas Cameron in The Victorian Brothel at Dreams of Spanking

This is an elegant, evocative photoset with so many beautiful images in it. Which is your favourite?

Which spanking videos are you happiest to see again?

I've really enjoyed the last two weeks. It's been wonderful to see so many of you re-subscribing and commenting on your favourite scenes. I've been very happy to welcome familiar names and new ones - and it's hard to tell, but I have a feeling that the percentage of female members is higher this time round.

It gives me a warm glow just to see the site back up again, and I've had great fun romping around the archive, enjoying the feeling of being immersed in familiar pages - like re-reading a favourite book after a long time.

Thanks for your patience, all of you, while we settle in, wipe off the dust and start firing up all the mechanisms to get this engine running again. AJ has been working morning and night keeping on top of your payment and tech support requests, and her blogpost about how it feels to be back made me shed a little happy tear. Girl on the Net has a lot on right now - in fact she's possibly even busier than I am - but both of us have been running around behind the scenes, working hard to clear space in our schedules. Bear with us while we get back up to speed. The timing of the appeal win was as much of a surprise to us as it was to you, so we didn't have any new content ready to upload when the site re-opened. I'm working on having something ready for this weekend, but  if new updates are a bit erratic while we find our feet, you know why.

In the meantime, I know you've been enjoying the 274 spanking videos, photosets and audio stories in our archive since the site reopened - even though all our free content such as trailers and Backlash sponsored caning videos is cloud hosted, our bandwidth usage has been through the roof this month. You've shifted 10TB in a fortnight - and that usage is pretty much all logged-in members. That's a lot of video downloads!

So which spanking videos did our members make a beeline for, when the site re-opened? We asked our Twitter followers which of our scenes they'd missed the most. Here are their picks:

Dana for Senator

Every office should look like this! This film was Michael Darling's first ever porn appearance. I tried to help him out by getting spanked first, so he would know what was expected of him when his turn came, but perhaps the anticipation just made him even more nervous. Either way, Dana and Mike give classic performances in this elegant office punishment film, and he and I both end up with very red bottoms.

Dana for Senator: Dana Kane, Michael Darling and Pandora Blake. Femdom office punishment at Dreams of Spanking.

My Inner Little Girl

I have a lot of love for this film, which screened at Cinekink 2014 and was a milestone in my porn career - my first explicit masturbation scene and orgasm on camera. I play Tamora, a high-powered executive who copes with the stress of adult life by fantasising about being a little girl, spanked, scolded and helpless.

Pandora Blake fantasises about being spanked while she masturbates to orgasm at Dreams of Spanking

Houseboy

Where would a "best of" post be without Houseboy - the film that landed us not only the Cinekink 2016 Bring It! Award for up-and-coming filmmakers, but also the first prize in the Berlin Porn Film Festival Short Film Competition last year? I'm still ridiculously proud of this film, which brings storytelling, dominance and submission and spanking together in a tale of non-monogamy and jealousy in a queer, kinky household. 

This was both Tai and Eliza's debut porn appearances; at the time of shooting, Tai identified as genderqueer, and had no objection to playing a male character for this film, which I wanted to be a female gaze celebration of submissive masculine beauty. Since the shoot, however, Tai has come out as trans, and so this film now stars not one but two trans women; a demographic all too often fetishised and objectified in mainstream porn, and erased from spanking porn entirely.  

Houseboy: an award-winning tale of dominance, submission and jealousy starring Pandora Blake, Tai Crimson and Eliza Grey.

The Edwardian Governess

A lot of you are Caroline Grey fans - and who can blame you? I think I agree with Mr London - my personal favourite scenes of hers are the Edwardian Governess films, starring Caroline alongside Amelia Jane Rutherford, myself and Will Savage in the second film, Invitations. Lush period costume, spanking over split bloomers, peachy bottoms glowing cherry red, and lots of authentic (and witty) dialogue from Caroline and Amelia. She just looks 

Caroline Grey is spanked and paddled over the knee by her strict Edwardian governess at Dreams of Spanking.

Only His Hand

I was hard-pressed to pick a fifth film for this post. All the scenes Mr London mentioned are worth watching - I considered featuring The Seating Plan, in which my fiance's sister Ten Amorette spanks me before my wedding; or Little Ten, in which Ten plays my bratty girlfriend and I treat her like a little girl, and give her a good scolding and spanking. I'm also fond of Alex's POV, an innovative point of view scene in which we aimed to capture the female spankee's perspective with the camera, focussing on the connection between Alex Reynolds and her disciplinarian, Tom.

But I picked Only His Hand because it's one of the films I wrote long before the site went live; back in the early days of preparation, when I was working my arse off trying to save up to have some shoots, and my brain was overflowing with spanking video ideas. It was particularly satisfying for me to bring this fantasy to life. Hand spankings are one of my favourite things because they have so much range; there is no better way to warm up a bottom for pleasure spanking, but that equally, a hard hand spanking is just as painful as a paddle or hairbrush - if not more so. The idea of being held firmly in place by a strong, angry teacher who is determined to give me a punishment spanking I'll never forget, and show me just how hard his hand can be, still makes me shiver. Tom executed my fantasy to perfection, and this is one of the hardest hand spankings I've received on camera. (I think the only harder hand spanking on Dreams of Spanking is Over His Knee, and only because it goes on for longer; we skipped the plot and indulged in 20 minutes of pure, unadulterated over the knee spanking.) I love the storyline for Over His Hand - the neat way that the punishment fits the crime, and the absolute helplessness of my character during her well-earned punishment. If you want to see me genuinely squirm and struggle over the knee during a hand spanking that pushed my limits, you should watch this.

Pandora Blake takes a hard, fast, severe hand spanking over the knee at Dreams of Spanking.

Those weren't the only scenes named on Twitter - for instance, in a protected tweet Kodders mentioned Adornment, Charley Says and Bridezilla, all strong contenders for a Dreams of Spanking "best of". What scenes were you happiest to see back after our ten months away?

One thing is clear - the site being back up is bringing you as much pleasure as it is me, and I couldn't be happier to see you enjoying it.

How to be a good domestic servant (as learned from spanking porn)

In our new POV film, Pandora Blake conducts an interview for the position of butler. A respectable job, and one which carries a lot of important responsibilities. But where do you learn how to do such a rare and skilled job as this? Luckily, although you may never get the opportunity to apprentice with a real butler, Dreams of Spanking has plenty of characters with lessons to teach us about domestic service.

From the maid who scrubs the parlour to the gardener who keeps the grounds, there's a huge range of skills and experience for you to consult if you're looking to apply for the role of butler, or any other domestic service role. So without futher ado, here are some tips from the best (and worst) domestic servants on Dreams of Spanking:

Tip 1: Keep your hand out of the till

It doesn't matter if your family is poor, and you're so underpaid that you can't cover their costs – master and mistress will notice if anything goes missing. If you're extremely lucky, as in the case of The Whipped Maid, then light stealing won't result in a loss of your position and a return to the workhouse - a kind master or mistress will simply administer a fifty-stroke whipping to ensure the crime is not repeated.

Hapless maidservant Pandora Blake bends over for a fifty stroke cold caning from Thomas Cameron and Leia Ann Woods

Tip 2: ABC – Always Be Compliant

Amelia Jane Rutherford and Caroline Grey provide an excellent primer for domestic behaviour in The Baroness' New Housegirls. As Lady Blake inspects the girls and puts them through their paces, it's clear that while elegance and grace are high on her list, the quality most valued by their new mistress is compliance: unquestioning obedience to her every command.

Amelia Jane Rutherford models perfect submissive obedience for Pandora Blake and Caroline Grey

Tip 3: Look your best

There's no universally-approved uniform for domestic servants. Some employers will prefer you to wear a well-pressed suit, or a neat maid's uniform complete with cap. Others, such as Michael Darling's boss in this domestic scene, will prefer their butler to dress in floral apron, with nothing underneath. Respect your employer's dress code, because they probably know best. Michael's, for example, clearly has an excellent eye for the best outfit in which to appreciate a bright red spanked bottom.

Michael Darling shows off his bright red spanked bottom as a naked butler wearing only a floral apron Michael Darling shows off his bright red spanked bottom as a naked butler wearing only a floral apron

Tip 4: Maintain professional composure at all times

This is a basic premise for all domestic service roles. Sadly, though, as is clear in 'Position Available', it's not always easy to stay professional when presented with certain challenging tasks. For instance, if your mistress bends over a chair, offering her latex-clad bottom to a prospective butler so they can polish her skirt, it would be hard for even the most consummate pro to refrain from staring. Just make sure you don't indulge the temptation to inappropriately touch...

Pandora Blake shows off her bottom encased in tight black latex as she interviews you for the role of butler

Tip 5: Hide your indiscretions

Of course one cannot always be perfect, even if you know that misbehaviour will be dealt with swiftly and harshly. Such was the case with Sebastian Hawley, the undergardener caught sneaking off the estate and causing a ruckus in the local public house. Mistress Blake the housekeeper responsible for teaching him a lesson with the birch. If only he'd been more careful.

Undergardener Sebastian Hawley is taken out to the grounds for a birching by housekeeper Pandora Blake

So our final tip is one that applies no matter which domestic role you're applying for: No matter how strict your mistress or master, remember the most important advice of all - if you're going to misbehave, make certain you don't get caught.

If you're experienced in domestic service, have experience in being served yourself, or are even just an enthusiastic observer, please do add your own tips in the comments below. After all, we're keen to ensure that all Dreams of Spanking maids, butlers, gardeners and stableboys maintain the strictest standards of professional behaviour at all times...  

Why a picture is worth a thousand frames of video

Although many people love to watch a spanking in motion, for me there's something irreplaceable about still photography. Spanking photography is something of a dying art - in fact Northern Spanking is the only other spanking site I know of that still produces spanking photosets purely as photosets, rather than as promotional tools to accompany a video.

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

In my opinion standalone photo galleries have three chief benefits.

Firstly, they make for a different experience on set. When you're shooting both stills and video, you need to either shoot the stills first, blocking out the story based on the (usually quite vague) script  -  a bare-bones run-through before you get stuck into the more exciting business of roleplay and improvisation. Or you do the video first, and then, before the marks fade, you quickly retrace your steps for the stills - at which point everyone's tired, the energy has already peaked, the magic and excitement is fading away and the performers are counting down to the moment when they can flop out of character and have a cup of tea.

When you're shooting both stills and video, video by necessity takes priority, and the stills are a routine afterthought. But when you're only doing stills, all the energy and excitement that would normally go into the video goes into the stills - and the photos take on a life of their own.

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

Then there's the fact that stills are easier to get right. When you're shooting video there are so many details involved in capturing a scenario - the location, the costumes, the dialogue, the pacing, every little decision made on the fly and constrained by time and budget limitations - that however hard you work, you'll never get every detail right as far as most viewers are concerned. I know that when I'm watching a video I might be really into the premise of the scene, but then some niggling detail turns out to be a distraction or a turn off.

With stills, there is far less to get wrong. An image captures a single moment - and that's all you need. Besides, when you're working on an indie porn budget with fairly basic cameras and lighting, it's much easier (and cheaper!) to create sensational photography than it is to shoot professional-quality cinematic film.

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

The other advantage of still photography is this: you can make up your own story. Stills stimulate the imagination. They suggest a starting point, a fleeting moment - leaving the viewer to fill in the gaps.

I love to create films with complex, interesting plotlines, but with stills, less is more. You don't need an elaborate story, and you don't need to fill in all the details. Just set the scene, and let the viewer do the rest.

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

All this is by way of introducing our photoset Caned in the Parlour, a lovely little historical vignette starring me and Thomas Cameron, who was my real life partner at the time of shooting. It's a domestic setting,with me - perhaps - a young wife, nervous about having displeased her intimidating new husband so soon into their marriage - sent to the parlour to wait.

I don't know what I've done to deserve such an embarrassing punishment, but it must have been bad. Not only does Thomas instruct me to lean forward and place my hands on the mantelpiece, I must also humiliate myself by lifting my skirt, exposing my bottom to the dreaded swish of the cane. 

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

But it gets worse - I am obliged to remove my outer clothing entirely, until I stand nearly naked before him, chagrined and blushing. I clutch my dress against my chest, prolonging the inevitable moment when I must lean forward again, bare and exquisitely vulnerable under his stern gaze. 

Pandora Blake lifts her dress for an embarrassing caning in the parlour

But maybe that's not quite what happens... perhaps in your mind, it plays out differently. That's the best thing about spanking photography - the story is in your hands, and the details are up to you.

Dominated by two men at once

I think the photoset that went up on the site last week - Surprised in the Garden - is one of the best galleries on this site to date. I certainly had great fun shooting it with Thomas Cameron and Michael Darling, and Nimue Allen captured every hot moment in beautiful compositions.

Pandora Blake is tied naked and birched in the garden at Dreams of Spanking Pandora Blake is tied naked and birched in the garden at Dreams of Spanking

This scene is based on my oldest fantasies - of being surprised by my lover in the garden, tied up and blindfolded. It's not until I'm being punished that I realise there is not just one two pair of hands caressing and smacking my body, but two...

Pandora Blake is tied naked and punished in the garden at Dreams of Spanking
Pandora Blake is tied naked and punished in the garden at Dreams of Spanking

This scene is actually inspired by an erotic story I read when I was ten years old. This was a milestone moment for me because although I already knew I was fascinated by corporal punishment, I thought I was the only person on the planet who had this fetish. It wasn't until I discovered the theme in an naughty book that I realised other people eroticised spanking and caning too.

Pandora Blake is tied naked and punished in the garden at Dreams of Spanking
Pandora Blake is tied naked and punished in the garden at Dreams of Spanking

I thought it would be fun to record a video blog talking about the significance of this scene for me - and reading a snippet of the erotic story that inspired it.

I hadn't read that excerpt since I was a child, and it was surprising to discover the ways in which my memory of it were different - and the ways in which it was still incredibly fresh in my mind. Our recreation turned out pretty different, in the end, but I still find both scenes very hot.

Do you have a similar "milestone moment" when you realised that you were not alone in your kink? And if that was an encounter with a kinky fantasy or reference to corporal punishment, does that scenario still have the power to arouse you?

5 reasons why Dreams of Spanking is better than 50 Shades of Grey

There's no stopping the freight train that is 50 Shades of Grey. Since the film opened in cinemas this weekend, you can expect a million more articles about it from kinksters and non-kinksters alike dissecting the story, the acting, and above all the consent.

Naturally the book is pretty controversial. It's a fantasy scenario, sure, but as the 50 Shades juggernaut rolled on and more people read articles about how to 'do' BDSM like Christian Grey did, a lot more people started getting worried that, you know, perhaps this weirdly stalky, abusive lead character wasn't the best role model for people just beginning to explore their fantasies.

I've been told I'm wrong on this, so feel free to angrily disagree with me, but as a general rule I'm uncomfortable telling people what they can and can't fantasise about. And while 50 Shades is clearly not the template for a healthy relationship, I'm not going to stand outside the cinema with a placard telling people it's causing them harm. Erika Moen put it brilliantly:

“I have faith in people to understand that the fictional book they're reading is just a trashy two-dimensional fantasy to get their juices flowing and not the blueprints by which to construct their actual relationships.”

But while it's certainly not a template for real-life kink, it's definitely a handy comparator when identifying mistakes, and looking at how we can do real-life kink better. So without further ado, here are five ways in which Dreams of Spanking is a hell of a lot better than That Bloody Book.

1. We're way better at negotiating

There's surely nothing less sexy than Christian Grey's bizarre 'sex contract', with bullet points and legalese obscuring the hotness of the acts he wants to perform. Loads of people have pointed out that the idea of an irreversible, non-negotiable 'contract' is laughable in BDSM, and they're right – no one gets to claim you as their sub 'forever' or hold you to clauses once they've stopped being sexy for you. But on top of that, there are much better ways to negotiate what you want in a scene. Let's see what we've got...

How about this amazing kinky spanking scene starring Caroline Grey and Will Savage? After blagging their way into a fetish club, they realise they haven't a clue what they're doing. With subtle questions, gradual escalation, and some aroused feedback from Caroline, he escalates to a full-on, knickers-down, over the knee paddling. They both have an amazing – all while trying not to let on that this is the first time they've ever done it - and not a contract in sight.

Sweet and sexy first-time kink at Dreams of Spanking

Or perhaps this beautiful bit of negotiation between Nimue Allen and Andrew Shada? The pair are on their first date, and there's clearly a spark that will appeal to romance fans. Andrew's shyness and Nimue's encouraging requests for a spanking are both cute and incredibly relateable. If Nimue can ask her beau for what she wants, so can you.

2. It's all consensual

I mean, this one should really go without saying. But the point I mainly want to make here is that, because Dreams of Spanking fulfils fantasies via roleplay, it has a broad scope to enact darker fantasies in an ethical, consensual way.

Scenes that involve an abuse of power or a particularly severe thrashing are always published with behind the scenes interviews and discussion. 50 Shades doesn't come with a separate interview in which Christian and Ana talk about how his abusive behaviour was just play-acting, and so it's much harder to draw the line between which aspects of a fantasy are hot because you'd never want them to happen for real, and which are things you'd like to do in real life. At Dreams of Spanking, we're able to make that distinction clear.

Edgy tawse punishment fantasy brought to life at Dreams of Spanking

3. We switch it up

I read a lot of kinky erotica and watch a fair amount of porn, and one of the themes I often think about is the idea of roles. You play Christian Grey, I play Ana, and never the twain shall switch. But while there's certainly a place for strict roles that never waver, I love a bit of switching. Spanking someone who's going to spank you next adds a whole level of trust, as well as a frisson of sexy tension – if you spank them hard, are they going to get their own back? Not to mention a chance for some non-verbal negotiation as you show them exactly how you like it.

In 'Prove your Love' Michael Darling and Pandora Blake do one of the most balanced switch scenes I've ever seen, and in 'Beat the Recession', Nimue Allen and Sebastian Hawley take turns to spank each other on a money-saving celebratory night in. The best part of the second video, in my humble and pervy opinion, is when Nimue smacks both palms flat on Sebastian's beautifully-presented bottom.

Cute girls and boys spanking each other at Dreams of Spanking

4. Our romance is just more... interesting

Guy meets girl, guy wines and dines her, stalks her until she says yes and then they shag: as the premise of pretty much every mainstream romance ever, it's not exactly original. How about guy meets girl, girl gets a birch for Christmas and asks him to test it on her? Or perhaps guy meets girl, girl has hot fantasy about being a mistreated maidservant, and he surprises her on a Saturday morning by dressing up in period costume - and bringing a cane?

There's a time and a place for more traditional romance, of course – although you'll never see the “stalking is sexy” theme on Dreams of Spanking. One of my personal favourite photosets is Tangled With You – a stunning explicit gallery with Pandora and D being so hot and horny for each other it burns into every image. Which brings me neatly onto point five...

Real life couples in love and lust at Dreams of Spanking

5. Our cast has chemistry

A couple of people have told me disdainfully that Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson (who play Christian and Ana in the 50 Shades of Grey film adaptation) don't really like each other that much. I don't know if this is true – to be honest I think I'd struggle to spend months working with someone I didn't like, so I doubt it. On the other hand, perhaps they've been put under so much pressure to capture a 'spark' that they're sick of the sight of each other by now. Either way, there's an easy way to get around the 'chemistry' issue when you're shooting porn: find people who really fancy each other, and ask them what they really want to do.

Dreams of Spanking scenes and ideas come from all manner of places, but the most vital is the performer fantasy element. When the people acting in a scene can help shape it with their own kinks and desires, what comes through is inevitably going to be natural and hot.

A giggly pleasurable caning for Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

A beautiful example of this is Pandora's giggly caning at the hands of Paul Kennedy (who, by the way, I have a gigantic crush on). Not only is it something she's specifically requested, but it's so clear from her sexy sighs and excited giggles that Paul's catering to a genuine and heartfelt desire. Likewise with the gorgeous double caning that she begs from Nimue Allen and Thomas Cameron – you can watch the bliss suffuse her face as she counts out the strokes with audible pleasure, and moans in delight when she gets a bottom rub in between whacks.

What's more, Dreams of Spanking shoots porn performer couples like David Weston and Talia Lane, who are together in real life as well as on camera. In scenes like our latest Valentine's Day spanking special David and Talia just can't hide their natural flirty dynamic. And why would we want them to?

Sensuous real couple switch spanking at Dreams of Spanking

In case you'd reached the end of this and hadn't realised, every single link above goes to a different Dreams of Spanking scene. If you watched each scene, that'd still be less than 5% of what's available on the entire site. So if you're eschewing the cinema this weekend, grab yourself a subscription and have a rummage through our archive. All our films are downloadable, so once you've got them they're yours to keep forever, and watch whenever you like!

What changed in 2014?

Another year has gone by, and on 23rd December 2014 Dreams of Spanking celebrated its third birthday. Three years is a coming of age for a new business - the point at which you stop being a start-up and become established. If you haven't made it by the end of year three, you aren't going to make it. Happily, after our profitable first year, sales have been steadily increasing and we're going from strength to strength. It's time to look back on the year just gone and take stock. Here are ten ways in which Dreams of Spanking changed and improved in 2014.

1. Saying hello to Girl on the Net

In March we added sex blogger Girl on the Net to our team, and since then she has been writing all the copy for our spanking scenes and free hosted galleries, as well as being a regular contributor to this blog and our twitter stream. She puts up with me sending her pieces at the last possible minute, and is remarkably patient about working around my irregular schedule - while always staying friendly, cheerful and professional. It's a pleasure to work with her, and her advice on marketing, advertising and SEO has been incredibly useful. She's become an invaluable presence behind the scenes.

Girl on the Net: Dreams of Spanking, Marketing Manager

I commented a while ago that I would gladly pay Girl on the Net just to write nice things about my work and send them to me every week. Not only do I get the ego boost of a writer I admire providing regular positive feedback on my creations, it also means I'm freed from the emotionally exhausting labour of marketing my own porn. I hadn't realised how much it was costing me until I stopped. I think most creatives resent having to sell their work, and would much rather spend their energy making more art instead. Since hiring Girl on the Net, I have had more creative energy to spend on film-making, editing, business development and activism - and my quality of life, wellbeing and business success have been all the better for it.

2. Handing over photo editing to AJ Levi

Around the same time, I started handing over photo editing duties to my amazing executive assistant AJ Levi. It was a wrench - I'm a massive control freak, which isn't a great trait in a manager, but AJ has handled the transition with grace and skill. She has edited every photoset published since her debut gallery Introducing Alexander - 44 in total by my count. Over the last few months, as she's proved that I can trust her with the all-important visual imagery on the site, she has taken on more and more of the work. She now selects which photos from any given shoot will be published, edits them (including the behind the scenes photos), chooses preview images, creates thumbnails, handles the data entry in the CMS and creates new free hosted galleries for our affiliates. Not only that, but AJ has just started handling our updates on Clips4Sale and Spanking Library.

AJ Levi: Dreams of Spanking, Images and Communications Manager

Add in her regular responsibilities with tech support, processing payments, answering emails and keeping the site organised and it's an impressive list. AJ has an amazing eye, and you only need to look at her recent galleries (such as Sing, Muse) to see that she is an artist when it comes to photo editing. She is consistent, dependable and continues to surprise me with her technical and creative skill. Hiring her was a coming-of-age moment for the business, and now I honestly don't know what I'd do without her.

3. Saying goodbye to Thomas Cameron

I haven't written about this yet publically, but in March 2014, with regret, I ended my romantic relationship with Thomas Cameron. We had been together for nearly a decade. It was my decision in the end, and not one I made lightly. Times change, and our lives had been moving in different directions for several years. I eventually found the courage to accept that it was time to move on.

The break-up was amicable, and afterwards Tom continued working for Dreams of Spanking behind the scenes, updating the clips stores and affiliate galleries. It was only a few weeks ago that, looking at the finances and the logistics of liaising with three different freelancers on a tight weekly update schedule, I made the decision to hand over his duties to AJ in order to keep things more streamlined.

Thomas was a huge presence in my early adult life and in the development of this website, and I can honestly say that Dreams of Spanking would not exist without him. He provided inspiration, support, enormous stage presence and acting skill, and a huge number of scene ideas - from the first embryonic inkling that I wanted to produce my own content, to the launch of the site three years ago. He was instrumental in launching my career as a spanking model, and in encouraging me to start producing my own films. He was my dominant, spanker and top for many years. My spanking kink was greatly influenced by his taste and personality.

Thomas Cameron - The Storyteller, at Dreams of Spanking

Tom let me move in above the real ale pub he managed in 2010 and 2011, refurbish it with decor that would look good in spanking films, and trade work for his business for a place to live, work and shoot. The scenes we shot together were a core part of this site's launch content, and the work we did together that year made launching this site possible. Tom's skills as a performer, top, scene writer and consulting historian raised the bar of the UK spanking industry and made an indelible impression on the development of my style. I will always be grateful to Tom for his contributions to my personal life, my spanking career and to Dreams of Spanking.

4. More behind the scenes content

A direct consequence of bringing AJ and Girl on the Net on board is that 2014 was the year I had time to edit more behind the scenes content. In the first two years of the business, struggling to keep on top of all these responsibilities single-handedly, I simply didn't have time to do everything. Editing behind the scenes videos was a job that often got dropped in busy weeks, and I never had time to go back and catch up.

In the last year behind the scenes content has been a priority, and more scenes than ever now feature candid making-of videos, hilarious out-takes, performer interviews and behind the scenes image galleries. Not only do the image gallery feature candid photos taken on set, but I've also started adding hand-picked screengrabs from the behind the scenes videos. If you like to reassure yourself that an edgy spanking video was produced ethically and consensually, look no further.

Behind the scenes on an ethical porn set at Dreams of Spanking

5. HTML5 video

2014 was the year that we upgraded our streaming video player from a Flash popup streaming .flv files to embedded HTML5 video streaming MP4 files. Better video quality, better usability, better cross-browser and cross-device compatibility. Better for everyone.

In theory, HTML5 video should even work on mobiles and tablets, although I've had reports from some users that it's not playing for them. Following on from this development, I've made a personal commitment that 2015 is going to be the year we finally get our website and streaming video player fully operational across all mobile devices.

6. Recurring memberships and Mastercard payments

In January, D extended our back-end code so we could offer you the option of recurring memberships for the first time - a real milestone. And in June, a year after CCBill slapped an extortionate annual fee onto porn sites that wanted to accept Mastercard payments, I decided we could afford it, and we started accepting Mastercard payments again - making it easier for you to support ethical porn by buying a site membership. Finally!

7. More transgender performers

2014 was the year we added two new out-and-proud transgender performers to our cast - world famous queer porn star James Darling, and budding UK newcomer Ron Beastly. In the past, trans porn performers often kept quiet about it for fear that being open about their gender history would make their work less popular or make them targets for abuse. Although transgender people still suffer from appalling and unacceptable stigma and violence worldwide, it's wonderful to see an attitude change start to ripple across the online community which is more accepting of non-binry identities and transgender bodies. This is no small part thanks to queer porn, which has centered trans bodies from the beginning.

FTM queer porn star James Darling spanked by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking FTM queer porn star Ron Beastly spanked by Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

The next step is for us to make a pro-active effort to expand our cast to include some hot transgender women. I've already had exciting talks with a number of suitable performers. The only limiting factor is that a number of them are in the US or Canada, and so shooting will have to fit around my international travel schedule.

8. More performers of colour

In 2014 we uploaded three new scenes starring stunning UK porn star Lola Marie, and we shot not once but twice with brand new spankee David Weston, who is (as far as I know) the first ever black male spankee to make a name for himself in the UK. Mind you, given how few fetish sites name or celebrate their male sub performers, he hasn't had much competition.

Lola Marie spanked in bloomers by her strict Victorian headmistress at Dreams of Spanking Introducing male spankee David Weston to Dreams of Spanking

Of course, we still have a long way to go - two exceptions to a mostly white cast is nowhere near enough, and we're looking forward to making new connections and improving the chromatic and gender diversity of our cast further in 2015.

9. Consent, consent, consent

2014 was the year the conversation about ethical porn and showing consent behind the scenes started to take off - from my talk on establishing consent in kinky porn at the Feminist Porn Conference in April to Zoe Williams' guardian article in November. It was also the year that UK legislators showed just how out of touch they are by making a whole swathe of consensual acts illegal to depict in UK-produced online porn.

The Sword of Damocles is still hanging over our heads, in that at any time in 2015 we might receive an initial letter from ATVOD demanding us to comply with these regulations - which we intend to refuse to do, thereby kicking off a lengthy and expensive court battle. But in the meantime we have no intention of stopping producing, and we won't be limited by these regulations and self-censor when filming new content in 2015. What we can do is take additional steps to demonstrate the consent and well-being of performers on all our shoots. Previously, consent was established in contextual behind the scenes materials and links surrounding the main fantasy film. Since these regulations came into force at the start of December, we have brought some of this context into the main feature, so that even if a particular film is watched in isolation, outside the context in which it was originally published, performer consent will still be explicit.

Five weeks into this new system, I'm increasingly seeing the positive side of this method of publishing feminist kinky porn. It centres performer consent in every production, sends a strong message about ethical porn, and as an added bonus, it brings the behind the scenes content to the front of my editing process, making it even easier to get out-takes videos and performer interviews ready for publication alongside every spanking film.

10. Best Spanking Site 2014?

Dreams of Spanking collected some impressive kudos in 2014, including this glowing review by My Sex Porn and lots of love during sex blogger spanking month. It was a good year for our mainstream press profile, too: as well as the Guardian feature on ethical porn, we were mentioned in The Sun and BBC News.

The Loose Hem was nominated for a Feminist Porn Award, and we were in the running for Honoured Website second year running. Also in 2014, My Inner Little Girl was screened at Cinekink film festival, and Instructed, our collaborative film with Ms Naughty, was screened at the Berlin Porn Film Festival.

We've taken a lot of runner-up prizes in the Spanking Awards 2014 hosted by SpankingBlogg, with this blog coming second in the News Blog category, my personal blog Spanked, Not Silenced coming second in the Creative Blog category, and me coming in third as Best Female Spanker and Best Female Spankee 2014. I was the only person to qualify in both categories, so I guess that makes me a jill of all trades. I'm happy with that!

Female Spankee of 2014

Winner: Alex Reynolds

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Runner Up: Amelia Jane Rutherford

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3rd: Pandora Blake

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Full results can be seen HERE

Female Spanker of 2014

Winner – Sarah Gregory

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Sarah has topped at many sites but check out her own at SarahGregorySpanking.com

Runner Up – Dana Kane

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Dana has topped at many sites but check out her own at DanaKaneSpanks.com

& 2nd (very close) Runner Up – Pandora Blake

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Pandora features at many sites but check out her own DreamsofSpanking.com

Congrats to Alex Reynolds, Amelia Jane Rutherford, Sarah Gregory and Dana Kane on their wins - you deserve it, and I couldn't be in better company!

The award I really care about though is Best Spanking Site 2014 - and I'm thrilled that Dreams of Spanking is in the running. After all our performers' hard work in this last year it would mean a lot if we could get the top spot, so please do head to their page and vote for us!

Vote for Dreams of Spanking in the Spanking Awards 2014!

Leia-Ann Woods bends over for the cane

A while ago Pandora and I were discussing the best positions for caning. She told me that one position is usually the most popular among Dreams of Spanking viewers: "bend over and touch your toes.'

Strict caning for submissive secretary Leia-Ann Woods at Dreams of Spanking

Whether it's the view of someone's bottom, vulnerable and exposed, or the feeling of your own bum stretched tight and waiting for the crack of the cane, somehow there's something about this particular position that's incredibly arousing.

If you're one for whom the phrase 'bend over and touch your toes' sends filthy-hot shivers down your spine, you'll probably be a fan of our latest spanking film. Leia-Ann Woods plays a submissive secretary being trained by her cruel boss Thomas Cameron. She has been with him for over a week already - and is doing her best to remain obedient under the stress of his exacting regime.

Strict caning for submissive secretary Leia-Ann Woods at Dreams of Spanking Strict caning for submissive secretary Leia-Ann Woods at Dreams of Spanking

He begins each day with an intrusive inspection, running his hands all over her, and examining the way she is wearing her tight-laced corset, tight pencil skirt, fully fashioned stockings and suspenders – a very traditional and deeply hot uniform for a BDSM submissive secretary.

As you'd expect, Mr Cameron is keen to find fault with poor Leia. She is subjected to twelve strokes every morning as a matter of course, simply to keep her on her toes - or touching them. Today, he finds six reasons to add additional strokes to her regular morning punishment, taking the total to an eye-watering eighteen. Leia tries not to show her fear as he tells her to assume the position for the cane.

Strict caning for submissive secretary Leia-Ann Woods at Dreams of Spanking

Personally, I struggle with the touching-toes position. I love the feeling of vulnerability that it brings, being so exposed and so reliant on my own self-discipline - using my own strength of body and mind to hold the position so I don't topple over. But then the strokes fall, one after the other, and I wobble, and tense up, and grit my teeth, and it becomes harder and harder not to break position.

Touching my toes seems easy when I first do it, but as the pain accumulates and the heat and sting of the welts layering across my upturned bottom grow stronger, my muscles start to tremble and I worry that I'll either fall forward or – worse – involuntarily straighten up and earn myself extra strokes.

It's much easier if you're told to bend over a desk, the back of a chair, or even lie face-down on the bed to receive a beating. But then - as Leia-Ann's determined poise and Thomas Cameron's calm perfectionism show - a thorough caning isn't about what's easy, is it? It's about punishment.

Strict caning for submissive secretary Leia-Ann Woods at Dreams of Spanking

I find it difficult to stay in position touching my toes at the best of times. Wearing a tightly laced corset, hobble skirt and high stiletto heels like Leia-Ann in this film, I would find it nearly impossible. Leia is justly famed among spanking fans for her grace and elegance, whether she is administering a thrashing or receiving one. But if you want to know just how poised she can be, even through the stress of eighteen searing cane strokes, watch Day Ten of her Training and find out.

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Sex blogger spanking month, and other links around the web

I'm never quite sure whether summer is a good time to be selling porn or not - a lot of people are on holiday enjoying good clean fun (or perhaps indulging in some real-world kink or sex), and far be it from me to try to lure people back indoors out of the sunshine to watch a screen. Still, school is long behind us and we don't all get to take the whole summer off any more- more's the pity! - so I guess there is still a need for erotic spanking entertainment to amuse discerning adults on summer evenings. (And perhaps afternoons. And maybe even mornings, if you're keen...)

So I've been surprised at how many mentions I've seen of our films around different corners of the web this month. Do people still watch spanking video and write blogposts when it's 30° centigrade outside? Apparently so - and here are the reviews to prove it.

Femdom Resource - Ethical Erotica

I don't know the person behind Femdom Resource, but I was delighted to hear them pick out Dreams of Spanking in a discussion on ethical and fairtrade porn. They particularly like our mix of male and female spankees, illustrating the post with a photo from male-female switch spanking scene Corporal Punishment: "There’s a variety of gender combinations which I think makes for a pleasant change. Personally I can admire all manner of well reddened bottoms."

Corporal punishment - M/F and F/M switch spanking scenes at Dreams of Spanking

Spanking Blog - The best way to tame Bridezilla

I'm a huge fan of Molly and Nimue's first scene together, and it seems that so is the Spanking Blog. In Bridezilla, Molly plays the perfect truculent bride brought to tearful humility by her mistreated maid of honour. The chemistry between the two performers absolutely crackles, the acting is fantastic and the spankings are well delivered. And Molly's classic beauty as she bends over for the cane in bridal lingerie doesn't hurt, either.

Out-of-control bride Molly Malone gets the cane at Dreams of Spanking

Lady Laid Bare - The Big Dreams of Spanking Review

Apparently it's spanking month in certain corners of the sex blogosphere, and several bloggers are celebrating with spanking-themed posts. I'm very honoured that some have chosen to include reviews of Dreams of Spanking. Lady Laid Bare has written a number of posts so far, each focussing on particular scenes, and I particularly enjoyed the second, in which she takes a close look at our rollicking Napoleonic War series Havelock's Campaign.

Like me, Lady Laid Bare has an appreciative eye for both male and female spankees, and her reviews take a balanced look across the board of our gender categories. I loved reading how much she'd enjoyed both the M/F and the M/M punishment in Havelock's Campaign - she writes, "One of the best kinds of porn is the kind that makes you feel things you didn’t know you wanted to feel. And this scene did exactly that – it made me feel joy."

The Major and the wench - historical military punishment at Dreams of Spanking

Check out the rest of her posts too - in The big Dreams of Spanking review - part one she watches Lady Godivapart three looks at wet spankings, namely Bathtime and The Waterfight; and her fourth and most recent review focuses on strict governesses, particularly Zoe Montana in The Whipping Boy and me in David's Strict Governess.

Bawdy Bloke - Review: DreamsOfSpanking.com

Lady Laid Bare took a close look at some individual scenes, following the tag trail back through our archive. Another sex blogger joining in with spanking month is Bawdy Bloke, who has produced a comprehensive review of the site as a whole. He seemed to like what he saw, and particularly praised the production values, the site navigation and keyword search page, and the behind the scenes videos that show just how much fun the performers have on set. Thank you Bawdy Bloke!

Even more excitingly, he is also offering a free Dreams of Spanking membership in a prize draw - click here and enter your name to be in with a change of winning a thirty day subscription.

Rebloggy - real love

It seems we're not the only ones who love art nude erotica featuring tattoos, hair pulling, and real couples with sizzling sexual chemistry. Our tumblr post sharing a photo from Tangled has been reblogged 3,534 times and counting. That's a lot of reblogs!

Tangled With You - erotic dominance and submission at Dreams of Spanking

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