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Positive spanking, self-determined submission

It's nearly time for our next video shoot, an F/M day with Sebastian Hawley and Nimue Allen this Wednesday, and I haven't told you about the last one yet. Time I caught up! Tom, Nimue and I got together at the house of Dodgy Dave (who is absolutely lovely, and only dodgy in the best of ways) for a day of M/F scenes, with one F/F scenario thrown in for luck.

It wasn't deliberate, but the theme of the day ended up being positive spanking; beneficial and therapeutic spanking; spanking for self-improvement - including several scenes led or directed by the spankee. One of my big interests at the moment is the intersection between dominance and submission - that is, who takes control and who surrenders it - and topping and bottoming, ie who administers and who receives the spanking. Traditionally of course the dominant partner is also the top, but that is by no means necessary.

Within sadism, masochism, topping, bottoming, dominance and submission one set of roles is usually conflated, but the reality of human relationships is often far more complicated. Scenes in which the top or spanker is playing their part submissively, in deference to the wishes of their spankee, are fascinating to me right now.

I feel that Nimue and I have a lot in common; both recent owners of spanking/kink membership sites, both historically submissive, but now switches coming into our top or dominant personas. I don't really identify as dominant even when I'm topping (although in many ways I'm dominant in my day to day life and could perhaps be described as an alpha personality type). Nimue, however, is increasingly coming into her own as a comfortably dominant individual, even when she's bottoming, and as such she was the perfect casting to explore this sort of dynamic. Although Tom does not enjoy switching, I was very grateful to him for indulging me and stretching his acting skills by being willing to play the "subservient spanker" role that goes with it.

Three of the scenes we filmed that day have already been published, so I'll start with those.

Pandora gets an over-the-knee spanking at bedtime at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora gets an over-the-knee spanking at bedtime at Dreams of Spanking Pandora gets an over-the-knee spanking at bedtime at Dreams of Spanking

The first scene of the day was a straightforward domestic discipline scenario: just a sweet, simple, bedtime spanking in pyjamas. I deliberately wanted to leave it ambiguous as to whether Tom and I were portraying domestic discipline between a couple, an age play scene or a guardian/ward fantasy, so we kept it light on dialogue. Still, I think there's a lot of unspoken communication in this scene, and the result is a lovely, positive, affectionate little film which shows a very thorough spanking. This exactly the sort of spanking I often find myself craving, and when I'm lucky enough to get one it does me the world of good.

 

Nimue spanked and paddled in the office at Dreams of Spanking

Nimue spanked and paddled in the office at Dreams of Spanking Nimue spanked and paddled in the office at Dreams of Spanking

Office Assistance plays explicitly with the idea of complex power roles. Tom and Nimue portray a spanko couple who work from home. Nimue benefits from Tom's regular visits to her office - and, when needed, on-the-spot discipline - to help her stay on top of her workload.

At first this might seem to be a standard boss/secretary scene, but which is the boss, and which the secretary?

 

Pandora Blake asks for a double caning at Dreams of Spanking

Our newest update was shot right at the end of the day; a candid, out of character scene in which I asked Tom and Nimue, a right-hander and a left-hander respectively, to give me a double caning. No roleplay, just three corporal punishment enthusiasts doing what they do best.

It was lovely to have the attentions of two delightful tops simultaneously, but the caning was hard, and without the psychological defense of a character to play I definitely struggled with it in places. The resulting film is an intimate little portrait of the experience of taking a hard caning, the fears and joys, highs and lows.

Pandora Blake asks for a double caning at Dreams of Spanking
Pre-caning nerves
 
Pandora Blake asks for a double caning at Dreams of Spanking
Processing the pain
 
Pandora Blake asks for a double caning at Dreams of Spanking
Fuck that hurt!
 
Pandora Blake asks for a double caning at Dreams of Spanking
Blissed out between strokes
 

 

I won't say too much about the other four films we shot, just share some preview images with you:

Pandora Blake gives Nimue a caning over skintight jeans at Dreams of Spanking Pandora Blake gives Nimue a caning over skintight jeans at Dreams of Spanking

Nimue and I re-enacting a real-life encounter between myself and Jacqueline in "Essay Help"

 

Pandora Blake takes a hard OTK school punishment at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora Blake takes a hard OTK school punishment at Dreams of Spanking Pandora Blake takes a hard OTK school punishment at Dreams of Spanking

A traditional - and very intense - schoolgirl punishment in "Only His Hand"

 

Pandora Blake visits a professional disciplinarian at Dreams of Spanking

Pandora Blake visits a professional disciplinarian at Dreams of Spanking Pandora Blake visits a professional disciplinarian at Dreams of Spanking

Taken by my girlfriend to visit a Professional Disciplinarian

 

Lady Nimue orders her footman to give her a sound thrashing at Dreams of Spanking

Lady Nimue orders her footman to give her a sound thrashing at Dreams of Spanking Lady Nimue orders her footman to give her a sound thrashing at Dreams of Spanking

Finally, in my favourite scene of the day, the lady of the manor orders her footman to cater to her eccentric whims in "Milady's Pleasure". This one was absolutely brilliant from my point of view; I felt like the big kid in the playground who gets to decide the games and tell the other kids what to do.

Both Nimue and Tom seemed to enjoy themselves too, and in terms of physical severity they took this scene far harder than I expected, with Nimue urging Tom to beat her harder and longer with the dense, springy riding crop. By the end her bottom was quite dramatically marked:

Nimue's marked bottom after a severe whipping at Dreams of Spanking

Those last two photos are from Nimue's blog post about the shoot, the first taken immediately after we finished filming, and the second one 36 hours later. I love them, because I have a massive kink for marks and bruises.

I felt very secure working with Nimue and trusting her to take the scene exactly as far as she wanted to, and no further. So I can enjoy the severe bruising she took away with her, safe in the knowledge that she enjoyed it just as much!

You can see much more of Nimue in both her dom and sub roles on her site Nimue's World.

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